Some women bad judges of character

[Derge]

Its like most of the girls I know are unaware there dating complete jerks. Thats all they are, Im just ranting but it annoys me esspecially if they stand up for them. Is it maybe that women want cocky lads regardless if they are infact losers who show off at every oppertunity and make up blatant lies.

THIS thread comes from such inspiration as girls taking back lads and giving them 100 chances. If anyone comes on here going should i leave him then yes you should. Another guy could be given the chance for a shame and maybe do a better job.

 

sorry for my views punctuation and all that just had to get something down on paper.

[boredguy]

i can understand where ur comin from Derge, sometimes it feels like the good guys dont finish at all, let alone last... it seems like no matter how great a person u are, the #$%% 's who treat women like sh-- are the ones who end up with them.

but u knw what...theres a lot of other people out there.. i mean there are 6 BILLION people out there in the world, and some of them must be gettin t right.

 

right?

[BlueWolf]

I know quite a few good girls who date cocky guys and it ticks me off. Not only that, it's not like they are bad judgers, but they prefer them. I also know lots of good guys (like me) with good confidence, self-esteem, good character who no one dates.

I dunno what else to say.

[DropToZero]

Its like most of the girls I know are unaware there dating complete jerks. Thats all they are, Im just ranting but it annoys me esspecially if they stand up for them. Is it maybe that women want cocky lads regardless if they are infact losers who show off at every oppertunity and make up blatant lies.

THIS thread comes from such inspiration as girls taking back lads and giving them 100 chances. If anyone comes on here going should i leave him then yes you should. Another guy could be given the chance for a shame and maybe do a better job.

 

sorry for my views punctuation and all that just had to get something down on paper.

 

You know what? As much as I used to feel your pain in this....you are one of the guys who sits around and complains about other guys getting girls. You're assuming they're all 'arrogant' because they get girls, and you can't no matter how you treat a girl. Just like boredguy said, there are 6 billion people out there, I'm sure they're not ALL jerks and treat girls like crap...so like he said, they must be doing SOMETHING right.

 

I'm sure their are guys who do lie blatantly etc...I know them, but don't assume just cause they got the girl you want, they're "bad."

 

So you want to know the truth, something I've learned lately in life, stop worrying about EVERYONE else. Who cares about them? I don't care if they're landing every girl you can't, or if they're failing just like you and you want to 'vent' into them and take a stand that all women "dont know what they want(in guys)." So here....why don't you stop worrying about everyone else, and DO something about it. Find out what you're doing wrong, try something new, be a little more flirty(I dont know what you're having trouble with, if you want help, PM me, maybe I can help), put yourself out there, and don't sit around and wait for something to happen.

[Derge]

Yeah thanks I did come over a bit bitter its just ive got abit of a chip on my shoulder lol. Nah I didnt mean to generalise obviously most guys are decent. I also understand when they are like one of my friends who I was hoping to build a relationship with has got a new boyfriend I never used to like the other one but to be honest he's a decent bloke.

I just dont like it when some of them are obviously mistreating them and the girl comes to you going "he's done this and that............. but I love him". This doesnt make sense to me how can you love someone who deoesnt love you back and it depresses me when she in particular used to talk about her old boyfriend. Her newboyfriends become quite close friend of mine as we share similar interests.

[theantibarbie23]

Its like most of the girls I know are unaware there dating complete jerks.

 

I could say the same about some of my male friends and their lack of judgement when it comes to women. Some of these girls are quite pretty but have the personality and the IQ of a piece of melba toast. It's really quite scary. Others seem to go after manipulative drama queens.

 

I really don't understand why some people don't put more emphasis on the personalities of the people they date. I'm sure they'll get it someday... I hope.

[DropToZero]

I just dont like it when some of them are obviously mistreating them and the girl comes to you going "he's done this and that............. but I love him". This doesnt make sense to me how can you love someone who deoesnt love you back and it depresses me when she in particular used to talk about her old boyfriend. Her newboyfriends become quite close friend of mine as we share similar interests.

 

It's because sadly...feelings aren't controlled by the mind, they aren't controlled by reason or what's "right or wrong." Feelings are just gut impulses...they aren't something that can usually be described in words, and those are the feelings these girls are getting around these guys. Again sadly, sometimes these feelings can also blind you, like you say..."he's done this and that"...meaning they could cheat, or say mean things, etc...it can go on. What you don't seem to understand, is that when a girl likes a guy, it's not like a thought-process. She doesn't just sit there and weigh possibilities...like say "oh he was nice, he opened the door for me, or that guy over there is 'nice'." I mean, do you sit there and do that with every girl you meet?...or are you usually just taken aback one day when talking to her and are thinking something along the lines of "she's great...I like her." By the way, anyone can be nice, if you think that you're being really nice to all women, and then they are all turning you down, you need to re-think that, and try something new. Feelings and emotions aren't controlled by 'nice' actions...those are reason...you've got to learn to give a girl that feeling when you're around her, make her WANT to be around you, let HER wonder if you like her(instead of telling her every time you see her, or waiting like 3 months after talking to her playin it safe and "letting her know")make her WONDER each and every step you make, what will be the next...?

 

I dont know, I'm starting to ramble a bit...so if you have any problems along those lines, PM me and I can help, just do yourself and any women you meet in the future, stop complaining(NO woman wants to hear it) about who they're dating(unless he's obviously cheating and you have proof, if you're a good friend of hers, let her know)....and do something about it.