she loves me, she loves me not?

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last week, i called my girl as usual and asked her how things was goin and stuff like that, and she said she went to a party with her neighbor. so she started to talk about the party and she said that another boy came up to her and told her that he liked her andhe gave her his number,but she said that she just left it on the couter so i just talked on it for afew seconds and just left it, because i do trust and believe her. BUt to me, any right boyfriend would be alittle jealous and concerned if another dude is out there hittin on his girl and he cant do nothing about it. am i right? but as i said i didnt dwell on it.

anyway we talked on the phone for afew minutes, then she said that she had to hang up but she would be on-line in a couple of minutes. when she came on and we said one or two sentences and she said that her parent said that her parent said that im not givin her enuff space.( I ONLY CALL TWICE A WEEK AND MOST OF THE TIME TALK TWO HOURS TOPS. come on guys and gals, im sure your girlfriends and boyfriends call you more than that),but i still believe that it was said.

Then acouple of more sentences were said then i cant remember the exact words but something came up then i said we are still in a relationship. and she said "no". i was truly surprised cuz just acouple of days before in an email she said she loved meand whateverand she even acted as if she really liked me still . she said she was sorry and that she thought i knew.

correct me if im wrong but doesnt the old saying goes "action speaks louder than words. well what is it with her in this respect? anyway that night we talk on the net for acouple of hours cuz she didnt want to leave after tellin me that, it really hurt me and i guess she knew it did.

anyway after that night i didnt call her bak until a week later, but i still didnt want to talk to her on the phone so i told her to come online, but we still ended up talkin on the phone later that noght and she said she loved me.

how could that be after beiong only a week prior that she didnt love me, i happy for it and everything,but its crazy and i would like input as to what yall think about this.

[Dregnought]

Love, like Trust, isnt absolute. It goes up and down. Even the littlist of things can change it. Sometimes the person you love you just dont feel the love, and other times you feel it exploding out of you. I bet thats whats happening with her.

 

i said we are still in a relationship. and she said "no"

If she said no, like that, thats interesting. I'l dwell on it for a while.

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how could that be after beiong only a week prior that she didnt love me...

Well I didn't catch where she first said she didn't love you? Did she say to you "I don't love you" or something like that or are you just going on her actions?

 

Actions do speak louder than words (IMO) but words can still speak pretty damn loudly Lol.

Her saying that "no" you are no longer in a relationship does NOT suggest that she doesn't love you.

 

Her parents sound kind of strict and this is why I think she says there is no relationship... She DID say that she loves you and so that suggests that a lack of love is not the reason why the relationship is temporarily not on.

 

I'd say that she would be in a relationship with you if it wasn't for her parents. Do you think so?

So I'd give it time, it's likely she will become more comfortable with her parents restrictions or they may relax them a little bit and she will be happy to be in a relationship again.

 

BUt to me, any right boyfriend would be alittle jealous and concerned if another dude is out there hittin on his girl and he cant do nothing about it. am i right?

I'd fell pretty lucky that other guys like the girl your with and lucky that you are with her

I don't think you need to feel concerned. It's just about trust.

It's likely you will feel jealous but remember that a guy can give her his number and that means nothing - you are the one who can call her your girlfriend.

 

So just keep at it, keep talking and going out and things like that.

If her parents are the reason for her decision and "no" then just give it time, I think it will work out well. She really likes you so be hopeful.

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it might be becuz of her parents but if it is why doesnt she just tell me. it would make me feel better than how she is looking like she's turning me down herself

[coooolsome]

Well it seems as if she is confused and letting her parent cloud her thoughts. If they think that, then give her the space she thinks she needs. Stop calling her, and start being really really busy. Its a maturity thing that she will have to learn. She cannot just listen to anyones opinion and let it cloud her decisions otherwise it will happen all of her life. Give her, her space and hopefully she will realize that her parents dont know what they are talking about.

 

That also means that you cannot fight this. You cannot tell her you think her parents are wrong because if you take that fight, you are going to lose very badly. This is something she needs to figure out herself.