i'm devistated, please help me

[mysteriousGIRL]

This is the second time my boyfriend has dropped me for no apparent reason.. last time was because he was annoyed with me, and this time he is annoyed and accused me of cheating lying and decieving..

 

he still trys to hang out with me, we end up doing a couple stuff together, but everytime after we have sex he tells me you know this doesnt change anything..

 

 

now everytime i try to talk about us he gets annoyed.. now he doesnt want to have anything to do with me..

 

tell me how can i get him to talk want to be with me again.. we been together for so long he comes back to me time after time, i know he loves me, please help me please......

 

 

I try not to call him, but is so hard i work with him, and i miss him. How can i do the NC when he is there every single day?

[Bobo]

Ok, I know this may sound harsh, but drop him. He doesnt sound like he's worthy of you, or generally worth the hassle. It sounds as if he's just using you. If he has these feelings for you that you say he has, then dropping him will give him a reality check and make him realise how badly he's been treating you, which should make him come back to you. If you drop him and he doesnt ask for you to have him back then that'll show you those feelings were false.

 

Im sorry this all sounds harsh, but relationships have to work both ways....

[theantibarbie23]

This is the second time my boyfriend has dropped me for no apparent reason..

 

tell me how can i get him to talk want to be with me again.. we been together for so long he comes back to me time after time, i know he loves me, please help me please......

 

I'm sorry but why the heck are you chasing after a man that's so unstable? I can't imagine having to worry about being dumped at the drop of a dime. That's got to be very stressful on you. Why do you keep allowing him to leave whenever he feels like it and then take him back with open arms?

 

If you continue to accept behavior like this it will NEVER change. It only makes you look like a doormat. It makes him think he can treat you however he wants and you'll just keep coming back for more. You need to STOP letting him treat you this way!

 

He is using you for sex and companionship while he continues to enjoy having the freedom to play the field. He has to know what he's doing hurts you and yet does it anyway to satisfy his own selfish needs. Does this really sound like love to you? You are worthy of someone whom will treat you with respect. That's something you're not getting from this guy.

 

You need to stop seeing him (especially for sex). If he wants you back, let him earn it. If he decides you're not worth the effort, then let him go for good. I know you've been with him a long time and say that you love him but you need to love yourself MORE.

[capricorn85]

Okay Mysterious it is time for me to keep it real with you...

 

He is playing games big time! This makes me upset because my ex put me in the same situation. We would have sex then he would say "i do not want a commitment" One time he told me "Maybe I want my cake and eat it too!" Since that day I have been doing NC. He is coming to you because he knows you will be there.

 

Mysterious, right now your what I like to call "The Chaser." You are chasing after this man who wants you when he feels like it. Now ask yourself for what? Ask yourself why am I chasing him when he does not want me all of the time. It must be harder since you work with him, but try to ignore as much as possible, or if it gets bad you may have to switch jobs...

[PocoDiablo]

this time he is annoyed and accused me of cheating lying and decieving..

Unless you cheated on him and are not giving us the whole story, then it's because HE is cheating on you.

 

he still trys to hang out with me, we end up doing a couple stuff together, but everytime after we have sex he tells me you know this doesnt change anything..

Sounds like something a player would do.

 

now everytime i try to talk about us he gets annoyed.. now he doesnt want to have anything to do with me..

He's playing hard to get, making you wonder what is going on, so you come crawling back for more. You do all the work, he gets all the rewards.

 

tell me how can i get him to talk want to be with me again.. we been together for so long he comes back to me time after time, i know he loves me, please help me please......

If this is how he treats someone he loves, I would be afraid to see how he treats someone he doesn't love.

 

I try not to call him, but is so hard i work with him, and i miss him. How can i do the NC when he is there every single day?

You can't. You have to get a new job.

 

I knew a woman like you for a year and a half. Her BF, Jonathan, did this exact same thing to her for the longest time. She caught him cheating and still came crawling back. What is happening is that he is playing a game with you - he is pulling back and you're reacting to the challenge and are coming after him like a cat chasing a string.