Its so hard to let go

[Riggz41510]

How the hell do I get to a point where I can let go, when the wound is constantly re-opened? Between having to see her for the kids sake and extracurricular activities, I cant' shake her.

 

When we are sitting at one of my kids extracurricular activities it feels like we are still a family.. Its so freaking hard.. I have said it all to her and she just blows me off.. I wish I could get a chance to heal on my own.. A chance to do NC for real..

 

I hate all this technology, just because you can share your thoughts and feelings with a person with just the tip of your finger. I bet it probably was easier to let go of someone before all this technology came into play..

 

I miss her and the kids so much.. I have no appetite.. I can't focus on nothing.. I sent her texts I know its not good, but damn you feel like; if I just say this one last thing she will change her mind.. I keep thinking back to all the promises and plans we had for the future.. I think back to when I was trying to let her go and how I was still open to talk to her and here her pain, even though she hurt me(she left me)

 

I'm lost, I don't know where to look for love??

[robowarrior]

The only thing realistic is the realisation that its over between you two. Even if you are still bleeding , you have to move on. If i where you id get another gf and start a new relationship and just be there for the kids, not for her. What else can you do? I mean dwelling over things that you can't change is pointless, love has got to go both ways to make things work out, and if its not working then its important that you put a point behind her, but not behind the kids. The only thing you can do is try to 'reduce' the amounts of times you see her and having contact, while not neglecting your kids, and give them the fulllest of full attention that they deserve and need. You can't force someone to love you, so stop trying. Stop investing effor in her, instead redirect that all to the kids ok?

[Hyperia81]

Acceptance, you have to accept what has happened and not think of ways to cover it up with nice thoughts and hopes that she will change her mind. Believe that there was no other possible way it could have happened and truly accept it in your mind. Time will eventually heal your pain and new love will come along, its something hard to imagine but its the natural course of life that we all follow.

 

Take some time by yourself and organize your thoughts and re-analyze your life from a new standpoint. Your single now, think of the endless amounts of possibilities for happiness you can achieve but everyday you prolong it by dwelling on someone not worth your time anymore.

 

Its not going to be easy but think of other hard times you have suffered in your life and remember how you overcame them. Life goes on, with or without you, why not go on with a positive outlook- its essentially all we can really do