getting a date is hard-at school

[joe45]

personally i'n back to skool this semester-univ/college, well as u now previously before i asked like 4 girls out they all said No- so far this will be my last semester and final -if all courses go out well-one hard course-ecoc. i want to since it is my last semester to have at least one girl go out with me. for me its a hard task. ppl here say go ask like 10 girls out and if one says yes its a go-its a numbers game-well were u gonna now 10 girls???

trust me at my college-everyone goes to class , lecture and then leaves-no much for chit chat unless the girl sits next to ya. cafertia well-everyones in their own group of friends-u don;t just jump in-ppl at my college is like everyone just outta HS-they probably knew one another from HS or maybe elem-so ya just jump in and say can i join ya-like an outsider right.

also u aask one girl out -ur askin like every girl out-my college is small-gossip goes around fast- joe a playa, a flirt, can't get a date, ask me out and also asked jessica out omg what a playa. yea word gets out fast.

its harder than u think in gettin a date-i'm 25 and i feel hopeless-don;t get me wrong i tried, its harder than u think it is. also a lot of the decent to avg looking girls already have bfs- or are dating, its like why bother.

i not as easy as ppl say it is-not sure how some guys get lot of girls - or cheat on their gfs-but my saying is this one u get a gf and shes nice and all keep her getting a date, gf is hardddddddd.

btw i don;t go to bars or clubs

[princess81]

Well I know that it isnt easy but the dating game is all about confidence trust me I am girl you dont have to have alot of money a flashy car or be a pretty boy but you have to have some confidence and a good sense of humor goes a long way add some respect and your good to go, I know that hearing no can make you feel a litttle down but just think about it this way they dont know what their missing and move on to the next . Hope I was of some help

[corvidae]

Getting a date is hard anywhere. I'm 27 and it doesn't get easier.

[Kevin T]

It is impossible. That is probably why most students go to bars and it is also the reason why they invented dating sites and personal ads.

[Caldus]

The apparent paradox here is that since you're looking for a date, it will be harder to get one. Stop trying so hard.

[Caldus]

Yeah people usually "hook up" in college. But most of the time it ends up being a rather short "fling" and that's it.

[walkingwithaghost]

maybe you should start going to bars and clubs. if you want to be successful you have to be flexible. if you refuse to accommodate to reality (the reality of the situtation being you cant get a date at school) you need to accommodate and seek out new sexual partners else where. there are lots of great websites for this. also might i suggest lowering your standards in the looks department? best of luck...

[Kevin T]

Yeah, you meet lots of quality of people at bars.

[sweetheart230]

Can your friends introduce you to girls at all? Going to clubs and bars isn't the best place to meet girls, but if you want to hook up or have fun its a decent place for that. I just meet guys in random places. Just be out there as much as you can. I had like 2 guys try to hit on me at the bookstore today. You have to be willing to go out there. What about extracurriculars? Lots of people meet that way, apparently.

 

I asked a guy friend (who is a huge player) why he's so successful with girls and he said cause he never feels stupid and is really self assured- he is completely happy with himself.

[walkingwithaghost]

friends introducing shy guys to girls is not the way to go. avoid this at all costs. last weekend i was a party and this shy guy (who was actually kinda cute) was having his more outgoing friend introduce him to girls. this is pathetic and a huge turn off cause it's so obvious whats going on. every girl there was like "get away from me".

 

the same ppl who he goes to college with go to bars.

 

ppl are much much much more relaxed at bars. and a bar is a proper place to go and try to meet someone. thats why ppl go there. whereas ppl supposedly go to school to learn so trying to pick someone up at school can be more awkward and difficult. plus at a bar there's alcohol involved....

[Caldus]

ppl are much much much more relaxed at bars. and a bar is a proper place to go and try to meet someone. thats why ppl go there. whereas ppl supposedly go to school to learn so trying to pick someone up at school can be more awkward and difficult. plus at a bar there's alcohol involved....

 

If you like meeting drunk people, sure.

[Mr. Jones]

wow personally i think that's a bad idea whoever told you to ask 10 girls out and hope that one of them says yes. I mean, no wonder you got 4 no's.

Listen, here's what you do, instead of right out of the blue asking them out...why not become friends with a lot of girls you don't know yet. Let the friendships build and then when the moments right ask them out.