Is this a big deal?

[shorty20]

Well, I've been posting alot latley about my guy. Lots of drama, condoms breaking, me having emotional breakdowns.. lol, it's been a big week. I called him yesturday because for some reason, being with him was the only thing that made me feel better. We spent the whole night together, and he just held me. I really needed it. I woke up this morning feeling alot better than I did yesturday, thank god. Anywayz, he calls me this morning and his boss is taking him and all of his co-workers out to dinner tomorrow, and he wants me to come. Is this a big deal? We haven't established titles yet, but we did establish that we aren't dating anyone else. I'm just wondering what guys think about this? Should I consider this a big deal that he wants me to come to this work dinner thing and meet all his co-workers? I'm kinda nervous to go, but I told him I would...

[RayKay]

GO! I think it shows he is interested in including you in his life, and thinks pretty positively of you to show you off to coworkers!

 

Relax and enjoy, don't read so much into it sweetie, just have fun!

[shorty20]

k, i will! I also have another question though... the other day we were talking, adn he had a friend that had just broken up with his girlfriend. We agreed to not really announce the fact that we're dating to this certain group of people because they're nothing but drama and are a big reason why things didn't work out before. So, my guys friend calls him and says he's single now and wants to go hit on some girls with him. My guy just kinda blew it off... said if he wanted to he could hang out with him at his house. Now.. it's my opinion that window shopping is ok. By window shopping I mean looking, but not acting on it... kinda like you have no money but u still go shopping, just to look. He disagreed and said if you're with someone you like, you should have no reason to want to "window shop"... what's your guys' take on this?

[RayKay]

Maybe he felt if he went, he would be pressured into trying to pick up, and he feels that is more then window shopping? I think he was trying to respect your relationship.

 

I am more in line with his thoughts on it. Honestly, when I am in love with someone and committed to them, I am bored to death by window shopping, and have no interest in doing so when I have a perfectly awesome "model" at home.

[darkblue]

It's a personal choice.

Peronsally, I don't see any harm, as long as it never goes past looking.

[shorty20]

I am just saying more for the sake of a friend in need... his friend had just broken up with his girlfriend and wanted to pick up some girls... I trust my guy enough not to do anything that would disrespect me... and I'm just talking window shopping in general. I mean, in my theory, you know you don't have money... you know you're not going to buy... it's just fun to look sometimes

[RayKay]

I am just saying more for the sake of a friend in need... his friend had just broken up with his girlfriend and wanted to pick up some girls... I trust my guy enough not to do anything that would disrespect me... and I'm just talking window shopping in general. I mean, in my theory, you know you don't have money... you know you're not going to buy... it's just fun to look sometimes

 

But you have to see...that just because you see it this way, does not mean he will, right?

 

Maybe he felt his friend might be hurting himself more by going out to window shop at this point, maybe he just felt it would not be a positive night out, maybe he just does not have an interest in window shopping. Especially early on in a relationship, it feels all about the new person, you have no attention span for even looking!

[shorty20]

technically we've been trying things off and on for about 11 months... I guess the RELATIONSHIP is new because we never really established what we were before, but we've always known we liked each other

[Day_Walker]

I believe that some people would say that this is a good sign but I think it can be a good opportunity to meet his coworkers.

[lovecrazy]

GO on the date and have a great time! Just things happen naturally!

[shorty20]

oh I deffinatley plan on going with him... I'm just a bit surprised. He's never included me in his life like this... like wanting me to meet his friends and stuff. The other day he didn't want to call his friend from my cell phone becasue he said his friend would call me all the time and try to steal me, and that he couldn't afford that? And he's also been real jealous of my friend David. He claims he's not, but he met my friend David at my New Year's Eve party, and my friend David was pretty intoxicated and hitting on everyone, and my guy kept on asking if I'd ever dated David, and got real possessive... this is just a side of him that I've never seen... don't know what to think of it

[Tigris]

It sounds to me like you've caught him, 'hook, line and sinker', now!

 

Go to the dinner and enjoy yourself.

[Silver Glow]

Your wondering about the relationship and what you are.. you call him "My guy" and..

 

I trust my guy enough not to do anything that would disrespect me..

 

Which is precisely why your guy didn't go out picking up girls with his friend who is on a rebound. His friend thinks your guy is available and the truth of the matter is, he is not.

 

But, your questioning what you are to each other? Just because it isn't stated out loud with the formation of words, doesn't mean you aren't together. Well unless it's stated that you Aren't together.

 

Go, enjoy and do like the second replier said.. don't read so much into it. Or, tell him you need things defined so you know where you both stand with each other if you need to. Personally I think your sort of dating each othre exclusively if he's refusing to go find some girls.

 

If you like him alot, then this should be great news and enjoy the work party!