prettydance Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 All my friends have either got married, stopped being friends with me, or gotten pregnant and preoccupied. I never thought it would happen to me. I had some fun friends, had connections with fun parties,friends who i confided in-talked for hours with, went to shows, concerts, laughed alot.- i have no one to talk to now except for my mom and I'm lucky to have her.. Now I'm left alone. It feels awful.I never smile anymore. I'm 28 and single. Has this happened to anyone else? I mean how do you cope. I'm never happy anymore just sad. Link to comment
may55 Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 Make new friends! Friends come and go thru life. Get out there and meet some people that have something in common with you. Link to comment
prettydance Posted January 17, 2006 Author Share Posted January 17, 2006 How do you make new friends at 28? I dont meet people like myself at work and i am done with college. I live in NYC- not a firendly place Link to comment
emma34 Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 Although I'm younger I can sort of relate, being that I'm kind of in limbo. Moving to university, I've been forced to start a whole new base of friends - and I find many times I just plain don't want to, and am sad in being alone. But anyway, my sister is 26 and is single and we hang out a lot. It's easy to just accept the fact that you have no friends are all alone/become clingy towards the friends you have - but the truth is, it's time to start over a bit...as frightening as that may sound, move on, find new friends and aquaintances - and there is no formula for this, but essentially it often goes with joining clubs, church, classes are fun, stuff like that. Life long friends are a dear thing, but they are rare. keep your chin up and try to fill that void with something productive. Link to comment
musicguy Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 I'm 26 and I'm in the same boat as you are prettydance Link to comment
ariyadhana Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 I've lost most my friends in the last year or so, the closest of them ended our friendship just a few days ago. I feel your pain. What are your interests? There has to be a way for you to meet new people. Could you volunteer somewhere? Join a book club? Sports club? Take cooking lessons? I think the more we opportunities we allow for new people to come into their lives, the better chance of finding those people we can form a close bond with. Link to comment
prettydance Posted January 17, 2006 Author Share Posted January 17, 2006 Sorry to hear it, it really sucks. Has it gotten better for you? I'm 26 and I'm in the same boat as you are prettydance Link to comment
prettydance Posted January 17, 2006 Author Share Posted January 17, 2006 Maybe I should join a gym or something like that. I dont know i just find the older you get the harder it is to make new friends. When people are younger their not really judging you so much on how much money you have, what you do, where you live, etc. I live in NYC and people are like that here. Maybe I should figure out what im going to do, like take a class maybe. I just never thought I would be a lonely person. Its almost like a nightmare. I feel like Im in junior high again, its also bringing back bad memories. I was alone back then with no friends. Havent been in this situation since 13. Pathetic. I've lost most my friends in the last year or so, the closest of them ended our friendship just a few days ago. I feel your pain. What are your interests? There has to be a way for you to meet new people. Could you volunteer somewhere? Join a book club? Sports club? Take cooking lessons? I think the more we opportunities we allow for new people to come into their lives, the better chance of finding those people we can form a close bond with. Link to comment
nikki blu Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 I feel like that sometimes. Last year, I decided to start going out by myself. I met some great people, ended up with a date (didn't work out), but give it a try...keeps you from becoming a lonely hermit! Link to comment
Amano Ginji Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Hi prettydance. I can relate to wat u sayin!.I'm going through da same phase of life where u gotta just move on. Its been a year for me..Still alone n haven found a group of friends dat can replace da old one's. I had posted a similar thread.I tried going to da gym..Doesn't work!. Trust me,Being alone is not dat bad.N after 4 months of trying I can tell u one thing,The harder u try..The worse it gets.. think about it..Only spoils ur mood! Link to comment
mgirl Posted January 21, 2006 Share Posted January 21, 2006 Well, i've got friends that are too unstable, not nice people, or use me as a low priority. Recently, this so-called friend of mine who swore allegiance to me, informed me she was at the tennis, when she knows i love the tennis. I was wondering, "where is my invitiation"? She knows i live on my own and that i like the tennis, yet i did not even get an invite. It is like i am not good enough for her small group of friends or something, but she doesn't mind inviting me out when it's just her and i. I really don't understand what that friendship is about and have just about had the final straw. I am going to find some people who i am a high priority with. I am in my 30s by the way, and life is pretty lonely if you are single, but i don't let it despair me. I am going to join some groups soon, or do some volunteer work. Anything to get out of the house. Link to comment
krissbrown Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 Mgirl I had a friend do that to me, she would never invite me out with her and her friends. Then when she got married she had a fight with them and put on a show that I was her best friend at the wedding in front of them. I sat at a table with them and thought "this is who shes been hanging out with instead of me" These people had personalities of a wet mop. I'm 29 and I think at this age going into the 30s it is very hard to find new friends. Most of my friends are married. I was listening to a radio show the other day and they were talking about friendship and the host said "friendship is overrated" He said who really has good friends? Made alot sense. I have mostly aquaintances. I dont trust my old friends anymore to confide in them, their married, boring and country pumpkins who I have nothing in common with anymore. And they all married people they hardly even like. Only person I confide in is my sister. Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 Hello, I know what your going through! Don't really have many people to talk to or go out with. so i've signed up to link removed and i've met some really nice people who are looking for friends too. Check is out it's worldwide. Link to comment
LISA22 Posted February 13, 2006 Share Posted February 13, 2006 i feel the same way i lost all of my friends because i started only spending time with my boyfriend and now i have none. now that my boyfriend is gone i'm all alone and don't kno what to do. Link to comment
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