shau_nee Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 hello, I've been seeing this guy for quite some time we use to be in a good relationship but now because of his job we only see each other about once a month. which to me isn't really much of a relationship. but when i see him i always wonder if he has been with someone else because we only have sex once a month and that really isn't much. so can sex only once a month really keep a guy sastified and happy? Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 If he loves you and is committed to you, sure. He won't cheat on you. More importantly - Is this relationship making you happy now? Link to comment
shau_nee Posted February 11, 2006 Author Share Posted February 11, 2006 that would be two no's. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 If u really loves you, then he's committed to you and there would be no excuse for him to look elsewhere. There never is an excuse for cheating. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 Well, can he start seeing you more often? Are you thinking of breaking things off with him? Link to comment
DN Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 If he is not making you happy - why are you with him at all? Link to comment
shau_nee Posted February 11, 2006 Author Share Posted February 11, 2006 he's all i know. and i have thought of breaking up with him often. because seeing him only once a month is not making me happy. i don't know how to tell him i'm not happy and mostly i'm not sure if i really trust him. he has only told me that he love me in the beginning of our relationship. i haven't heard him say it since. when i tell him that i love him he tells me it's to hard for him to say it back and that he has told me he loves me before. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 Tell him wut u just say right now to us, that u aren't happy with him and don't trust him and wanna break up. Link to comment
DN Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 Time for a talk. If he can reassure you that he is not cheating and can arrange to meet you more often then maybe you can make it work. If not then break up with him and find someone you can trust and who can spend time with you. Link to comment
Relationship Coach Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 Are you cheating on him because you are only having sex with him once a month? Why are you questioning his morals? Do you feel that men are more likely to cheat than women? I have to wonder if you are just insecure or are you contemplating being with someone else. If your man is in love with you, you need to trust him. Being away from each other is tough but you should be longing for him rather than wondering about his will power. Do you think he is wondering about yours? If you are not cut for this type of a relationship and not everyone is. This says nothing bad about you, you deserve to be happy and fulfilled. RC Link to comment
shau_nee Posted February 11, 2006 Author Share Posted February 11, 2006 well it's not so easy to break up. and lately he has been really nice to me. i love the time that we have together i just which it was more. i consider moving in with him but i don't want to be the one to ask? so it is a could sign that he treating me better? cuz that's why it's hard for me to break up with him now. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 why won't he tell you he loves you? You need some reassurances! If I were dating a man long term, and he could only see me once a month, and he wouldn't tell me he loves me, and I wasn't happy with the relationship.... I wouldn't see much to stay for. Link to comment
shau_nee Posted February 11, 2006 Author Share Posted February 11, 2006 i love him tho. and i guess thats the reason i stay with him. as far as what relationship coach said, i think i have alot of insecurities. i wonder often if he loves me like i said he has only said it in the beginning. so he won't say it to me now. i know at one time he was disgusted with me, and he hasn't said it since. but he never questions me on what i am doing when we are apart.which i have alot of respect for him on that. when we were living together i excused him of cheating almost all of the time. i never had any proof i just couldn't trust him and was very suspicious. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 Shau nee (that's my mother's name by the way - Shawnee is - love it) Have you had a chat to him about this? Have you asked him or told him how you feel? I think if the relationship is worth holding on to and building from, you need to talk with him. Give him the opportunity to tell you where he is in all of it. If you are contemplating breaking off with him maybe that is something that needs to be explored, but give him a heads up. He may be thinking about the same things. Link to comment
Relationship Coach Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 Why did you accuse him of cheating? What did you do to disgust him? RC Link to comment
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