Needing some opinions here...

[Benji86]

Okay all, I'm new round here but I am seeking some advice so please help me out. So there is this girl that is basically like my best friend. We were together a couple years back for a bout a year or so, but we ended things because we would get into stupid arguments a lot. Now, keep in mind, this was when we were 16/17 or so, so it seems like that was due to immaturity and inexperience. Now, I have been really close with her as a friend since we broke up, but I think she may be the girl for me. She makes me happy all the time when she is around me or even when I just talk to her. I connect with her on such a deep level that I have with no other person, not even close. I am just afraid of what she might say if I bring this up, or how she might react, what should I do? I want to try it again, seeing as I have changed over those three or four years for sure, and I think it will be much different than it was then. I want to know that if being best friends is all that we can ever be, but it is a big leap of faith to bring this out. Help me please...any advice would be greatly apprecaited.

[DN]

You have three choices

 

1. Walk away and take no risks.

 

2. Stay friends but always wonder if it could have been more and watch with sadness when she meets someone else.

 

3. Take the risk and tell her how you feel.

[shorty20]

all you can do is talk to her and hope for the best. Either way, at least you'll know, and think of it this way: If you don't at least try, you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "what if?"... I try to live my life and make my decisions the best I can, and to make sure that I don't do things or in your case don't NOT do things that I might later on regret. Just when you guys are alone one day, just ask her if she thinks there ever might be a chance to give you guys a second chance. Hey, maybe she's sitting there thinking "when is going to make his move, cuz I'm tired of waiting"... point being, you never know what can happen unless you just do something about it. Don't be scared, or nervouse, just be yourself and talk to her! Good luck, and keep us posted!

[Benji86]

I dont want to live with that regret wondering what if, but its going to take a lot of guts to tell her how i feel

[Benji86]

Hey all, just letting you know that I am definantly going to tell her how I feel. It is the best decision I am ever going to make in my life, I love this girl! Thank you kindly for your help, I apprecaite it greatly.

[changes]

i agree. you gotta give it a shot. better to find out how she feels then to live with the what ifs. Good luck and i hope things work out

[DN]

Good luck - I hope it goes well for you. Let us know what happens.