Doesnt like making out anymore?

[Metalicsword]

Well, me and my gf have been dating for just over a year. In the beginning we would make out constantly. We would actually go rent movies, just so we could go upstairs and make out. I dont even remember what "Without a Paddle" was about.

 

But anyway, it kinda stopped happening, and im starting to miss it. We haven't really made out, had foreplay of any kind for about 6months. I asked her why she doesnt like making out anymore, and she tells me that she doesnt like it, and she really never did. But I remember the first time we made out, how she bragged about how much she liked it. She doesnt really like physical touching either. It kinda upsets me, and I think that could be the reason that I have such trust insecuritys with her. I highly doubt that she would cheat on me, but that cool little devil on my shoulder tells me otherwise.

 

It seems this is only a go to dinner, hang out, watch movies, and have sex whenever I can talk her into it, that sounds pathetic, but I feel its true.

 

I dont know if maybe she is seeing someone else and im her little f**k buddy on the side. If someone could help me out, that would be fantastic.

[Empathy]

It just seems to me that she's losing interest. She may not be cheating on you. You just need ask her straight up if she's losing interest in you. If you're a physical person and need a physical person to be with then she may not be the one for you. It may be time to move on if the issue can't be solved.

[MrDraw]

I'm almost in the same situation as you are at this moment.

I'm too in a relationship for about a year now, and, in short terms, no more sex. And just as you do, I too asked myself where this came from and what it's all about. Just like you, in the beginning we didn't even get upstairs but made out everywhere we could.

 

I realized that this, for me, wasn't the relationship I wanted.

So I talked to my GF about it. She explained to me that she just didn't like sex anymore, just like that. And no, she said, there was nothing wrong with me, it was her fault. Yeah like that would make me happy, it's her....!?

 

Well, anyways....,

Thus I started thinking about braking up with her. Been thinking that for about a month now, and at this time, I just don't know it just yet.

It's very difficult just to brake up only because of the whole "sex problem".

But I can't be in a relationship without sexuall affection. So I have to make a choice and believe me, so do you

 

If you find that sex is an important issue for you in a relationship, and you can't stand the touht of being in a relationship where there might or might not be "making out", then you have to make a choice. Just as I need to make that decision.

 

And while I'm writing this reply, and keep reading it over and over again, I know what I have to do. I'm breaking up very soon, because I don't wanna be in a relationship as where I'm in right now.

 

So maybe, when you think it over and maybe just put some words/thouhts on paper (like I did here) just maybe you could get to the right conclusion for your self.

 

I'm not telling you to brake up, that would be wrong to say. Just think it over and decide what you want.

 

I wish you all the best.

[Tigris]

I'm sorry but it looks to me like she's not interested in you anymore and by not making out she thinks you'll get sick and finish her so that she doesn't have to do it.

 

It's time to move on and find someone else.

 

Good luck

[coollady1957]

I agree that she surely seems to be losing interest in the relationship. Whether she is cheating or not??......... well she could be , or she could just not be that " into you" anymore. You should not have to talk someone into having sex with you. Something is just not right here.

 

Could be time for you two to have a long talk and if you cannot come to a conclusion to what is going on with her, it may be time to consider moving on.

[Metalicsword]

Thanks for all your guys replies. You pretty much just verified what I have been really considering. I want to pass it by her tho before I break up with her. Its been going on for a while, I dont know why she wouldnt have just said that she didnt want to be together a long time ago. But then again, I think its cause she doesnt want to lose a best friend.

[Metalicsword]

I just got finished talking with my gf, and she says that she is just like that and that no on in her family has ever liked doing that. So I dont know what to say. I think I am just going to end it gently as possible, and move on.

[KissMe_KillMe]

Okay so i am in the same situation but with my boyfriend... he used tro make out with me all the time and want to have sex all the time as well, but now it seems as if he dosent want to have sex all the time he wants it like 2 maybe 3 times a week. I mean he does show affection to me still and stuff. But sometimes i wonder if maybe being all over him makes him not want it as much..

HELP ME AS WELL.

[NJRon]

Lack of passion. When something is old and too easily available, it often becomes undesirable. How much creme brulee can you take?

 

Ease off on it. Spend less time together. Make them want it more. If they still don't, time to move on. The interest level has dropped too low.