thegirl_00 Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 ok this is a little personal but its also very embarrassing and I need help with how to handle this because I'm really freaking out right now. I'm sure more embarrassing things have happened in life, and i rarely get embarrassed but when it comes to sex it tends to happen quite a bit. For some reason really embarrassing things ALWAYS happen to the guy im having sex with, pretty much every single time. Tonight i saw this guy that i really like.... and we ended up gettin a little personal, if ya know what i mean. But he couldn't have an orgasm and thats NEVER happened to me before. Like he just couldnt finish. it was so akward and embarrassing for him, but thereforeeee i was completely embarrassed also because the only time i feel embarrassed is when it happeneds to someone else (I know, im strange). I'm an attractive woman, i know that i am, but im soooo confused as to why he didnt have an orgasm. Normally guys go after 2 seconds with me, no joke (which can also be a little akward). But i didnt know how to handle this... oh i dont understand why these things always happen to me. maybe this isn't as big of a deal as i think it is? I duno what to do, for some reason I feel so horrible about all this. I also have terrible anxioty issues and this is really makin it soooo much worse. can anyone helppp? jus any advice i would appreciate. thankkk youuuuuu!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BurningInside Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 Sometimes it just happens. Getting into graphic detail, some times when my g/f is performing fellatio on me it takes me forever and a day to climax, some times it only 10/15 mins. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BellaDonna Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 Tonight i saw this guy that i really like.... and we ended up gettin a little personal, if ya know what i mean. But he couldn't have an orgasm and thats NEVER happened to me before. Like he just couldnt finish. it was so akward and embarrassing for him, but thereforeeee i was completely embarrassed also because the only time i feel embarrassed is when it happeneds to someone else (I know, im strange). Were you using a condom? Hopefully you were.... Some guys have a hard time having an orgasm with a condom (disclaimer: however that is not good enough a reason to NOT use one....) Or he could have just been nervous or anxious himself, or having a bad day. He may have sensed how awkward you felt and it became a vicious cycle. I don't think it has anything to do with being attractive. Of course he found you attractive, if he wanted to have sex with you. Don't worry about it too much, or take it personal. It happens sometimes. If it happens repeatidly, then he might have some kind of erectile dysfunction, but I would not worry about it if it only happened once. BellaDonna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RayKay Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 I am sure he felt worse then you Why are you embarrassed about it, it does happen - men too are susceptible to stress, illness, bad diet, being overweight, anxiety and performance issues that can all affect his ability to "stay up". Condoms can also reduce sensitivity (NOT a good reason NOT to use one though, look for more sensitive ones, or other forms of birth control if you are monogamous and both clean for STI's). If he did not find you attractive, he probably won't of been sleeping with you. Have you thought maybe BECAUSE he found you attractive, he had problems...as he was either nervous or trying to think too much about baseball? Best thing to do is to chalk it up to nervousness and try again, if it were to happen all the time it's time to look at what could be going on, but everyone can have an off day now and then Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PocoDiablo Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 Equipment failure! Oh no! It happens to everyone sooner or later. He was either nervous, tired, sick, whatever ... Try again later, I bet the results change. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ehm doubleyou Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 Also....keep in mind he may have masterbated prior that day and that may have caused it as well....It has happened to me...where I did the deed without knowing that I was gonna having sex with a lady that night...and sure enought thats what happened. I really would not worry about it, it has nothing to do with you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thegirl_00 Posted March 31, 2006 Author Share Posted March 31, 2006 Yes we did use a ruber, i wasn't going to take that chance. I'm thinking it was jus because he was nervous because we just started seeing eachother and it's still a little akward. I just hope he's not too afraid to hang out with me again. After the akward moment he sure was embarrassed, you could tell. He kept studdering haha. I was trying to lighten the mood because im usually pretty good at breaking the ice, but it jus wasnt working with him. Poor guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southerngirl Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 yeah equipment failure happens, its NOT your fault.. If you want to continue to see him tell him that youd idnt care its okay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SxcLady Posted April 2, 2006 Share Posted April 2, 2006 Sometimes it just happens. Getting into graphic detail, some times when my g/f is performing fellatio on me it takes me forever and a day to climax, some times it only 10/15 mins. Sorry had to ask ... 10-15mins isnt long? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PocoDiablo Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 An hour is long. A minute is short. 10 minutes? About average in my experience/opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rnorth Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 Could be several reasons for this but I think if you like the guy and envision being intimate with him again, its best to move on. The one sex organ we need to cultivate and sometimes in fact ignore, is the brain. Nerves can play a big deal. In fact, it would not surprise me if he cums next time, but too quickly. Sounds like he was nervous. Other possibility could be that he had masturbated earlier in the day and he just needed more time. Sometimes when it takes forever, the guy can put too much pressure on himself to cum for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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