jeeper Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 Better to be in love with someone or to love someone? Brett Link to comment
darkblue Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 This modern interpretation of 'love' and 'in love' bugs me. To be 'in love' with someone means that you feel the highest level of affection for them and want to be with them. I.e. Romantic love. But now, people use the word 'love' so commonly, that it can just simply mean that somone cares about you, but doesn't feel that kind of 'affection' for you. It's platonic. Link to comment
jeeper Posted January 5, 2006 Author Share Posted January 5, 2006 so would more meaning come from saying "I am in love with you" rather than "I love you" Link to comment
darkblue Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 If the individual believes that they are indeed two separate emotions - yes. Link to comment
jeeper Posted January 5, 2006 Author Share Posted January 5, 2006 Well alright then, thanks darkblue. Link to comment
brando Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 i always thought loving someone meant more than being in love with someone. "in Love" doesn't seem to last very long, scientificly speaking. To love someone is a challenge. Their is an old story, a young couple "in love " been dating for some time. The boyfriend decides he will ask her father for her hand in marriage. He tells the father i love your daughter more than anything in the world, and i would like your blessing for me to marry her etc... the father looks at the young man and says: "I understand u love my daughter, but do you like her???" I think this is even a higher priority than being in love or loving someone else, does one actually like that person. i know this isnt a straight forward answer, but it isnt a straight forward question. brando Link to comment
chai714 Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 Brett, To me they mean the same thing. It's really a black and white issue - you either love someone, or you don't. In between, there are like, dislike, and indifference. Link to comment
darkblue Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 I don't differentiate between the two, personally. But I know that more and more people; especially younger people - are using in love as a different term to love. Link to comment
Mr. Honeytoast Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 I agree dark blue. People these days, especially us younger generations, dont know the true meaning of "love" or being "in love". I agree being in love is a higher degree that love. I don't know if it is better or not because when you are "in love" you tend to over look a lot of qualities that you dont like. When you love you see all their qualities. Link to comment
jeeper Posted January 6, 2006 Author Share Posted January 6, 2006 I see what everyone is saying about the younger generation(myself included). I know a lot of people that say they love someone else but i always wonder. I care a lot about my friends so do i love them? i sort of see it as being a different sort of love i guess...I learned that love is caring about someone elses problems and everything going on in their life as much as I care about what is happening in my life, that leaves it open to interpretation. Brett Link to comment
darkblue Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 It definitely is open to interpretation. That would be the fault of the English language. In Greek - there are four different kinds of love to clearly distinguish. Philia - would be the love you feel towards friends. Platonic 'love'. Eros - being romantic love. 1 Link to comment
jeeper Posted January 6, 2006 Author Share Posted January 6, 2006 It definitely is open to interpretation. That would be the fault of the English language. In Greek - there are four different kinds of love to clearly distinguish. Philia - would be the love you feel towards friends. Platonic 'love'. Eros - being romantic love. Ah yes, i go to a private school and one of my classes was basically about love. we talked about Philia and Eros...im definitely thinking more along the lines of Eros when i asked the original question. Link to comment
darkblue Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 Y'know - I've explained the Greek words about 5 times on this site and you are the first one that hasn't responded thinking I have gone insane. There we go. Greek is the answer to our love questions. Link to comment
jeeper Posted January 6, 2006 Author Share Posted January 6, 2006 haha, well the Greeks seemed to know what they are talking about Link to comment
Mr. Honeytoast Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 I see what everyone is saying about the younger generation(myself included). I know a lot of people that say they love someone else but i always wonder. I care a lot about my friends so do i love them? i sort of see it as being a different sort of love i guess...I learned that love is caring about someone elses problems and everything going on in their life as much as I care about what is happening in my life, that leaves it open to interpretation. Brett The way i love my friends is definatly just love. I think being in love is reserved for romanticism. On another topic, i believe us younger generations use the word love without really meaning it. I have a few friends that say they love everyone. I personally dont see how that is possible. I dont think what they mean is love. I think what they mean is like. I define love as doing anything(if possible) for that person. Giving your life without hesitation to spare theirs. I can honestly say that i only truly love a few select people, but i like many others. I just dont know those others well enough and long enough to love them. Does enyone else feel this way? Link to comment
emilena Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 you're all so serious! im one of those 'younger generation' types - i love a lot of people. i had many an argument with my (now ex) boyfriend because he couldnt deal with how much i love my friends and family. i hate how we must define everything so neatly. if i feel like saying 'i love you' or even 'i'm in love with you' - whether its to my best friend, my goldfish, my boyfriend or my parents, or whoever, then i do - maybe just for that moment, maybe for ever and ever, maybe always and everywhere. love nonetheless. must we spend so much time trying to discover what 'love' really is? does it even matter? i think i'll stop typing now before i go off on a rant about how things as complex and interesting as emotions are belittled by reducing them to straightforward and boring definitions... Link to comment
darkblue Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 Emotions are complex things. Love, is even more so. I really don't like the use of the term 'in love'. I think, for some, it's could represent that 'lust' - the 'honeymoon phase' of a relationship. That either dies down into love, or ends... (I'm rather bleek today, arne't I?) Link to comment
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