Ex Called After 10 Days Of NC

[acuraman]

My ex contacted me tonight after 10 days of NC between her and myself. She called me from the hospital to tell me that she just had her apendix removed. She sounded very sad on the phone because she had to go to ER on Xmas Day and has been there ever since. She began crying because she was suppose to go on a trip to NY for New Years with her friends tomorrow night, but the hospital is keeping her for a few more days.

 

We talked on the phone for about 30 minutes catching up on things and she thanked me for the Xmas presents I got her. She asked me to come see her tomorrow and say hi. I told her I would stop by with some flowers to see how she was doing and to cheer her up.

 

Do you think she misses me or do you think that because shes in the hospital, she wants me to feel sorry for her? She was the one who initiated the break up 2 weeks before XMas.

[Tigris]

The only way you are going to answer your question is by going to the hospital and talking to her.

[curlyl1]

Hi

 

I hope i dont make you worse here, but i am actually looking for a bit of advice. My partner dumped me the week before xmas and asked me to move out. The only reason he gave was that he was no longer "in love" with me, but he did still love me. I have been devastated. Cant eat, sleep etc. How did you cope?

[novaseeker]

acuraman, I think it's just very hard to tell because of the circumstance of her being in hospital, which makes the whole thing very hard to interpret. I would be wary of reading in too much interest into her call, however, because she is after all in hospital.

[Lady Bugg]

I agree with Nova....many times people tend to gravitate toward the familiar

when they are either in a crisis, or some sort of bad situation. Ie, the hospital, jail , etc. It's not neccessarily a BAD thing...

[Lady Bugg]

I agree with Nova....many times people tend to gravitate toward the familiar

when they are either in a crisis, or some sort of bad situation. Ie, the hospital, jail , etc. It's not neccessarily a BAD thing...I would feel flattered if my ex thought of me first in a crisis. it would mean they at least knew they could count on me to some degree. On the other hand , you don't ONLY want to be the person they call because of lack of choices when they are in a rut.

Simply put.....don't allow yourself to be used.

 

Your ex pobably felt lonely and scared in the hospital...and who could blame her? This is a trick situaution..because if it were YOU in the hospital and called HER and she didn't come or talk to you...wouldn't YOU think they were heartless and cruel? The thing iwith this is doing that balancing act..of being "just friendly" or going overboard....and trying to be their knight in shining armor. I think a nice gesture with flowers is good....but keep it there. No professions of love, or how you want her back. Keep it light and upbeat..like you would a co worker or something. Just stay neutral.

If she misses you..she will tell you. Events like this tend to bring out the sentimental side in people....so just see what happens.

 

Hope this helps a little...

[acuraman]

I went and visited my ex today at the hospital. It was really good to see her again. Her mom was with her when I got there, but she had to go to work so my ex asked me to stay with her for awhile because she didn't want to be alone. I ended up staying for almost 5 hours with her but I didn't mind. She was really drugged up and it was peaceful watching her sleep most of the time I was there. We both kept our conversation to simple questions and didn't speak about our past relationship.

 

I could tell how much she missed me because every time she opened her eyes, she would give me a little smile and stare at me for a second or two. I could also tell that she was really depressed because all of her girlfriends were going on thier trip to NY and she wasn't. It was hard to cheer her up and get her mind off of things.

 

For Christmas I bought her a home theatre in a box and she asked if I could help her with it and I told her I would. Im just glad that she is speaking to me again after our break up.

[acuraman]

Hi

 

I hope i dont make you worse here, but i am actually looking for a bit of advice. My partner dumped me the week before xmas and asked me to move out. The only reason he gave was that he was no longer "in love" with me, but he did still love me. I have been devastated. Cant eat, sleep etc. How did you cope?

 

Im sorry to hear that the two of you didnt spend Xmas together. This break up was extremely hard because of the holidays. What helped me cope was just being around people all day and night, and if they were at work, I would just go to the gym and do things that would keep my mind occupied. The thing I hated most was checking my phone constantly to see if she had called me or if there was a text or voice mail that I might have missed. Night times were the hardest for me because thats when I thought of her the most.

 

All I can say is that it gets easier as time passes and eventually you will become stronger. Good luck and keep us posted.

[curlyl1]

I am glad things are looking a bit roser for you. Do you want to be back in a relationship with her? How did you feel talking to her? How did you survive not talking?

 

Sorry - but i am in a similar situation, and dont know what to do

[curlyl1]

Think our messages crossed. Thanks for the advice. I am worse in the mornings. Keep wanting to text or phone

[acuraman]

The hospital released my Ex today and we spent almost the whole day together. We had a really good time watching DVDs at her home and we even joked around with each other. Since her stomach hurts from surgery, making her laugh proved to be painful for her, but it was good to see her smile and happy.

 

There were no akward moments between us, and I felt real comfortable being around her again. Im glad that she contacted me after what we have been through.