Confused beyond belief. HELP!

[Boricua7]

The love of my life and I have been broken up for 3 weeks now. The whole story is long and complicated. The main points are: we still love eacother a lot, we want to remain a part of eachother's lives, we might get back together...we might not, we broke up because I was demanding more time then he could give me. We broke up before this semester started (we go to different universities which are only an hour and a half away). In my German class there is this guy that I'm attracted to. His name is *John* (not his real name) and I'm kind of school-girl crushing on him. ](*,) He's good-looking and we keep trading glances back and forth in class. My problem is I don't know what to do. I'm still very much in love with *Daniel* (not his really name). I would do anything to have him back. Part of me wants to move on so that I don't get hurt if *Daniel* and I don't work out but the other part of me tells me not to because *Daniel* is the one and I would regret ever having let him go. I've always felt that *Daniel* is "the one"...always. I'm so confused as to what to do. I don't want to just sit around and wait for *Daniel*. I mean, I do but it's not fair to me. Like, I don't want to waste my time with him if there is no future for us. I feel strongly that there is though, and that's why my head is spinning. Am I a bad person for being attracted to this new guy when I know that I am in love someone else?

[RayKay]

I don't know sweetie, based on some of the other posts you have written, I am not so sure waiting for David is the best idea. That whole...we love one another, we might get back together, we might not...sounds like the same stuff that is repeated in so many other breakups. Honestly, why do you feel he is the "One"? You are still so young, I just wonder what you believe the "One" to be, or why you feel that even though you are broken up?

 

I would suggest reading "It's called a break up because it's broken" too.

 

I also don't suggest you rush into something else with someone else quickly, it will only cause more confusion in your feelings, prevent proper healing, and maybe cause regret. I advise you wait until you ARE definitely ready to move on and healed within yourself enough to do so.

[Boricua7]

I know I'm young and I don't know if later on in my life I will be like "why did I think HE was the one?". All I know how I feel now and that's all I can go on.

 

We have been through a lot together. We have shared things with eachother that we have kept to ourselves our entire lives. I have never felt for another human being the way I feel for him. He has always been there when I needed him and vice-versa. I would do anything for him and I know that he would kill for me. He is not the first person I have ever loved. I have loved two other guys in my life and have found it relatively easy to get over them. He is different, I can't fathom ever living without him. The way we met felt like it was planned by something greater. I may just be being naive, but this is how I feel. There are just so many reasons that I cannot explain for knowing that he is it for me; reasons that may not even make sense. I can carry on an intelligent conversation with him, we make eachother think and we challenge eachother. We are physically perfect for eachother, as if we were built for one another. I fit inside his arms perfectly, my hands fit in his perfectly, his head fits perfectly on my shoulder and in my lap, we are exactly the right height for one another (I'm 5'10'' and he's like 6'1''). We have so much in common and are yet so different. We were both in band, we both love acting, we are both athletic, we are both good students and at the top of our class, and we have the same random taste in music. We share the same beliefs in God and when it comes to life. We have the same morals and values. I have always liked guys with dark hair, dark eyes, and fair skin and he has always liked hispanic women. We are so amazingly compatible! I didn't realize exactly how much until I started typing this. I swear we're meant for eachother. It's scary though because I am only 18 and he is only 19. You're not supposed to find love like this until later in life, when you're ready for it financially and because you are mature enough.

 

He has implanted himself in my life and I have done the same in his; we are deep-rooted. We have so much history together for two people who have only known eachother for a year and a half and have loved eachother for exactly that long. I know that no matter how hard I try, I can never get rid of him. He is a part of me. I know now what it feels like to be complete because he completes me. How am I supposed to be happy knowing what it feels like to be complete and not being so?