u know what pisses me off!!!

[sukerbut]

I'll tell you what pisses me off...the fact that i did everything in my power to bring happiness and stability in this girls life. Support love talks, etc. she forgot all teh good times we spent together..everything i did to make our relationship special..cooking dinners for her, writing poems, spending time talking for hours on the balcony watching the world go by. taking her out regularly while all her other losser g/f's habve not even been to a dinner. vacations...how are all those things forgoten..last time i spoke to her 22 days ago..she made it a point to real throw some hurt on me...she was like when we go out to dinner its fun but we can t hang with each other for extended periods of time .. its just does not work...what the hell are u talking about for 8.5 months we had the best time together...july you are telling me i am your favorite person in the world and i make you so happy...we have one bad month and now all of a sudden the only thing i was good for was entertaining you....what the {Censored by Moderator}! How do you go and say that to some one after they have done everything in their power to bring haappines and stability into your life...I will never forget those words..It really pisses me off that she would say soething like that...Like i said i am just venting and i have hit the hate part stage of this break up. How do i go from future husband to your personal entertainment..thats what hurts..how can someone be so cruel and belittle something so special. did she forget all the wonderful times...at least she could of said..i just got out of school..the pressure of me marrying you, getting a job and my family life are too much for me...at least i wouyld of accepted that..i would of at least felt some sort of grattitude..but for her to coem up and say these things really makes me think of what my realtionship truly was..and that really hurts so much...I thought she was the one..i will be nothing but a emory of dinners to her..ugh! i really hate her...Why would she go and say these things?

[Day_Walker]

People change their minds, at one time you may have been those things for her but it has changed. People also deceive and from her perspective it doesnt hurt her to have a person around who cares for her so much and does all of those things for her. Just from what you have said things stopped being fun and she wasnt getting the kind of attention that she was used to having from you and she decided to call it off. Be thankful you found this out now instead of 3 or more years down the line. Not all relationships are going to work, its just a part of life.

[sukerbut]

i know but this is the third time she bamboozled me!! you woudl think i learned..oh well..time to move on...so much for fate and soulmates..more like pain and heartaches

[shorty20]

u might think that now, but trust, it only gets better. Here's a thought though... maybe you're supposed to meet a few wrong ones before you meet the right one, so when you do meet the right one you'll be able to appreciate it... I'm sorry you're hurting, it does suck. PM me anytime you need to vent or talk. Good luck hun.

[Mun]

You did alot for her, did she do the same amount for you ?

 

I believe there are alot of people out there who are takers...for whatever reason she took from you, healed herself and then moved on. Maybe she didn't even see this relationship the same way you did...it sounds like it. You were thinking forever, she was thinking right now.

[sukerbut]

I KNOW. she needed the love and comfort and goot times for a while and then when her love tank was full she bolted...i was hesitant dating her again, but she introduced me to her entire family as her future husband..may - july she really went out of her way to prove to me that i could trust her..made me see that we were on the same page..i knew what i was getting into..everybody around me tod me pete be careful..i said i know what im doing...as soon as i felt comfortable in the relationship..her feelings changed...we had history i thought maybe just maybe it was meant to be..wrong!!! i am starting to get more comfortable with the situation though...i really think she wanted it for a lil bit but then got bored..again i feared this would happen but i let my heart down by trusting her completely, but she was so sincere. i think our 17 motnh stint was the longest relationship she has ever had...they ususaly only last 6-8 motnhs for her..i know this because i know her history very very well.

[Mun]

It sucks when people change their minds, but it happens. I hope you feel better soon, believe me I know how you feel.

 

Hang in there.

[hockeyboy]

u might think that now, but trust, it only gets better. Here's a thought though... maybe you're supposed to meet a few wrong ones before you meet the right one, so when you do meet the right one you'll be able to appreciate it... I'm sorry you're hurting, it does suck. PM me anytime you need to vent or talk. Good luck hun.

 

just to follow up on this point...i 100% agree. Im about to go on a date tonight actually...and when i think about it, i realize that if i had not dated all those other girls, some of whom completely broke my heart...i would probably be a completely different person (for the worse). Although ex's have caused me a lot of grief, at the same time, they have taught me so much about myself and how i want to be which will only make that one special relationship i have someday that awseome and possible. a lot of bad things have good sides that revail themselves later.

[alphonsefa]

Hey Pete,

 

I'm there with you man, and it doesn't get any better. I'm so sick of hearing that line! It's been 10 months since my breakup. I dated a drop dead gorgeous woman who could be sweet as sugar one moment and the devil himself the next. She had come out of a 6 year abusive relationship, with an overweight, dead end job having, white trash, loser! He mentally abused her and physically abused her the one time I know of. Two of her brothers found out about the abuse from her 12 year old daughter that heard the whole thing going on from her bedroom. So 2 Christmas's ago, they knocked on her door, he answered, and they drug him down the steps, beat the tar out of him and put him in the hospital. He later sued them for $8,000 and won the lawsuit. It ruined her relationship with the 2 brothers and severly strained her relationship with her Parents and her other siblings. The suing thing is only the tip of the iceberg of the things that this scum bag has done to her.

 

I was good to her and her daughter, and got the same family charade that you got from your girl. She'd take me over her Parent's house and have me over at family get togethers. Her Parent's, sister, and other brother, loved me, because they knew I was good for her and good to her, and her daughter. I loved the kid like she was my own! But what I came to learn is that this girl battled bouts of depression and low self esteem and had a history of sabotaging all that was good in her life. Anyone that was destructive for her, she drew closer, and anyone who was good for her, she pushed away.

 

As time passed, we had broken up 3 times. She would run back to him, then break thing off with him and then a month later, come running back to me. The 3rd time I'd had enough of it, especially when I learned that afer the 2nd breakup on Christmas day, a week later on New Year's she went back to that fat, dirtball, loser. So when she started her garbage agiain leading up to the 3rd time, I let it all out. Told her that it was sick for her to lay in bed crying because she didn't get an engagement ring from me on Christmas, and then a week later she jumped back in bed with him. She would've gotten the damn ring but she flaked out the first time (ran back to him for 2 days) right before Thanksgiving and I had pushed the time table back a little. Then told her that he was a sick (4 letter word begins with F) for treating her the way he did, and she was a sick (4 letter word begins with F) for continually going back. Might seem harsh to some people but I ahd enough of being toyed with and used by this time. Also told her never to call again, and she angrily said she'd never call me again. She did 3 months later just to see how I was doing, if that makes any damn sense?!

 

This 3rd breakup went down on Februaury, and being Christmas and all, i get stupid again and figure I'll stop by the mall where she works to feel her out and see of she had changed any. I should've known better because even after the Abusive Ex won his lawsuit, she went back out with him!!! He tool $8,000 of her brothers money, and she goes back out with him! So when I stop in the store to see her she is very stand-offish and dismissive. I ask her, "why won't you talk to me"? She says, "because your last comment to me was that, "I was a sick ****". So I said, well then why did you call me 3 months later, just to see how I was doing? Her answer, "well I was wondering how your new job was going". Then before I got the chance to say anything else she said, "I'm busy I don't have time for this", and she went behind the counter. So I left the mall and left her a parting message on her answering machine, basically asking, "why the double standard"? I said, "you mean to tell me that my comment is on the lever of the BS that he put your family through for the past 7 years? Yet you somehow always forgive him, someone that's done things to you that I could never imagine doing to someone I cared for"! I was pissed too, pissed being held to a ridiculous double standard. He could hit her, sure her, hold her against her will, and destroy her family life; yet my comment she couldn't get past. What a whacked out, self destructive, psycho (you know what)!!!