what the hey??

[shau_nee]

hello, tell me if this is odd or not? my bf has discussions with me about girls that he use to have sex with. is this a typical guy thing? i'm not sure but i told him i didn't want to hear about it anymore.

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Hmm, why did he tell you who he had sex with? Did you ask him or did he bring it up? maybe he wanted you to tell him your expirences!?

[shau_nee]

that is what i thought too. then i thought he might be trying to make me jealous. he brought it up though.

[ocrob]

Tell him that you don't want to hear about it, unless he wants to hear about the men you have been with. I guarantee he does not want to hear about specifics with other men. I am guessing this is a new relationship and he is just being stupid. Put him in check and tell him that both of your pasts are in the past.

[shau_nee]

no it's not a new relationship

[DN]

Has he always done this or is this something new? I was wondering if he wants to try those things with you.

[shau_nee]

he kinda been doing it. he talked about this girl that did a strip tease for him.

[DN]

I bet he wants you to do one for him.

[shau_nee]

that makes sense i never done it.

[DN]

Don't be manipulated into doing anything you don't want to but if you are ok with it go ahead. But tell him you would rather he asked you directly for what he wants rather than do it by telling you what his ex-girlfriends did.

[coollady1957]

I agree that for whatever reason, he shouldnt be telling you of his past experiences with other girls. IF he is trying to make you jealous its not a nice thing to do in that way. If he is wanting to have new experiences with you, the I agree that he should just talk to you about what he likes and wants, but not bring up past women. The past should remain the past. Bringing up former partners and sexual activitites with them can only cause trouble in your relationship.

[fishrrshortae]

If he had any tact, he would just say "I'd really like it if you ...."

 

Why on earth would he have to bring up his past sexual encounters?? I sure as hell wouldn't want to hear that from my boyfriend.

 

You sure you wanna be with a guy who sounds kinda clueless..???

[Relationship Coach]

I think he is looking for you to spice up the sex life a little. I know it's not fun to hear how some GF from the past used to knock his socks off but he is basically telling you that "you" are not doing something right. Talk to him about what he wants and likes without bringing up his ex's. Tell him you are all for improving the sex but you are not going to role play and be one of his ex's. It's a two way street and you don't think its fair to ask him to grow another 3 inches to match your ex!

 

RC