Does anyone wonder if your ex has ever read your post

[pissedoff]

Does anyone wonder if your ex has ever read your post? stupid question i know. but what are the odds of you coming in her to vent and your ex has come here for support also? that would be kind of strange huh?

[steff]

i luckly dont have that problem, because no one i know, knows about this site so i can use friends names and use the real situation and know that my friends want actaully know it was me thats why i use this site to vent.

[Shadows Light]

hmmm... then I suppose you have to just be a bit more circumspect about

names/places and the way you describe things.

 

But.. ummm. NO. Never minded. Don't think I care really. He wasn't listening when I asked him to... so thats leaves me HERE... posting to the rest of the world looking for a place to vent, solace, direction and advice.

[shorty20]

well steph... just because they don't KNOW about the site dosen't mean they won't FIND it. I didn't know anything about this sight.. was just searching for advice one day... so I'd be real carefull about using real names and stuff. None of my friends are on this sight either, but I still don't use names or anything, JUST IN CASE. As far as ex's go, I kind agree with Shadows Light... the stuff I post about ex's or boyfriends now... is all stuff that I've tried to tell them, and they either won't listen or don't care... so if they happen to fall apon one of my posts... well then I guess they'll actually know how I feel then. Not too worried.

[RayKay]

My ex does not know.....I don't even care if he did, long time past anyway

 

My boyfriend does know though, he found it one day while googling around and yes, found me too! I was more concerned with how he would feel reading about "ex" situations then current things. Anyway, he knows I am here, does not really understand it well though can see why it is positive for many people, and also respects it's "my thing" so leaves it as my private space.

 

Pretty rare I make "personal posts" though anyway, so I don't fret too much, and if I were, they are things he knows about anyway since we have talked about them...this is just another "medium" for me after communicating with him about things.

[SuperDuper]

When you have a post like RayKay's you know you're in a steady relationship. Not worrying about whether he reads it or not because the topics are covered between you two already.

 

Lucky.

[Boricua7]

My ex knows I'm on this site. I've showed him and he's read my posts while I was with him. As far as him keeping up with my posts, I have no idea. I don't really care either. I come here to seek advice, to vent, and to help others. I don't see anything wrong with it and I know he doesn't care. As far as I'm concerned if this is what it takes for me to keep my sanity, more power to me (and everyone else who just needs someone to listen)!

[krissbrown]

you could change the names when you post,,i mean alot of stories here sound like my prblems but their not. I think alot of people have similar issues, if you change the names they wont know it s you

[crossflow]

Got me paranoid now , just deleted all my old posts just in case

[Shadows Light]

Sorry to hear that CROSSFLOW... hey don't stress. What are the odds?

I stumbled on this sight quite by accident. I'd been traveling the myriad web of sights clicking, clicking, clicking...

 

And the night I found it.. it was as if there was a divine hand in placing it on my screen.

 

I found situations simular to mine, others more bizzaire... and found that I my situation "really" was not all that unigue. Others had traveled the same worn path.

 

Just be a bit more cirucumspect and change names/places. Really the names and places aren't as important as what the issues are. If you are asking for help on something you can not work out on your own... what is the harm in that. If you are venting... is there harm in that. Its the situation from "YOUR" point of view.

 

Remember 2 people can see an accident... and both will report it differently. When reading other peoples stories, I try to take into consideration there are TWO sides of a coin. The Querient is the most important since they are the ones in pain or perplexed by a situation. So I respond to them directly.

 

I've learned a great deal about myself on these boards as well. And although I continue haphazardly on my journey one foot forward, two steps back... there are things that I do have that I can offer other people.

 

If my X is reading my opinions and what I have to say and is upset by them. HEY.. what can I say. It is who I am... and if he doesn't like what he hears... maybe thats WHY we arn't together today.

[Down-In-A-Hole]

It'd be a dream come true if I found out anyone I'm dating or previously dated read my posts. That would mean that they are aware of the site and more than likely interested in learning about relationships/bettering themselves.

 

I joined in 2003 and have been in 4 relationships since then. Each relationship gets better because of all the help/advice I have read and received from everyone here throughout the years. If more people were interested in helping themselves like the people who frequent this site are, I think we'd have a lot more healthy and successful relationships!

[Boricua7]

It'd be a dream come true if I found out anyone I'm dating or previously dated read my posts. That would mean that they are aware of the site and more than likely interested in learning about relationships/bettering themselves.

 

I joined in 2003 and have been in 4 relationships since then. Each relationship gets better because of all the help/advice I have read and received from everyone here throughout the years. If more people were interested in helping themselves like the people who frequent this site are, I think we'd have a lot more healthy and successful relationships!

 

All I have to say is this: I concur!

[acuraman]

It really never crossed my mind. But now since you have mentioned it, I HOPE NOT!!!!

[crossflow]

 

If my X is reading my opinions and what I have to say and is upset by them. HEY.. what can I say. It is who I am... and if he doesn't like what he hears... maybe thats WHY we arn't together today.

 

Hadn't thought of it like that and of course you are right.

 

I just had an email from her the other day moaning about a post I had on another forum that I use, she looks me up as a member and then go's through all my posts to see what I am saying. I had to change my password after I realised she was even going into my private messages.

 

So I deleted them only because I don't want her contacting me and using this forum as an excuse to make contact, but at the end of the day, on balance I can always just delete her emails as I am actually gaining a lot by using this site and am not just going to stop using it in case she finds me on here.