Am I a hopeless boyfriend?

[final attack]

I'm currently dating the perfect girl for me. She is relaxed, comforting, supportive, and she's not shy

 

However I feel I'm just unresponsive. Emotionally dormant. I feel as though I'm getting everything I want from the relationship, but not giving back.

 

I don't want the relationship to go this way. I get busy though and I have trouble dividing my focus.

 

I'm wondering if I know how to be a boyfriend. I see her almost everyday at uni, but we don't "do" anything. Should I go out with her once a week? Any advice?

[ShaKe__]

Yeah,ask her on a date,ya know Spend more time together,compliment her,send her sweet messages from time to time,hold her hands,there's no way she won't like that

[kellbell]

Hi there Final,

 

Well, I do not think you are completely hopeless seeing that you are concerned about it and asking for advice.

 

Well...for me, it not necessarily quanity but quality as far as how much time you spend together. Here are some things to keep in mind to feel like you are doing your end...

 

*You can compliment her.- It does not have to be this elaborate compliment. Say something like, "wow, you look great today!" Or "Your hair looks great." Any kind of compliment will be well-taken. Women LOVE attention and compliments.

 

*Surprise her with little things- You can do this by bringing her favorite coffee or beverage when you see her at school. These surprises are nice things you do do not have to be over the top or expensive...just thoughtful. Maybe sent her an e-card via email.

 

*Call or text her a few times a day- Tell her you are thinking about her and hoping she is having a good day. Maybe text her before she goes to bed and bid her goodnight or have sweet dreams.

 

*Ask her how she is doing or how her day went- When you guys hang out, ask her how things are going, how school is, etc.

 

*Surprise her with a romantic evening- Maybe make her a nice dinner, all of her favorite foods, give her a single rose, candles, nice massage.

 

*Find out if you both have something in common, like a same sport or hobby and take her to a game or be part of the hobby together. You definitely need some commonalities in order for the relationship to grow.

 

Basically, women like to be thought of and reassured that they are special. It does not take much. Most women appritiate the EFFORT not necessarily the outcome. I mean of course, we want the outcome to work out but it is the effort that sticks her mind. Treat her like you want to be treated. Good luck with everything and take care.

[AzureSkyes69]

I was in a relationship where it was basically one sided,I was the one doing everything that was very difficult for me to deal with.I guess I thought that if the person loved me they would be more attentive,I am not just saying in gifts and such but with affection and doing things to show you care for her.

One more question are you always like this emotionally in relationships? if not maybe this isn't the right girl for you.Do you have feelings for her and is it just that you find it is hard for you to express yourself emotionally?

 

If you do have feelings for her then I would suggest you make more of an effort to express yourself to her and show that you care.

[Momene]

If you can't afford expensive meals out, try and have long walks together.