try and solve this puzzle...

[tucker2583]

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[robowarrior]

Persistance is the key to succes, i believe that if you keep pursueding her that she eventually will give in. If your school is done, and you have time again, i would most definitly try to give it another shot, i mean it was just by the forces of pressure that you two where driven away from eachother, but trees can grow back together again in this case i believe.

[becallamjr]

I would talk to her and tell her that you would like to put the relationship on hold so you two can focus on school and then deal with that situation thereafter. Yes persistance could work here as well, but you and her would be adding even more pressure onto yourselves. It seems to me that the stress from school is making your relationship difficult so why not take a break and work on bringing it back to good after the pressures from school are gone?

[tucker2583]

thanks for your replies... but it still makes no sense to solving the puzzle. Our plan exactly were to take a break in the relationship when we both finished and see how things would go. Instead, now we are both suffering. We are both playing the NC game, so the first to strike might lose. Im not suffering as bad as i thought i would (been through this many times). ... I think the missing piece is that I went away for a long weekend and she was left alone without friends or family... that gave her time to think things over.. i think she figured that ending things before the mutual agreement would give her the upper hand... i just don't know... thats women for ya. hehehehe

[Jjasonn28]

Hi there.

 

I have to disagree a little with the above posts. In the lifespan of a relationship, there will be tension, and stress. Are we to take a break from the person whom we love every time a tough situation arises? I dont think so. Its my belief, that these bumps, roadblocks - whatever you want to call them - are just obstacles.

 

Dealing with them positively, constructively is the only way in my opinion to build stronger foundations and bridges. I would approach her with utter honesty. You two need to be open with eachother.

 

That is, of course, if both of you are happy with what you have. The on thing that stands out in your post however is this,

 

we both knew that this wasn't going to last forever.

 

Did your relationship have an expected expiry date? I dont think it is as easy as that. If you are starting to go through the stages of grief, then she obviously means more to you.

[tucker2583]

Didnt exactly have an experation date, but we both knew that the long distance thing was approaching and agreed to to take a break at that point; sort of a test. If it were meant, we would work things out, if not, then we would move on. Of course she means alot to me, and it bothers me that she wont talk to me.... she seems unwilling to work things out or to deal with our issue in a positive manner. .... thanks everyone, puzzle still not complete, but now I see what the puzzle is supposed to be. hehehee