What do I do now?!

[Copperhead]

I've posted about this guy before, but things have changed slightly now. To cut a long story short, I broke up with my b/f of 4 years last April and was happy to date people casually. I met this guy at work and we have been dating since October, although seeing other people as well. When I asked him about being exclusive (after he kept pestering me about my feelings) I told him that I did like him and wouldn't mind just seeing him. He said he didn;t think he could be faithful, so I accepted that and took full advantage of casually dating other people (not sleeping with them , just hanging out together and stuff). We spent last Friday night together and had a great time. Again he brought up the conversation of what we both want, and was saying that I deserved to be hooked up with someone who I could see more often (we see each other everyday at work and go out every week or so). I said I wasn't interested in seeing anyone (cos in truth I like him a lot) and that I'm happy just seeing him and other people on a casual basis. So what do I do now?? Just see how things go or come right out and tell him how I feel about him (that I like him). He always says I'm great company and so forth and it's always him asking how I feel, like he's fishing for compliments. A lot of people I know have said they think it'll blossom into something more and that I shouldn't push it. Should I just leave things the way they are? Thanks for any advice.

[lady00]

I would be concerned about his inability to be faithful. Why is that something he can't do? Would that change in the long run? I think it's actually quite odd that he came out and said that.

[lgirl]

why would you want to be with someone who has already told you they can't be faithful???? that's just asking for trouble.

 

think you like him way more than he likes you by the sounds of things. find someone else who can be faithful to you.

[NJRon]

The only time I have told women that I wouldn't be able to be faithful to them (or thought it even) is when I was not 100% attracted to them. I was afraid that I was just going to use them for convenience, knowing that when something better for me came along, I would leave.

 

Interestingly, even though I was being very upfront and honest about it, they usually tried to talk me into some sort of relationship with them. Everytime I was talked into trying it anyway, though I was never unfaithful, I did end up having to end things because my heart just wasn't in it.

 

So, I really echo the above thoughts and would just move on if you don't want to keep things casual.