Im Really Still Confused..its Amazing

[mikey24]

I still just do not understand what I'm doing wrong, and I again, I need help on this one.

 

Okay, so about a week and a half ago, I made a post about this girl that I just really like, and I had titled it "WEIRDEST POST YOU EVER READ". If you had read it, then you remember it, but if not, here's a brief refreshing: I've been dating a woman for about 2 months, and this is our 2nd time trying this. We dated briefly in 2003. Well, I brought it to her attention that I want to be bf/gf and take it to that level. She never gave me an answer until the next day by a text message that said this:

 

"Hey I'm Sorry I Fell Asleep Last Night. I Like You a lot Too But There Are A Lot Of Things Going On In My Life That Make It Hard to be Serious with Someone, like the fact that my parents love my ex and Invite him to everything which makes me mad or the fact that I do still love him but I also know that him and I aren't good together. So I Am Really Confused Because I Love Hanging Out With You - You Are so Laid Back Which I Love and We Have Fun, But at the same Time I Don't Want To Get Hurt, But Sorry for the Novel. I just felt Like I Had Some Explaining to Do. Have A Good Day and if It makes it any better, I Wanted to Be With You"

 

Well, ever since Thursday, I have not talked to her. She called me once, and I called her back on Christmas Day and left a message on her phone wishing her a Merry Christmas. It seems like I'm some kind of back-up or something for her to lay on, I'm not sure yet. I have a feeling she might have gone back to her ex, but I don't know. I know all of you will just say to move on, but it's really hard to when I feel that she is the "one". I have dated other people before her, and it just has made me want her even more, because it's like nothing compares to her. I have more chemistry with her than anyone else. But pretty much what it boils down to is, I'm pickey and I just know that we could have a very good thing together. I'm thinking that if I walk and give her NC, I'm pretty much just slapping life in the face. What in the world do I do? I need to chill out, yes, but when you feel it and you know it, it's very hard too relax, especially in this situation. And also especially when she thinks I'm a player, and has some trust problems with me. Help!

[PocoDiablo]

Well I think you are still in the same boat. If she liked you, she'd contact you. But she hasn't and I think that sums it up.

 

Sorry.

 

No matter how much you like her, if she doesn't like you back then she cannot be the one. You made some mistakes (as mentioned before) and now you have to take your lumps, so to speak. Tough lesson.

[ShySoul]

Tried replying to this last night, but my darm computer frooze. ](*,)

 

mikey24, She told you everything that she is feeling.

 

I Like You a lot Too

 

I Love Hanging Out With You - You Are so Laid Back Which I Love and We Have Fun

 

I Wanted to Be With You

 

All say that she does like you.

 

But There Are A Lot Of Things Going On In My Life That Make It Hard to be Serious with Someone

 

But at the same Time I Don't Want To Get Hurt

 

She is going through a rough period and doesn't know where her heart is. She likes you, but is afriad of starting something goes she doesn't want to get hurt. Do you know of anything that has happened to her that could make her feel that way?

 

fact that my parents love my ex and Invite him to everything which makes me mad or the fact that I do still love him but I also know that him and I aren't good together.

 

Probably this. She isn't over an ex, even though she knows they shouldn't be together. To make matters worse, her parents are trying to force him on her and thats just making her more confused.

 

She is going through a lot emotionally. She may not be in the right frame of mind to start something with you. Doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't like you. She may really like you, just be thinking that its better to not get to close and feel the pain know, then to get closer and have things go bad later on, hurting her and you even more.