Two roads diverged

[nadine_3110]

Ok, so some of you might have heard this before, it's a really tough decision. The ex wants to meet with me and talk again. He told my best friend that all he wants is to be with me again (his first straight answer in awhile). But then there's the other guy, I went out with him once, nothing happened, just talked a bit, but I felt like he had to know that the ex was back in my life, I didn't want to string him along if I wasn't sure. So if I go with the ex, I'll feel really bad for the other guy, if I go with the other guy, I think I'll always long for the ex. So the question is, which is better?

[southerngirl]

if I go with the other guy, I think I'll always long for the ex. So the question is, which is better?

 

There is your answer follow your heart.

[nadine_3110]

But how do you know what your heart tells you, I try to listen but I can't seem to make out the name it whispers...

[crvers]

Their really isn't a better choice in this. Follow your heart. To me it sounds like u already made ur decision, your just looking for someone to give you the small push.

 

When u fall asleep who do u think of? When u wake who do u think of? When you sit alone who wanders in and out of your mind?

 

The question should be to yourself: If we got back together, do I see a future?...if u rekindle u have to try and fix the problems that plagued the relationship in the first place if your going to make it work.

 

Oh and make the choice based on you, and not how another party will feel. Basing it on soemones else feeling won't solve anything.

[southerngirl]

Well, if you dont follow it and you close the door before its finished with the ex, you may allways wonder. Unfinished business makes it harder to move onward into any new relationships. Either you want to be with him or you dont. IF you do then drop the new guy. If you dont then tell him you dont... BUT the new guy should not effect the decision.

[Goodfun88]

I think its pretty obvious you want to try and get back with your ex. You are kind of feeling guilty though that you know the other guy likes you and has been there for you. You probably really like him and respect him, but theres just no chemistry there, didn't you say yesterday you couldn't even imagine holding his hand? Keep him as a friend for now, and explore the possiblities of getting back with your ex. And don't forget to study for your exams! Haha! Good luck!

[ocrob]

Besides wanting to be with your ex, you should reflect back on your relationship. What were the reasons for the break up? Was it a good relationship? Did he treat you well? If things were not good, then realize they will probably go back to the way the were after some time. If you are still crazy about the ex, then I would meet with him and see where it goes.

[nadine_3110]

He treated me with the utmost respect, never forced himself on me, he made me feel really good about myself, that's why I had such a hard time letting go, no one has ever made me feel like that before. And he was my first bf, so never had I felt such affection. The reason he broke it off was because I was 17, unexperienced (inlife, not as in sexually) and he felt like we were going nowhere. Now he told my best friend that he realizes that I was the best gf he ever had.

[southerngirl]

How old is he?

[nadine_3110]

I'm 18 now, since October and he's turning 20 in July, it's not that I was too young for him, it's that emotionally, I wasn't where he was. Now I am, I've gained life experience, a lot of it, since we broke up (6 months ago). and i've changed a lot...