If I can heal - anyone can. Do NC at all costs!

[WadeCure]

Even though all turmoil is happening my life right now (I posted about that elsewhere - see friends forum), I would like to post about a success story. For all of you who really think that you may not be able to heal from the past and move on from being dumped, after probably two years since I dated a girl I ran accross her MySpace by accident, and I had always dreaded looking for her MySpace if she had one fearing seeing her moved on and fearing that I would still like her.

 

I did run accross her MySpace and, while I had an initial shake and shock, I realized something - I had moved on. You don't know what a great feeling that is to know you can look upon someone you once had an undying adoration for in the past with complete indifference. In fact, you realize you are much better off without them because you've grown up far more and see they are in the exact same place.

 

And let me say this - I was placed to the lowest of lows, I had depression that nearly claimed my life and it was hard to remain in NC. But I did it anyway. Your heart will heal. Just be patient and don't put a time limit on your heart. Trust me, if I can bounce back from pure hell - everyone can.

 

Just keep your head up and push forward!

[comets_21]

Wadecure,

 

Thank you so much for posting.... Please listen to him. I had it so bad too, please go back and read my posts if you do not believe me. I was dumped for another guy. I was a mess. NC is the only way to go... and you know what, her and her new bf broke up after about half a year and guess who she is emailing... and to tell you the truth I do not want anything to do with her... she hurt me so bad. If you do want them back OR if you just want your life back together please please go NC.

 

Congrats WadeCure

[WadeCure]

Absolutely and amen.

 

Trust me on this. There are times, there are plenty of times where you will doubt yourself. There are plenty of times when you think you are not going to get over it. There are plenty of times when you think your world is crashing down. Do know you are normal. You are more than normal - you may think you are strange for "taking too long" to move on, take all the time you need. You will make it. Just no matter what.. no contact. I really hope that someday everyone can have the same feeling that I have, and it's perfect - because I was always hoping in the back of my mind I would think this - because YOU do grow and they usually are exactly the same, and when you grow and see that they are exactly the same, you truly do wonder what you ever saw in them in the first place.

 

I promise to ALL suffering, everyone is going to make it! It feels like hell now, it will continue to feel like hell for a while, but you will get better and not only that - better than you've ever been.

[tylercdurden2004]

Good on ya. i remember your posts from a couple of years ago as I too was going through a break up. It was your letter that inspired me. Well we did get back together lasted approx 1 1/2 or so and recently broke up. Think your better off having just continued with NC. I kinda wish I had the last couple of years back. I could have done a bit more in that time. But its neither here nor there. its good to hear you are doing better.

[Spawn]

Thanks wadecure for sharing......i am almost 1 month strict nc. i think it hit me on the 3rd week, no urge of contacting and even sometimes lookin into her profile doesn't generate any feelings. It was hell the 1st month, we broke up on Jan 2nd. The on and off contact was horrible until i had to put an end to it.

 

take care man.....way to go.

[nx2chaos]

Well it is good to see that NC does work. I am trying to heal as best as I can with the Amount of NC I can do. I have a son so it is really hard to do NC. But yes, I try not to talk to her, call her only when I need to talk to my son or speak about my son. As you can see it is very hard for me, right now.... It has been 2 months since we separated. But I seem to be felling a little better now. Also I have started noticing that she is getting alot more frustrated with me. While I sit back and say " Calm down and try to be civil "

 

I am going through hell right now. I feel with all the endeavors I have gone through in life. Nothing is worst than what I am experiencing right now.

I have been reading the site, taking in all the advice, Healing as much as I can day by day. Slowly but surely I am starting to see a faint spark of light at the end of the tunnel.

 

I am hanging in there, I know that is all I can do right now.

 

For those who are in pain, Courage it is a long process, and it can only make you stronger.

 

Thanks All.