Can't talk about things

[shorty20]

I've noticed this recently, when something really bothers me, I CAN"T talk about it... like, I'll want to, but something inside just won't let me. It's almost like I know I'm going to get upset if I talk about it, so I just pretend like it's not there. I know this is bad, and that it's bad to let things bottle up, but I don't know how to reverse it. Latley, I've noticed it when it comes to my best friend (or ex best friend I guess you could say) we haven't talked for a while, and every time my guy or my roommate tries to bring her up, I just block them out. I just say I don't want to talk about it, and change the subject. Me and my guy got into a little argument the other night, because after numerous attempts to bring it up (he's just trying to help and can see that I'm holding it all in) and I said "I don't want to talk about it" like I always do, and he grabbed my arm to get my attention and said "i know you don't want to, but maybe you should".... I just don't get why it's so hard for me... I don't know.. any ideas?

[Ms Omaniac]

maybe because it's so hard to talk about...you postpone dealing with it?

 

and for the most part...your bf is right...you might not want to talk about it...but sometimes you feel a lot better when you do and you share it with someone that means a lot to you. he's trying to be there for you because he knows this has to be bothering you quite a bit.

 

SOMETIMES when you dont communicate a lot...it weakens your relationship. try and do a little at a time? hopefully your bf will be understanding about it.