He just ended everything, including our 8yr friendship!!

[NubianLove]

Here are my previous posts

 

Update tonight

Ok ex just decided he was so pissed at me that he decided he didnt know me any more, and then decided that if he had to choose between me and her, he'd choose her. He was acting so irrational over the phone, I felt like I didnt know him. To think he told me deeply how much he loved me, and then acted on impulse, and told her ok they are in a relationship out of anger. I told him that he shouldnt have done anything while still angry because he doesnt want to start anything compromised. His heart is still full of love for me, and he cant even tell her he loves her, he can only say he likes her a lot. Thats jumping from one thing right into another, and isnt healthy. I told him I respected him and his situation and that I would respect that. I'm canceling my trip Easter weekend. I just need time for myself, I was mad initially but I realized this is probably the best thing. I know I did him wrong, I even called our best friend and his sister to talk to him. To try to get him to be rational. I'll stay to myself and if he wants to ever contact me, he knows just how to. I just hope for his sake that he is able to get me out of his heart and actually love her, and not question his decision. I'll be 15mins walk away from him over the summer, but we'll probably never see...oh well

[robowarrior]

Ok what you two have been holding up is just an 'illusion, and because you two can't be together because of the LDR , your bf is expressing his frustration and anger towards you by acting irrational, and grabbing towards other woman who 'are' available, these forms of cheating have poisoned the relationship, and have driven a wig between you and him.

 

You think he has 'this ,that ,sus and so emotion and feelings for you' And you are trying to rationalize a catastrophy here. Something like, yes he has been doing this and that, and our relationship has sus and so problems, but im keeping a door open for him, of course these are all futile attempts, for when one tries to remove a problem, one does not cut a mere branch, but one will have to go to the 'root' of the problem. Which is in this case the LDR, as long as you two are so far apart, you'll get the following situation.

 

If your love is miles away removed from you for extended periods of time, you might as well consider yourself as 'separated' , what good is a relationship if the partner is never there? you might as well consider it as a divorce, or seperation. My advice for you is to leave it as it is, and get yourself a guy within your circle of reach.

[NubianLove]

Well I understand what ur saying, and he moved about 10months ago, I was with him for his 1st 2 months. Plus I was seeing him every 2-3weeks. Well there's more to it, but I should have seen this coming a long time ago. I guess its hard to explain because you have to go with what I was able to write down. I think the biggest issue is that he really doesnt know what he wants, so because of that he doesnt want what he got.

[NubianLove]

I just found out something, he has an online buddy and so she showed me the email he sent her about the situation(he doesnt know I am in communication with her). Lets just say I'm happy I'm doing NC, he's so confused, and was talking about how he lost it, and defending me, and how he hasnt talked to me since. I'm glad I'm on my own now, and wish him all the best with his struggle and confusion.