A wonderful guy but i don't think there was a spark...

[neya]

Well, the good news is that before I was posting about my ex who turned out to be a truly insane, unfaithful, drug using monster. Who, i also wasted about a year of my life on. But once the truth really hit me I got my phone number changed and moved on and feel wonderful. Here is the new problem.

A good friend of mine and I are involved in an organization at school where we tutor hispanic people in english. And we are both fairly fluent in spanish. She has been dating a guy from mexico. I'm about her only friend that can be involved in that side of her life, because he speaks almost no english. I have been hangning out with her and one of his friends, Manuel. Manuel is a really nice guy. He is nice, he always helps people out, and is the type of guy who will treat a girl like a princess. He really likes me, and he told me about it. I told him i didn't know if i was ready for a realtionship quite yet, but I would like to get to know him better. And despite all his good qualities I haven't really been sure If i thought of him as anything more than a friend.

Well, last night he finally made a move. We have kind of been dating for about 3 weeks now, but we have never kissed. Last night he walked me back to my car and he kissed me. And I felt nothing. I have only kissed one other person In my life, but that was something I definitely enjoyed. Last night I just wanted him to stop so I could leave. I feel terrible because he is a really nice guy, and he would be a million times better to me than my ex was. My one friend says maybe it's just because he was so nervous and I should give it more time. I'm afraid to do that, though, because if i still feel the same way I will hurt him more. I'm also afriad to say no, it's over, because what if i miss out on a good thing. But if there's no chemistry will it develop? I don't know what to do!

[rionmccloud]

Your call in the end, but if there's no spark how can fireworks be set of? Be honest with yourself, then with him. You'll feel better in the end. And it's only been three weeks, I think he'll live. Just be honest with yourself and him.

[Gorax]

But if there's no chemistry will it develop?

 

Nope.

 

Still, he'll be a good friend.