End of week two

[crossflow]

Well it's been 2 weeks and boy has it gone fast. This time two weeks ago I was at the Police station being accussed or assaulting my ex wife after she decided to call them because I walked out on an argument that she wanted to have and I didn't.

 

After that it's just been a big whirlwind starting off on day 3 when I had to go to court to defend myself and decided to agree to not go near her for 12 Months because to be honest I was happy with that. I accepted no blame because I didn't do anything but I really wanted some space between us.

 

Day 4 back in Court again to get an injunction on her from moving the kids interstate so I couldn't see them again and a contact order so if she stopped me seeing them I could have her buster for contempt.

 

Day 5 she agreed I could have both my kids for the weekend woo hoo

 

Last Saturday had a great day with the kids

 

Sunday went to drop them off and the ex does not turn up

 

Late Monday finally mange to contact her via lawyers and she said I can keep the kids until the custody hearing in Feb.

 

Tuesday I get child care sorted out for my three year old and start hunting for a new house, went for a walk down the beach with the kids

 

Wednesday get an email saying she is not going to court to fight for custody and will sign custody over to me.

 

Friday, real estate agent confirmed we can have the house subject to references.

 

Saturday have a great day with the kids, did a load of clothes shopping for my 12 year old, so now she has a new wardrobe after I replaced her Christmas money after the ex took it from her. Had a friend look after my 3 year old over night so me and my daughter went out to a restaurant and went to the pics to see Harry Potter.

 

Today, another great day, kids have started to settle really well and loads of hugs and laughing.

 

Had no contact with the ex since Wednesday and I'm actually starting to feel that I might actually get through this a lot easier than I expected.

 

I have now sorted out care for my 3 year old during the day so I can get back to work, school for the 12 year old all organised, new house in progress, registered with new doctors, found a home for the pet dog that my ex left at the old house, collected the kids clothes and toys from the old house, been to see my counseller and arranged the removal of the furniture from the old house to come to the new house for next weekend.

 

If she thought dumping all of this on to me was going to through me into a pit of depression it hasn't worked, in fact it has really motivated me into getting the kids settled, happy and back into a routine, so all starting to look up

[steff]

wow it sounds like everything is working out for you and your kids, thats great, and im glad that ur sooo happy to be with them

 

i hope everything goes well for you in the future with you kids, dog, and new house.

[newts]

Just a question, do you think your wife may change her mind again before the due date of the final custody? Has she signed full custody of your children over to you? I am just worried she seems to be very unstable and unpredictable. I would hate to see the kids have to go through anymore because of her.

 

Why and who broke up this relationship? Has she got someone else?

[crossflow]

Just a question, do you think your wife may change her mind again before the due date of the final custody? Has she signed full custody of your children over to you? I am just worried she seems to be very unstable and unpredictable. I would hate to see the kids have to go through anymore because of her.

 

Why and who broke up this relationship? Has she got someone else?

 

Should get it all signed off tomorrow but if she changes her mind again it just makes my case stronger. I'm pretty sure she wont and even if she does I'll face that bridge if I have to.

 

She doesn't have anyone else that I know of, although she has this guy that professed undying love to her and she threatened to take the kids and go live with him, but I think that was more to upset me than being serious. And I don't care if she is anyway as long as she is happy.

 

I had left the house for a couple of days to get some headspace and then I broke up the relationship after she tried to kill herself 2 days later because my 12 year old was there at the time and I had a hard time trying to come to terms with it all. Big issue for me is if we got back together again and it didn't work would she go and do it again. I just couldn't carry on the relationship in that environment and was very concerned about how this was all impacting on the kids.

[newts]

Yes, I can see where you are coming from. Being a woman myself (I don't have kids) I find it very hard to believe that any woman could leave their children or try to commit suicide in front of them. Good luck tomorrow, you sound like an absolutely fantastic influence on your children and you seem to be someone who will drop everything to help them or be with them, this is the type of stable parent your children need. Will she have anything to do with them in the future?

[crossflow]

Yes, I can see where you are coming from. Being a woman myself (I don't have kids) I find it very hard to believe that any woman could leave their children or try to commit suicide in front of them. Good luck tomorrow, you sound like an absolutely fantastic influence on your children and you seem to be someone who will drop everything to help them or be with them, this is the type of stable parent your children need. Will she have anything to do with them in the future?

 

I hope so because the kids love their mum and I'm never going to get in the way of them being able to see her or her them. Right now though I really want NC so I'm going to arrange to drop them off and pick them up where I don't actually have to see her.

 

I might not like what she did to me or the way she has tried to use the children just to upset me but I won't say a bad thing to them about her because it's just not fair on them. I tell them every day that their mum loves them and will continue to whether she see's them or not.

 

Personally though I am more than miffed that she has had no contact with them at all since she decided not to turn up last week and left me to deal with a very upset, confused and rejected 12 year old. Especially after getting the message that she didn't want them back. And it's not like she isn't contacting them because she doesn't want to hear my voice because my daughter has her own mobile. She hasn't even sent a text asking how her how she is.

 

Anyway that's beside the point I guess, main thing is the kids are settled back into a routine, are happy and are hoping to see their mum at some point soon.