My girlfriend is doing serious drugs and I am afraid.

[AzureSkyes69]

I was not sure what catagory to put this under but I think this is the correct one... here it goes.

I don't know what to do or how to stop her.She started last summer that I know of doing this particular drug,but I know for a fact that was not her first time.Through the fall and the winter up until now she has not done any.She askes for money sometimes and I don't want to enable her,but I have given in a couple of times.I feel this is seriously hurting our relationship.when she does this drug she does it everyday until it is gone.

I love her and I believe she is hurting herself as well as hurting me .She has lots of problems and isssues in her life and she is using drugs and alcohol to zone out and forget about everything..but when everything is said and done the problems are still going to be there.I think she should try and face them and get help.I told her she is on the path to self destruction,she thinks otherwise.I hate to see her doing this,when I bring it up she gets mad,sometimes she can be quite cruel with her words to me.I really love her and don't know what to do.It is her life and her body,but I can just sit there and watch.I admit I have tried the drug a couple of times myself with her,it was not my cup of tea it did nothing for me.The last time she got it she was mad cause she said she wasted her money and now she wants it again don't understand if she can go a whole fall & winter without it why does she need it or want it now?

Please help me I need advice to know what to say and do to help wake her up and get help.

[NJRon]

Unfortunately, when someone is hell bent on doing drugs, there is little you can do to help them other than making your thoughts known and hoping they get help. Short of bundling her up and taking her to a treatment facility, she needs to be the one to make her own decisions.

 

You should not enable it at all. that means no more money, no doing it when you're around, no being on it when you're aorund. If she persists, then you may need to just cut and run.

 

It's her life and there is little you can do except show yourself the respect you deserve. A little tough love is a lot more valuable in this circumstance than being taken advantage of. In the end, she may need to choose between you or her drug... that will give you a firm understanding of where you stand in her life.

[Mrocza]

I agree with NJRon.

Stop giving her the money.

 

Speak up about it.

Tell her you're not going to support her habit; you feel drugs are ruining her life and while it's her life and you know theres nothing you can say, you think she's better than that and you're disappointed in her.

 

If she doesn't listen, it will just get worse.

Drug usage never has a happy ending.

 

Talk to her family and if they agree, plan an intervention.

[AzureSkyes69]

no it is coke..

[Mrocza]

Plan an intervention.

 

She needs to get it together before it's too late. If you care for her, you'll push her to do it.

[tylercdurden2004]

no it is coke..

 

Coke is a slippery slope. Its one of those drugs that is highly addictive physically and especailly if she is using it to escape from reality. I personally dont have a problem wiht people experimenting and its really up to people what they do as long as it is not negatively affecting others. Some people are able to experiment and enjoy the drugs they choose and others arent. All you can really do is talk to her and try to figure out if she is meerly experimenting, in this case acting liek a procecuting attorney will only make her tune you out. If you suspect as it sounds like you do that she is doing it to tune out reality I would seriously sit her down and try to show her just how bad the end results of drug abuse can effect her life ie. work life, personal life, health. Mayeb suggest she talk to a professional but trying to force her into counselling will only push her away.