Finally Understanding It A Little....

[backagain]

hello all...

 

well i've been doing alot of thinking on my own....if you have read any of my posts, you know i am having a little bit (maybe alot) of difficulty getting past a breakup (now we're back together) and all the little details when we were broken up....

 

I find myself not allowing myself to forget, on a conscious level. If i find myself enjoying and really getting back into the relationship with the girlfriend, a part of me stops myself and says "remember this is what happened, and remember what you felt like...." and then i pull away, and be distant. I found myself not trusting the girlfriend, even though she is really trying...i find myself doubting her words (because of what happened)...and i find myself finding lies and deceits in the smallest things (things that could of just been simply forgotten by her, i find myself analyze into that...).

 

but...i've been doing alot of thinking, and going through a sh*t load of uneasiness and unhappiness.....i realize it comes down to one question....do i want to be with her? if i do...do i want to forgive? her and everyone that was somehow involved in the breakup? and forgive all the things that were said?.....it really just came down to it.....i gotta forgive, but not forget.....

 

so i pray for the strength to forgive....

[justme1]

Forgiving is a positive step...

Don't file away all of the PAST problems and then go back into your filing cabinet and examine them...

 

You need to deal with what is happening now, the present. Should something alert you to leave...then leave. Don't dwell on the past.

Forgive...if it happens again...move on.

[robowarrior]

Everyone deserves at least one chance, and you need to give yourself a chance too if you want to continue living. Just don't go into a relationship thinking , it will work out because its 'my case' , reality is that a woman can pack her bags and leave anyday. A relationship is all about being together, and letting eachother do their own thing, avoiding arguments that act as poison in the relationship eventually leading to break ups, and only put love and light into the relationship on a continues basis.