To date or not to date

[Borashi]

I have a friend, someone I met who really peaks my interest. She has a lot of the same ideals as I have and I believe we have much in common. Just recently she came out and told me she'd been in a hurtful relationship and shes really enjoying being alone. I don't mind this either as I haven't known her for a long period of time and I feel like I could benefit from a friendship with her. Have you ever had a friend who has turned into a lover or relationship?

[hosswhispra]

I do think it's possible. There's obviously got to be a 'spark' present on both sides, even during the friendship. Sometimes people just like to take things at a slower pace...those are the ones that usually turn out the most successful and enduring type of relationships (in my opinion, anyway).

 

hosswhispra

[fishrrshortae]

I agree that it's very possible, but beware of accidentally getting stuck in the Friend Zone by being her shoulder to cry on!!!

 

but yes I think there is a definite possibility of that. And I personally see it as a good sign that she enjoys being alone, because it shows that she's not trying to bounce right into another bad relationship. She sounds like she knows what she wants. That's a definite plus for any potential relationship you may have.

 

Good luck!

[the yang to the worlds yin]

yep, and it's turning out great =)