Crying......

[Meeky]

I am sitting at home bawling my eyes out. It has been one week. One week apart. Only one weekend of no contact. I am struggling. I want to talk about it, but on the other hand I am sick of talking about it. I don't know who to talk to. I'm sure my friends are so sick of hearing about it. One minute I feel like I will get through this eventually, next minute I am a bawling mess on the floor. I keep trying to convince myself that I don't want him, not the way things were. And he is not willing to change, so thereforeeee it SHOULD be over. But my heart is screaming that I don't want to live without him. I miss him so much, my heart feels like it is literally breaking. Everyone tells me it will be okay. That it will be hell for a few months, but that I will get over this and move on. They tell me time heals all. I have read all the posts about no contact, about moving on, I have scowered the internet for advice. But right now, it just feels like I am stuck in this huge hole and I can't climb out. I just want him back. I want him to take me in his arms, and tell me that he loves me and that it will be okay. I am a mess. I feel lost. I don't know how to go forward.

[bobo85]

Trust me on this. Talk to your parents about it. Talk to your uncle, grandparents. They have more experience with this stuff compared to your friends. And believe me...your family will always stick by you. You can buy your friends a small gift to show your appreciation for listening to your problems. Also keep a little journal or diary about your feelings.

 

Take each day one at a time. Keep the No Contact going or it will take you longer to get over him.

 

I know how your feeling. But remember that your happiness should not be depended on another person. You came into this world as one...you can leave this world as one.

[evy38]

I know how you feel. You feel an OVERWELMING urge to email or call him, because you think it will make you feel better to hear his voice or read his words. And you know what? It might make you feel better, for about 10 seconds. Then, trust me, you will feel worse. if he's kind, you'll feel even weaker because he still doesn't want you, but you'll be back to square one. If he is unkind, you will not feel better, but tortured and emotionally ripped to shreds and still you're back to square one. If you are not exercising, I urge you to start, especially when you are feeling like this. Trust me, the exercise will make you feel somewhat better.

Stay strong.

[Spawn]

Meeky,

 

Hang in there.....its tough very tough, but it will get better believe me. Breakups are very very hard on people, i am going through one. My ex used to treat me very badly and she was very upfront on that. Like she can't change so why i am with her. Anyways, it sucks and it really feels very bad when we don't get the same kinda love and respect.

 

The first month was real mess for me, things started improving once i went on strict NC. The LC(low contact) used to give me setbacks.....i have realized things will never improve and resigned myself to the fate thats it over.

 

Try to focus on somethin else, go out with your friends, do somethin new.....you have to take care of yourself first and NC is for that. Change your room furnitures or move them around, remove the things that reminds u of him, keep them at some other place. Seriously think about all the wrong things that happened between you and your ex, write it down, go through it whenever you feel the urge to contact him.

 

Take care...