Is it love?

[loveandlive]

Hey everyone. I'm new to this whole thing, and thought I could really use some advice. But the one question I have right now it, how many of you believe it is possible to be in love with someone you have only been with for 3 months?? Actually it hasn't even been 3 months yet.... but... geez is this real? It feels real, and he says the same, but I just want to see other's opinions because I don't want to get caught up in the whole "love" idea... and be naive. Thanks!

[Tigris]

Yes it's possible.

 

I fell in love with my second husband the first time I saw him and he did with me!

 

Recently, I fell in love with my Fiancee. My love for her flows deeper than the oceans and soars higher than the mountains! She's made me the happiest person in the world!

[win]

i say let yourself be naive!

 

the feeling of elation is something to cherish, whether it be real or not, let yourself be happy and not worry about it. if it feels good to you to tell him you love him, then so be it!

 

love is in the eye of the beholder, not something anyone can define. you could fall in love in 3 months or 3 hours.

[novaseeker]

Yes you can "fall in love" in that period of time. You won't know until later, however, whether it settles into a "settled" love.

[Relationship Coach]

RW,

Welcome to ENA!

 

I can only speak from personal experience being that everyone here has their own take on their feelings on this.

 

I believe that it is possible to enter the "love zone" as I call it as early as a month or two in to a new relationship. The feelings and roller coaster ride is certainly laced with infatuation but I feel it is a part of the recipe for love. The burning desire to be with that person coupled by the physical symptoms of having the sensation that it's hard to breathe and your chest gets tight when you're with your partner is certainly common in this phase. Obsession takes over and puts common sense in the back seat as well. We often can't focus on the things that really need our attention such as work, school, friends and even family. This person becomes such a part of our life that we temporarily forget what life was like before their presense.

 

Now as we shift in to the "love phase" we start noticing their flaws and accepting them, we learned to put their feelings first and relinquish our selfish ways to creating space in our lives for them, their baggage and any emotional baggage as well.

 

The "love" morphs and changes as time passes and without realizing it, you've become one. You complete each others sentences, have that freaky "couple esp" that allows for silent communication and you no longer have to ask them what they want on their hamburger. At this point you have settled in and survived the slight lull after the honeymoon stage and accepted that there is no one in this world more suited for you than your partner.

 

This to me is the life cycle of love. Realizing that the person you are with is not someone you can live with but someone you cannot live without.

[ocrob]

RC, that was such an awesome post. I was just going to say that it is ok to be in love and you can be in love, but just take things slowly and don't rush into anything. Whether you are in love or lust it takes a long time to get to know someone. Love is an awesome thing, but marriage is something very challenging and should be respected and feared. lol

[diamondprincess]

yes its possible. it only takes on average 2 days to fall in love with someone. your heart doesnt have a limit to the time it takes to love someone