what should i do ????

[stubborn99]

Me and my ex have recently broke up... It was over something very stupid and because i was so angry the words just came out of my mouth. We had been fighting since the night before. I always tell her that she doesnt like me when i know that she is in love with me ... It gets her mad when i say it so she does things to make me mad in spite of it. She will move away from me when i try to get close not all the time but sometimes just to get back at me.

 

But it had been getting to me because she did it all day. So i was upsett about it and we were fighting. I followed her all around school that day and seh told me to leave her alone and that it was making her more mad but i did it anyway and i went to her house after school she told me to get out and thats when i said fine its over... i wish i never had said it now im all alone with out her. We saw each other every single day for 6months from early in the morning to late at night.

 

Before the break up we signed up to do something after school and we still have to do it for a couple of months so that means i have to see her. Well anyway she called the night of the break up and me being so upsett i bugged her to go out with me and she said NO and i asked if we would ever go back out she said i dunno.... She called again the next night i did the same thing same answers. On thursday soemthing bad happened in her family so she had to tend to that so she did not call. The next day i went to her house because she asked to help me with something... We did not speak and i was very upsett... Then i went to watch t.v with her brothers and she stayed in the kitchen laughing with her family. I get very upsett that she was not with me and i left. She even asked why i was leaving but did not walk me out like she used to.

 

She did not call on sunday but i went over there because i hung out with her brother but she stayed in her room " she said she was getting ready " i dont believe that... Sunday i did not call her and she called me during the day and i was surprised ... then she called me at night also... Monday night she called and said she needed help with her history so i helped her for a couple of hours. But i the last time i pleaded with her to go back out with me was on friday night when she called.

 

Tuesday came and we did our thing after school and i tried to touch her hand and she told me not to touch her. The ride up with bad to we did not speak. I talked a little bit. When i took her home i told her how i missed her and loved her and i did not mean to break up with her and all she said was yeah and i asked if she wanted to talk about it and she said no. When i got to her house she said you can come in so i did... I sat on the couch and she did her own thing with her family not even talking to me. So i stayed for 5 min and left saying i had to do something else. I left and she called me 2 sec later saying that she forgot to show me something and i came back to see it and left.

 

That night i pleaded again with her and saying that i messed up and wanted to be with her and that i did not want to loose her. She was getting very upsett as usual and it was bad because im also in a lot of trouble at school and she said some mean things about me that night. She hasnt called since that day. I tried talking with her today on line but she did not say anything back. Also i talked to her brother online and someone was looking for her and i asked where she was he said she was out and i was like with who and he told me that i was annoying him. I saw her online and tried talking to her many times.. did not mention us going out just trying to be nice. I also gave her a card and a note inside of it saying how i messed up by asking her out all the time. And all the stuff that i am feeling for her and how i feel now. She hasnt called me since tuesday night and its now friday night ... I tried being nice to her today. She even told me that she can never be friends with her ex's but told me that we where friends... But I know how she is and she will never ever be friends with her ex's !!!! so i know that we can not be friends and it was weird that she even told me this... Please help me out !!! also i have to see her every tuesday just me and her helping people out !!!! lol sorry this is so long but she also said that she has bigger problems to deal with than us rite now !!!

[friscodj]

Welcome to ENA stubborn99 I'm sorry you are joining us under such circumstances...

 

In summary, you guys broke up and you feel like it's your fault but honestly bro, your relationship didn't sound healthy. This whole business of: "I always tell her that she doesnt like me when i know that she is in love with me ... It gets her mad when i say it so she does things to make me mad in spite of it. She will move away from me when i try to get close not all the time but sometimes just to get back at me." This is not healthy. On top of things, you are pleading with her constantly and she is pushing you away...

 

You've done enough bro! You feel like you lost this relationship but I don't think from what you wrote that it was that healthy. And you mention now you are all alone. You shouldn't pursue her because you don't want to be alone. Some other woman who is way better than your ex, who gives and receives love in a healthy way, and who you have a better connection with will surely come along...I guarantee it...and you can hold me to that statement...

 

Now, what do you do now? You call in the troops to erect the 12 inch steel reinforced walls around your heart immediately. You give her nothing. You tell her nothing. You show her nothing. You are gone and she is not the same person anymore. That person you dated is gone so when you see her on Tuesdays, even though you are in her physical presense, you are gone in every other way, shape, and form...

 

Keep this up and sooner than later you'll be able to take down the walls and still be gone from her... You'll face times where you really want to contact her, but don't do it. Be strong and take charge of your life and this situation...