I seriously need advice! Something great has happened but I'm scared..

[KIDD]

I was on a personals column a couple of days ago, because I was bored. I put a profile of my pic & my profile. I stated my interests & that I wasn't into sex or anything like that. Then this guy hit me up who caught me off guard by his profile & his looks. He said he was very interested & attracted to me & we both shared yahoo im names. As I was talking to him, I found out he's a model & he has his own website!! Since the conversation seemed to flow well between us, we exchanged phone numbers & we started talking more. He's met alot of famous people & I told him that I like to write or possibly try my hand at something in the entertainment industry. Well he laughed & said if you're really want to be into something like that, he could possibly help me get to where I want to be!!! He's a little bit older than me, he's 24.. has his own place.He Seems to be sane & he's really cool! I'm 19, so that's not that much of an age difference. I've only been talking to him a couple of days! He lives in Atlanta Georgia, not far from me at all because I live in the outskirts of Atlanta.

 

I have alot of mixed emotions. I really would like to meet this guy, I'll have to sneak & do it because I know my mom wouldn't approve of this! Man I need my drivers license & a car. It's going to be hard to meet up with him!! I'm also worried about him not turning out to be who he says who he is. I mean he's shown me pictures of him.. but I don't want to miss out on something GREAT! But then I don't want my dreams crushed & I find out he's some old perverted man which I'm scared about.I've asked him a couple of times if it's him & he laughed & said yeah. But I'm also afraid if he says who he really is, I could miss out on a blessing on so many levels!!

 

Something is fishy though I fear, but I've been in such a depressed state lately. He's exactly what I need to get me out of my funk. He said he could take me out to fancy restaurants & go to famous people's parties!! I'm really trying to not get my hopes up. I'm really worried about my parents & doing something bad, but I don't know. I'm going to give everyone his website here & look at the gallery to see his pictures. He is such an attractive guy!! I'm also afraid that if he meets me, he may not like how I look or may not like me. I mean I've shown him pictures of me & he's said I'm a very attractive guy. But pictures are different from real life images.

 

This is his website....

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[ravens_folly]

Well, if I were you, I would just give it some time and get to know him a little better. How long have you been talking to him??

 

And if you decided you do want to meet him, meet him in a public place like a mall, or a coffee shop. A place where there are lots of people.

[DN]

Be very very careful.

 

Is his modelling portfolio on an agency website?

[wheelie]

It concerns me that he is talking about doing stuff for your career at this stage. He doesn't know you at all, has no familiarity with your work. My experience has been that guys who say tht sort of thing up front just want to go to bed with you and don't have any power to help you. The people who DO have the power to help your career are generally all business, and they never make promises before thoroughly investigating the quality of your work and what YOU can do for THEM.

 

So proceed if you like him as a person and would be into him without the "wannabe celebrity" BS, but be very, very clear on what you will and won't do physically, and don't expect or depend on ANYTHING from him in terms of career or connections.

[KIDD]

" Is his modelling portfolio on an agency website?"

 

I don't know but I will sure ask him when I reach him again!

 

Wheelie, you brought some good points up. But we didn't dwell a whole lot about what he could do for me. He just suggested that he could possibly help me, because I told him that I like to write alot. We didn't talk about it a whole lot. He seems like a nice person though, I stated that I just want to be & only friends with him for now.

 

As for meeting this guy, "IF I EVER DO THIS THAT IS"... It will be a public place, no questions asked. I also told him, that I would like to talk to him for a good while, you know to see what he's like before any meeting up is done! I'll give him some months... that should be a reasonable amount of time before meeting..

 

I also had to snap out of it & think clearly, because I'm not trying to get caught up in anything. But I'm also tired of my boring dull life & I would like some excitement for a change & someone to focus on me, he seems to bring excitement & attention which I like. Part of me is telling me I should back out of this, but another part is telling me not to.I already gave him my cell phone number, I wasn't really thinking clearly on that.. Dumb move I know...

 

I'm going to be very cautious with this guy, I'm not expecting anything. I already think perhaps he's just trying to get in my pants. I'm also keeping that in mind too. I mean anyone can say anything on the phone & they don't mean a thing about what they say. I'm not naive to the game people play! I won't be taken for a fool & I told him it's going to take alot for me to gain his trust! A WHOLE LOT!!

[Tigris]

It's wise to keep yourself safe. I hope he turns out to be everything you expect him to be.

 

Take care.

[Rozsi]

I would google his name and see if anything comes up.

 

In "Hollywood" everybody says they know famous people. Everybody says they can help you sell your stuff. Everybody says they know someone who can hook you up. But my feeling gut-wise with this guy is that he is playing you to get in your pants. So be really careful.

[KIDD]

Interesting enough Rozsi, I googled his name & some sites came up on him.

 

 

 

The contact information is the same that he gave me. I like that pic of him though.

[cyankino]

You know what they say, if its too good to be true then its too good to be true.

 

If you do decide to go meet this guy, i would seriously do a double date. Not only will you be around people you know, but be a lot safer then going at it alone. Your friends can tell you if he is legit or he is just trying to play you.

 

At this point google everything he mentions to you. Like the clubs he has been too, or what he plans to do for you.

 

In the end its better to be safe then to be sorry.

[AwdreeHpburn]

ooohhhh man.....this guy makes me nervous. Please be careful. I'm sure the guy who's website you've attached is a real person, but is HE that guy?

 

I don't think you should ever meet this guy without telling your parents. If they refuse to let you or demand that you don't, take heed, its probably for good reason. But taking along friends could be very helpful and much more safe. Just be sure and let your parents in on it. I understand your instinct is to not, but especially if and when you plan to meet him. Good luck, be safe.

[KIDD]

ooohhhh man.....this guy makes me nervous. Please be careful. I'm sure the guy who's website you've attached is a real person, but is HE that guy?

 

 

 

That's what I worry about! He talks good game but now I'm having doubts.. He just called recently on my cell phone but I didn't pick it up. Sigh... that's got to be a better way of meeting other gay guys than this. The internet makes me paranoid too much.. But for good reason though. Lots of crazy people on the internet.

 

Man, I always do stuff without thinking.. that's what worries me sometimes.I felt so desperate to talk to someone that I gave a guy my cell phone number, a complete stranger.

 

What are some techniques & tricks to check & see if this guy is lying or not? What are things I should say to test him??

[Tex1907]

Hi. You should not get too attached to someone you meet online or have not met in person. Until you meet them in person you won't know who they truly are. Also, it appears this guy seems a little old for you. You might be better off finding someone closer to your own age. Thats really up to you. But hey... good luck. Just make sure you are safe about it if you end up meeting him. You should almost definatly bring a friend to be as safe as possible. Hope this helps.

[Prufrock06]

Thakid,

 

I would tread on the side of caution with this, at least until you get to know this individual more and more. Stick with Internet communication for the time being to get a sense of what he's like, who he really is -- and if you eventually feel the need to meet, as others have suggested, make sure it's in a public place and I would hesitate from going back to his place, especially if you are concerned that he just wants to get into your pants.

 

Because it's the Internet, you do have a legitimate reason to be cautious. At the same time, I don't see the harm in communicating with him over the Internet and (if you must) via cell phone. The only time to really be on guard is when (and if) you make plans to meet in person.

[KIDD]

Thakid,

 

I would tread on the side of caution with this, at least until you get to know this individual more and more. Stick with Internet communication for the time being to get a sense of what he's like, who he really is -- and if you eventually feel the need to meet, as others have suggested, make sure it's in a public place and I would hesitate from going back to his place, especially if you are concerned that he just wants to get into your pants.

 

Because it's the Internet, you do have a legitimate reason to be cautious. At the same time, I don't see the harm in communicating with him over the Internet and (if you must) via cell phone. The only time to really be on guard is when (and if) you make plans to meet in person.

 

I don't know, now it's like I really don't want to talk to him.His true colors seem to be showing.I think a big clue came today when I was talking to him & the first thing that came out of his mouth was, "so what are you doing tonight"? That's a sign to me that he just wants sex. Why would he be interested in what I'm doing?? Especially at night? I told him nothing & he was like maybe we can meet up... This turned me off. I told him, I would not meet up with him anytime soon! He asked why not? I told him that I didn't really trust him & I told him I would like to get to know him first before anything. He seemed to get offensive by the tone of his voice & he seemed to get smart with me. He was like so what else do you need for me to prove to you that I am who I say I am? ID, what!!? I was like what are you getting mad for? Can you blame me if I don't trust you right away? He was basically like yeah whatever, you're right! I'm sorry.So basically we talked a little bit more but he seemed to be quiet & didn't really seem interested in anything I had to say. He told me he'll call me back in 5 minutes but he didn't. He called later & left a message on my voicemail saying that he'll be taking a flight tomorrow to New York.. for that modeling stuff I suppose. He said he'll be back all in the same day, which I thought was a little funny.

 

 

I don't know if I want to talk to him now.Especially with the way he got smart with me. I'll talk some more... But I think he's trying to have sex with me! Can I find someone who wants more!?

[FoxLocke]

Kidd, please be careful. This really does make me nervous as well. I was always taught that, "If something seems too good to be true then it probably is." Not trying to rain on your parade at all. If you find a decent guy then I will be the first person to show up at your wedding...However, this just seems really fishy.

Plus, ALOT of people say that they are models over the internet and end up being Quasimodo in real life.

 

I think it is really good that you may potentially meet a good guy...However, tread carefully. Listen to your instincts. That is why you have them.

[KIDD]

Kidd, please be careful. This really does make me nervous as well. I was always taught that, "If something seems too good to be true then it probably is." Not trying to rain on your parade at all. If you find a decent guy then I will be the first person to show up at your wedding...However, this just seems really fishy.

Plus, ALOT of people say that they are models over the internet and end up being Quasimodo in real life.

 

I think it is really good that you may potentially meet a good guy...However, tread carefully. Listen to your instincts. That is why you have them.

 

Thanks for your concern Foxlocke, I'm being very careful.That's why I'm doing a little trick. It may seem devious but I'm doing it to protect myself. I took another pic of a good looking guy off the internet. I made a fake profile up. In this profile, I stated that I was the same age, but I was looking for sex!! Now what I did was I hit the guy I'm talking to now under this name.I made a different yahoo account & everything to talk to him on instant messanger. I want to talk with him under this guise & see how his story changes or not, or to see what he's really about. I've hit him up, but he hasn't responded yet...

[KIDD]

Well, after having a conversation with him a day ago in which he seemed to be non respondent. I've realised that he's not interested in being friends with me so I'm waiting for him to call me instead. He hasn't called since a day ago so that speaks volumes for me. I doubt he'll call back which is fine.