Over the hump, Under the hump

[newbie30]

Wow, these ups and downs ater a breakup are absolutely awful. I've been feeling good the past couple weeks, and then just a minute ago I broke down sobbing again. I keep thinking 'okay, that was the worst hump, and now I can only go up from here'. And then, just like that, I feel like I'm back to square one. It's an emotional rollercoaster, and I'm so drained about the whole thing. When will this end? One day, I think okay, it wasn't meant to be, I'm better off without him. Then the next day, I miss him so much I just want to curl up in a corner and weep.

 

 

It's been so helpful reading about other people going through the same thing. I'm having a downer day. Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated, and any stories of ups and downs as well. Thankyou in advance

[keenan]

Hi, love. Welcome to ENA. The rollercoaster is sooo normal that we'd think you were weird if you weren't riding it. That doesn't make it less terrible, I know. I don't know how long the ride lasts, but I know that the ups & downs get less dramatic over time. Generally it seems like after 4-6 months people who were in long term relationships (LTRs) start to feel human again. That's not what you want to hear...but at least you know you're not abnormal. Hang tight. Read the posts here, learn from others, know you aren't alone. Hug.

[AwdreeHpburn]

newbie the best advice I can offer is just take it minute by minute. Give yourself a time you want to make it until. When you reach that time, push it a little further. Soon enough you'll be thru the night. Then the next day, then the next. Minute by minute.

 

Before you know it, a whole week will have passed and you can look back on it as a huge accomplishement. It is hard but it will get easier, minute by minute.

 

I agree with keenan, post here when ever you're having a bad day and read other posts as well as the advice given.

 

Pass time. Time heals almost everything.

[newbie30]

Thanks so much Keenan and Tareesaw. It's always nice to hear that the emotions are normal. I feel as weak as a kitten. I see him in everything, and everyone. Like living in a dream world, were nothing is as 'shiny' as it used to be. I used to think my strength through adversity was one of my best points, but this has really gotten the best of me. I look forward to four months from now, like you said Keenan. I just wish it would hurry up and come!

[DN]

But it hasn't got the best of you. You are still bouncing back and posting on here to get encouragement. You are doing better than you think - so keep going.

[Boricua7]

The ups and downs will keep on coming and it stinks. I've been broken up with my guy for 5 months and it still hurts and I still haven't been able to completely move on. It does get better though, I promise.

 

You are strong. Just because you have been knocked down and are not getting back up and running right away does not mean that you are weak. I know I'm strong but there are just some things that are harder to handle than others. Remember, love will never be easy. Perhaps that's why it's so worth it to have.