langford Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 what do you do if you are extremely inconsistent with your feelings/emotions? How normal is it to like someone one day and not like them the next day??? I also find I can love someone and then feel nothing for them a few days later? With all my boyfriends im in love with them "on and off" constantly,usually this leads to me cheating or just leaving/neglecting the relationship, I cant seem to be consistent at all and think I should not have relationships. I think i'm in love with someone,miss them etc,feel strongly about them,then a few days later dont care if I never see them again???? I told a close friend I liked him,then felt nothing for him,but it has completely ruined the friendship. Is there a way to be more consistant in my emotions so I dont keep ruining everything in my life?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SxcLady Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 Are you sure your not just thinking you are in love when you get close to somone? I love my best friend because he is like a brother to me. He knows everything. And I can tell him everything because we have the strong "love, respect, honesty and trust" that any brother and sister should have. With the boyfriends thing, I doubt you had fallen in love with them, if you were getting these feelings just a few days later. Think of these so called "strong" feelings as love to a friend. You feel close enough to love them, But not more than a friend. When it comes to boyfriends, Wait until you can go like ... a week with feeling that you are in love with him, before you say it to him. So that you know your feelings are not going to change just a few days later. With your friend, tell him you meant loved him as a brother/close friend (i think thats what you meant???). You can love people without wanting to be with them. GoodLuck! Love SL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goodfun88 Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 I'm not sure how old you are, but you don't seem to be ready for dating. Its unfair to treat people the way you are treating them. I'm sure you are eager to find love and get in a relationship, but right now you are doing more damage than anything else. Take some time away from dating and discover you and what you like, then you will be better off in the future and know what you want in a partner. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SxcLady Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 Good Question Goodfun88 .... how old are you langford? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brooding_Goddess Posted April 11, 2006 Share Posted April 11, 2006 Does that constitute as bipolar disorder as well? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
langford Posted April 12, 2006 Author Share Posted April 12, 2006 I'm 25! and have dated lots of people, I just dont seem to be able to be consistent with my feelings,they switch on and off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
langford Posted April 12, 2006 Author Share Posted April 12, 2006 With your friend, tell him you meant loved him as a brother/close friend (i think thats what you meant???). You can love people without wanting to be with them. I really really liked him as more than a friend,and thought i should tell him to get it off my chest and then later it felt like a big mistake and I took it back and didnt feel that way anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SxcLady Posted April 12, 2006 Share Posted April 12, 2006 Yes, but if your feelings are changing that fast, then how could you really like him more than a friend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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