He smiled at me!!!! But it's too late..

[KIDD]

Ok, you remember the guy I liked at my teen ministry class. Well yesterday at church was a good day.You know I thought maybe he never had interest in me but yesterday was a different story. I was in class as usual minding my business. He was sitting with his friends from a distance. So I happened to stare & he started staring at me too. We stared for about 15 seconds.At first he had a serious look on his face & then I guess he couldn't help it anymore. He broke down & actually started smiling at me. I started to smile too, but after 5 seconds of smiling. He tilted his head in the opposite direction & proceeded to talk with his friends like nothing happened. Anyway, he went up to talk to the class to say that it was his last day there because he was leaving off to college this week. I was sad to hear it but I knew it would be pointless to start a conversation with him now, speaking that he would be far away from where I am.So when the service was over, I was talking on my cell phone & he was in a corner staring at me again. This time it was with a serious face. But since I had nothing I could say to him, I walked on with my business.

 

I think yesterday was obvious that he does or had something for me. Just that he gave me mixed signals like all of the time. I regret not talking to him & I think what could have been between us, if I could just stop being so shy & start a conversation. I think this was a lesson for me. Next cute guy that comes along & show interest, I will start talking. I do this alot with all of my crushes. I am too shy to talk to them or anything. I just let them stare or do whatever. I guess what I'm really afraid of is making myself look stupid or rejection, whether that they're gay or straight. I think this was an example that will make me stronger in the long run.

 

On another note, last night I was on . It's a site where you can reconnect with students you graduated high school or college with. What's funny is, I found one of my old crushes from back in middle school on there. Now he used to play around & hit on me back in the day. I think he liked me back then. On his profile it said he was committed & he had a girlfriend which is fine. I've gotten over him. So I sent him a message & I asked if he remembered me & what he's been up to. Today he replied & sent me this message.

 

"I remember u boy. we use to call u scooby doo.lol cuz u use to make dem dog sounds & you used to be real goofy. so wassup?"

 

LOL, the scooby doo thing is a long story. I used to be a little class clown in middle school. I guess it was sorta my way to get attention & I used to mimic Scooby doo alot lol. I'm surprised he remembered that lol because it's been so long ago since middle school. I'm trying to think of what can I say back to him.

[UT]

I think yesterday was obvious that he does or had something for me. Just that he gave me mixed signals like all of the time. I regret not talking to him & I think what could have been between us, if I could just stop being so shy & start a conversation. I think this was a lesson for me. Next cute guy that comes along & show interest, I will start talking. I do this a lot with all of my crushes. I am too shy to talk to them or anything. I just let them stare or do whatever. I guess what I'm really afraid of is making myself look stupid or rejection, whether that they're gay or straight. I think this was an example that will make me stronger in the long run.

 

You know, if you really like him it's not yet too late. It is what you make it. If you don't put anything in, you can't really expect anything to come out. But if you do put something in there's a chance of getting something even better in return. I'd just like to end with two quotes. "obstacles are what man sees when he takes his eyes off his goal" and "being defeated is a temporary condition, giving up is what makes it permanent" If you like him, don't give up on it until you know for sure, until you have all the facts. to give up at this early stage is like being prejudice, homophobe for example (just to clarify), you make up you mind without any facts and even though you people try to refute your beliefs (drawing a parallel here to that smile, that possible sign of interest he gave you. Eye contact, especially with pleasant smiling involved, for more than 3 seconds is considered flirting. Well, that depends you definition.) You don't listen.

[Prufrock06]

I think yesterday was obvious that he does or had something for me. Just that he gave me mixed signals like all of the time. I regret not talking to him & I think what could have been between us, if I could just stop being so shy & start a conversation. I think this was a lesson for me. Next cute guy that comes along & show interest, I will start talking. I do this alot with all of my crushes. I am too shy to talk to them or anything. I just let them stare or do whatever. I guess what I'm really afraid of is making myself look stupid or rejection, whether that they're gay or straight. I think this was an example that will make me stronger in the long run.

 

 

It's good that you've taken this experience and learned from it. I get afraid of rejection too, even from just general people I try and make friends with, not necessarily potential crushes or boyfriends. Trying to make a good first impression is a struggle...And yeah, I can't emphasis enough how much it stinks when you have to try and decipher someone's sexuality, but to put a positive spin on it: at least you will have made an interesting new friend, worse comes to worse. So yeah, take that risk next time!

 

I agree with UT in a sense though -- you shouldn't have to feel like it's completely over between the two of you. Can you maybe get his contact information? A phone number or at the very least, email address or screenname -- just to maybe keep in touch with him, ask how his college experience is going, etc. -- should do. Not sure how possible this is given the situation between you two, but it's worth a shot!

[KIDD]

Can you maybe get his contact information? A phone number or at the very least, email address or screenname -- just to maybe keep in touch with him, ask how his college experience is going, etc. -- should do. Not sure how possible this is given the situation between you two, but it's worth a shot!

 

Well yesterday was his last day in church, so I blew all of my chances yesterday, until he shows up again on a vacation or something.. I really don't know when that'll be.. maybe spring break perhaps, even this summer which is a pretty good while from now.So much can happen within that time.Maybe he'll find somebody else or maybe even me.

 

I dunno, in a sense I want a boyfriend & in another sense I don't. I think I can be fine & content with myself for a while like I mentioned before. There's no rush.With books & various things I am doing to entertain myself. Part of me would like something & part of me wants to be alone. It's a very conflicting feeling. My emotions vary from day to day, like the night I was feeling pretty low & lonely & I posted basically my whole life story lol.

 

If something happened between us, it would be a whole lot of responsiblity lol. I don't know if I could handle it, speaking that I've never had experience with dating or anything. I don't know if I could be there for him all of the time or if I could be a good boyfriend for him. If we share the same interests lol. I'll just be me & if he didn't like it, then it was his lost. So yeah I'm basically pondering what could have been. But I'm also not in tears crying my eyes out. Life moves on & different things happen. If it's meant to be I guess it will be.

 

Being single can be good & sometimes it can get lonely, but if I'm having these type of feelings, I guess maybe I'm not level enough to have a relationship just yet I guess.

[mgirl]

Nobody said you have to be perfect to be in a relationship, it is a two-way learning process. If i had my time all over again, i would probably have made an effort to stay with some of the people i had relations with when i was younger. But then again, the only person i truelly wanted to be with had the emotional maturity of a 5 year-old, so it was an uphill battle all the way anyway. The older you get, the harder it gets. Nobody wants a 35 year old who's looks have faded and is on the scrap heap!

 

I'll just be me & if he didn't like it, then it was his lost

 

Yes, i agree, it is good to be "you", but it is not his "loss" if he doesn't like you, it is just bad luck.