sex didnt make me come

[tinkerlizzie]

my bf and i spent a few hours watching porn nd touching ourselves. we then went to his place to have sex. we had the most craziest sex yet, but he was unable to restrain himself and came too early before i had reached my peak. still determined, he continued to pleasure me but nothing happened. this didnt bother me cause if i dont come it isnt the end of the world, and i care about his pleasure before mine. yet, he seemed upset that he peaked too soon and we both got dressed quicker than usual and drove to my place in silence.

i assured him that i wasnt upset and thanked him for everything, but he still seems pissed. did i do something wrong? is there something i can do to make him feel better?

[in_the_mirror]

you didn't do anything wrong...guys just have this power thing that they need to pleasure their girl...this is a good thing, it means he really cares about you and wants you to be happy. the fact he couldn't restrain himself should make you feel really good, but a lot of the time girls can't have an orgasm during sex, and sometimes it may just be a mental thing at the time, maybe you had your mind on something else. unlike guys we can think about other things..... anyways i wouldn't worry too much, you have plenty of time to pleasure one another, its not a life or death situation in one sexual encounter with each other.

[Shadows Light]

No.. you didn't do anything wrong. His ego was just p rickeed. You didn't orgasm and that is important to some men. (thank-god its a good thing GF).

 

Anyway.. you just may have been over sensitized.. too much of a good thing can be a good thing. You spent a few hours being overly sensitized.. that yeah.. its sometimes harder to get over the edge.

 

Don't dwell on it too much. He'll get over it.. and probably try harder to have you go over the edge next time. (you lucky girl).

[tinkerlizzie]

both of your replies mean so much thank you! i just tried talking to him about it and he got all defensive...anyway it means a lot!

[Shadows Light]

ohhhh darn... of course he got defensive about it..his ego was shot. He's still licking his wounds... Let it go.. Its all good. Don't stress.

 

And.. yeah, most women do not go over the edge through penetration but through clitoral stimulation. Either oral, or manual. Soooo this could have something to do with it. But if he did try oral and manual.. and nothing.. two things. One.. it takes women ON AVERAGE 15 minutes to get to peak. And wo.. it could have been that you were overly stimulated.

 

AND.. most guys don't like to pop their corks so quick. HE was also overly stimulated. Hey.. .it happens.

[ocrob]

I think this guy had a great time and he wanted you to have one as well. If you know how to have an orgasm just let him know. I would guess that his tongue could do it. Just teach him and tell him what you like. Most guys want to pleasure their woman. If you know what works, then let him know. He will be 100% committed. If you don't know, then just tell him he is amazing and that you will experiment till it happens.

[mariergn]

hi

 

the male ego can be a bit bashed in this situation , but at the end of the day at least you were honest.. he should be glad you are not faking it. Be careful here as the pressure to orgasm will become too much as you will be worried about him and his feelings.. hence No orgasm!

It takes time with the right environment etc...

explain to him that you dont have to "O" all the time as it is kinda nice anyhow..

maybe give him a bit of guidance in the clitoral stimulation area and you will be on a rolll!!!!

[Shadows Light]

mariergn.. is right. Not all Big "O"s are big O's... sometimes they are quiet. And kind of ahhhhhhh. And other times its like a volcanic eruption. No way to predict which you'll get it happens.

[MissJones]

I think it's difficult for a guy to understand that you can still have mindblowing sex without an orgasm. We're physically and mentally wired differently. Some of the most amazing sex I've had has been without an orgasm and I've had average sex with average orgasms. For me, it's quantity (and sometimes quality). The other night I had a sex session that I can't get out of my mind and I didn't come. It was just awesome.

 

I think it's only natural to take it personally. If I couldn't make my man come, I'd naturally think it was something to do with me. It's all about the ego. I'm a firm believer in teaching them what makes you feel good. For example, when he goes down on you, tell him how you like it. Don't be afraid to voice it because how else will he know? Good luck and have fun