serve_the_people Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 At my work there is a 45 year old woman who really likes me. She said I was handsome, and tonight she also said I am sexy. This feels really weird and uncomfortable because I am only 22 ~~ !!!!!! help... !!!! Link to comment
easyguy Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Is she an employee/co-worker? Does she harass you? If so, talk to the manager about it. In any case, tell this 45-year old woman that you don't like her like that (say it in polite terms, of course). If she has a brain, she'll understand. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Just be polite and tell her that you are flattered, but not interested. She should understand. Link to comment
friscodj Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 !!!!!! help... !!!! Help??? What do you mean, help? Help? Dude, this sounds like a fantasy-come-true for a lot of guys your age! If she's not married, takes care of herself, and is attractive to you, I'd say roll the dice...see what happens... Link to comment
PassionatePices Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Help??? What do you mean, help? Help? Dude, this sounds like a fantasy-come-true for a lot of guys your age! If she's not married, takes care of herself, and is attractive to you, I'd say roll the dice...see what happens... I'm with friscodj on this one! Older women are very experienced and oh so gentle. I lost my virginity to my bartender! I was 19 she was 41 it was one of the most memorable experience's of my life! Link to comment
RandomAdvisor Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Help??? What do you mean, help? Help? Dude, this sounds like a fantasy-come-true for a lot of guys your age! If she's not married, takes care of herself, and is attractive to you, I'd say roll the dice...see what happens... I agree also. Is she single? Attractive? Link to comment
shyanne Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 sounds like she's giving you complements. letting you know that your a hot young man, doesn't mean she wants to date you. some women are just like that, friendly and open. she didn't ask you out and may even say no if you ask her out. Link to comment
Bethany Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 I've been an older woman to a younger guy, though he chased me. I wouldn't recommend it. Stick to what you know and feel comfortable with. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 This feels really weird and uncomfortable because I am only 22 ~~ !!!!!! help... !!! Well it's obvious that this makes you feel uncomfortable, and not in a good way- otherwise you would not be posting about it. So my opinion is different from many of the others. If you want it to stop- then politely ask her to stop. If she continues this on the job- then it is indeed sexual harassment and you should report it. People should not have to go to work feeling uncomfortable of like a piece of meat. Just because she is a woman does not make sexual harassment right or excusable. Life is not a porn movie. Calling someone "sexy" is also beyond being friendly with them. Also if the tables were turned and she was a 45 year-old male and you a 22 year-old women- I'm sure the responses would have been different and people would not urge you to think about it as a "fantasy". Bottom line- it made you feel uneasy and uncomfortable- you should not have to put up with that on the job. BellaDonna Link to comment
friscodj Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Bottom line- it made you feel uneasy and uncomfortable- you should not have to put up with that on the job. And of course, this really is the bottom line... I was just trying to present a different perspective... Link to comment
friscodj Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Life is not a porn movie. There's no implication of this here...she may just be flirting...I'm just saying not to be afraid of this woman because she is older... Also if the tables were turned and she was a 45 year-old male and you a 22 year-old women- I'm sure the responses would have been different and people would not urge you to think about it as a "fantasy". You're absolutely right. I think society dictates this, sadly enough. I hear about "creepy old guys" but never about "creepy old women"... Hey, I didn't create the notion of this being a fantasy for a lot of younger guys, I'm just telling it like it is... Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Based on him feeling clearly uncomfortable- I just don't think it's necessary to allude to any kind of "fantasy" here. In reality he does not like it. I'd say roll the dice...see what happens That just in essense, invalidates his feelings of being uncomfortable- it implies he should buy into her inappropriate behavior. I don't know... she sounds like a predatory loser to me. Sorry to put it that way, but what mentally mature person in their right mind (of any age) goes around calling other people "sexy" in their place of employment? I'd say be afraid of her. Someone who is not the brightest bulb on the tree, does that sort of thing at work. BellaDonna Link to comment
ShySoul Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 The concern here is how does he feel about her. If he is interested, then he should pursue it. But as he is not, then he needs to let her know and put an end to unwanted advances. Age isn't really the issue, the same advice would apply if she was his age. The fact that she is older just makes it more uncomfortable as it doesn't usually happen and thus there is an added layer of unfamiliarity. Though I will say that older women are very attractive. And it has nothing to do with the fantasy element, it has to do with who you relate with and click with. So if you like someone, go for it even with the age difference (making sure its legal of course). If you are uncomfortable, then don't go for it. Link to comment
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