How can I get her back?

[alomedia]

Hi, my case is a pretty weird one. I am 32 years old, I've been married to a great woman for the past 7 years but there has never been passion in our sex life (there has never been a sex life). Its like we're best friends but the sex has never been good,... never ever. We tried everything but what happened was that I was not turned on by her anymore (a real pity, but its a fact).

Anyway, I met a very nice, single girl and there was instant attraction, we talked a lot but nothing happened (I told her I was married and everything), one day my wife went out of town for a couple of weeks and we spent the night together. It was great (for me at least),... but she got scared because I am married and she started to like me too much. She didn't want to see me anymore, didn't answer my calls, even my mails. She even left the country (not because of me of course). It has been a while now that I've been constantly (but not annoyingly) trying to reach her and tell her that I'm separated but she won't answer. I figure that if we really understood each other and spent good times together she could like me again. What can I do to get her back?

[Echo]

My suggestion would be to NOT tell her you left your wife for her. That might freak her out. Another suggestion would be to leave her alone for a while. A month or so.

Coming right out of a long term marriage and trying to jump into another relationship is NEVER good....for either party.

 

Maybe you could leave her one last email/phone message....stating your situation but that when you are in a better position you would like to see her again.

Then leave her alone. You must give her a chance to think things through.

[alomedia]

Thanks for the quick response Echo. As a matter of fact I didn't leave my wife for her, but I like very much your suggestion in: "Maybe you could leave her one last email/phone message....stating your situation but that when you are in a better position you would like to see her again."

Its a strange situation because she sometimes answers in a very friendly way and sometimes she doesn't reply at all. But I am still open for more suggestions.

[jl301]

Hey alomedia,

 

I agree with Echo and that even though you didn't leave your wife for her. It's still really alot of pressure for this girl because you guys slept together while you were still married. I just think she is just little scared right now from all this. Give her some time to think and also time for yourself to recoup from the break-up. Hang in there and hopefully she will come around.