He E-mailed Me.

[DanceWithMe02]

There's this guy I've known for a little more than a year now. We were good friends, and then he began having feelings for me, and things were different because I didn't have them in return. For a while he respected my decision, but then all of a sudden he was just rude, and he hurt me (not physically), but it hurts to have a good friend become a total jerk to you, he's kinda been the same ever since (this started about 3 months ago) and I don't know why, but I'm still friends with him. We're on winter break right now, and we haven't talked for a week. He sent me one of those e-cards thing and I'm kinda obliged to open it. I think that I'm feeling like I really don't want to be his friend. I don't know. What am I feeling? Do I open it?

[AlwaysNeedHelp]

. For a while he respected my decision, but then all of a sudden he was just rude, and he hurt me (not physically), but it hurts to have a good friend become a total jerk to you,

 

how did he hurt you ? what did he do ? maybe he is just doing this because he still likes you and want to show that he doesnt care anymore..

 

He sent me one of those e-cards thing and I'm kinda obliged to open it. I think that I'm feeling like I really don't want to be his friend. I don't know. What am I feeling? Do I open it?

 

Open it and see it... You wont lose anything if you open it.. Maybe he is sending you something nice..

 

There's this guy I've known for a little more than a year now. We were good friends, and then he began having feelings for me, and things were different because I didn't have them in return.

 

How did you react when he told you his feelings.. How did you treat him afterwards..you became more friendly to him ? same level ? ran away a little ?

[AKsuited]

Do you think maybe he still likes you? The friends revealing their true feelings experience is always a hard thing to deal with. There's only two paths from here really, one is he can continue just being a friend or the other is that he still has these feelings for you and can't let go of them. I've been in both situations. In the former, I developed feelings for a good friend of mine. She didn't return these feelings, but I was surprisingly ok with it. We're still really good friends now, and I harbor no ill-will towards her. In the latter, I still have sort of have feelings for this one girl, but I don't think I really just want to be friends. In this case, I know I may be cynical, but I don't think we can be friends if I have these feelings. It's better to just let go of the friendship, in my opinion. You have to figure out which one of the two this guy falls into.

[PocoDiablo]

Man, he's acting like a class act moron.

 

If I were you, I would tell him the next time he wants to ask a girl out, he can't wait a year to do it and then act like a big baby when he gets turned down. After you've known someone for a year it's rare for the woman to suddenly have feelings for him the way he wants.

 

Believe it or not, I can just about guarantee he's been liking you for a year. He's just too socially unskilled to realize he needed to ask you out a year ago.

[Ghostrider4042005]

poco is the man maybe he shouldn't have waited a year to tell you how he felt about you n maybe if he wouldn't have you could be together but it definitely wouldn't have been the best on your part so talk to him about it n see how things turn out