in deep dodo again!!!!

[shiminimo]

why are guys suppose to make their s/o birthdays and anniversary special? what if i don't know what to get her, or what to do. and if i don't do anything i get into deep dodo.

[SeaBisquit]

because guys always forget.

[annie24]

I don't know - I'm just wired that way. I'm really into birthdays. I bake cakes or cookies for all my coworkers on their birthdays. I would feel really bad if my bf forgot.

 

How long have you been dating her? What is the occasion? maybe we can offer suggestions. I think you can't go wrong with flowers and a nice dinner out.

[robowarrior]

Girls are into 'datums' , while guys are into daily events.

 

Its not uncommon for a guy to forget birthdays, anniversery's or even the day when they married, this absolutely infuriates woman, but for men its actually completely normal. Men remember 'different' things as they are wired more for technical stuff.

[Süsser Tod]

I hate my birthday, honestly, and don't really care for others birthdays. Yes, I've been to several bday parties, but I can't think of bdays as anything more than a lame excuse to party.

 

Anniversary, that I do remember, I keep on counting my lucky days and how long that special person has made me happy.

 

Ha! I had always hated Valentines day, it had always been the absolute worse day in the year for me (well, maybe a tie between valentines and my bday), but my gf's bday is february 14... Yes, basically a nightmare, don't know what I'm going to do next year...

 

Sorry, ranted but didn't went to the point. I barely have a clue what day I live in, so don't ask me to remember that tomorrow is April 6, even less, to remember what happened that day.

[shes2smart]

why are guys suppose to make their s/o birthdays and anniversary special? what if i don't know what to get her, or what to do. and if i don't do anything i get into deep dodo.

 

Well, I don't think they're "supposed" to do anything. I think it's got everything to do with the specific female you're involved with. If she expects a big to-do, you've got 2 basic choices - try to give her what she's expecting or do nothing.

 

Any guy I've been involved with has been specifically told *NOT* to make a big deal out of birthdays/anniversaries/holidays. I don't go in for that stuff and I never have. Heck, if someone asks me when I got married, I have to think a minute...even though we got married right before a holiday! (4th of July, if anyone cares...) I'd rather be surprised with a little something on a random day just because he happened to be thinking of me. Fortunately, I married someone who feels the same way about birthdays, anniversaries & Hallmark holidays. We keep those days very low-key, but he's been known to send flowers to me at work on some random day for no specific reason when I'm totally not expecting it.

 

Honestly, I'd have a real problem with someone who demanded a certain level of presents or fuss for specific occasions and then pouted or tried to make my life miserable when they didn't get it. Maybe you need to get a gf who's not quite so high maintenance.

[Tigris]

Because these events are very special to girls and they like to be romanced and shown that you love/care about them.

 

What to get her? I send my Fiancee bouquets of flowers, and jewellry on special occasions. I also send her dvd's, cd's, etc., at other times to show her I'm thinking about her constantly. She lives in Australia and I'm in the UK.

 

If we were together I would get dressed up and take her to a nice restaurant. I like to make her feel VERY SPECIAL! She's the most important thing in my life. The sooner we can get together permanently the better we will feel. We love each other very much. Being apart kills us!

 

I'm sure you'll have a mobile phone so I suggest you put all the important dates in the 'organiser' so you'll never forget them.

 

Good luck