where do i begin?

[snoopy826]

i broke up with my boyfriend about two weeks ago. he was my first boyfriend and there's a bit of a story i guess that goes with this, or a past i guess you could say.

 

i met him about 4 months ago, and we started seeing each other. then after about a month we broke up because he had somethings he had to deal with, and he didn't want to me to get involved because he wanted what was best for me. so we separated for about two months with out really talking to one another. the longest two months of my life. then the week before halloween we started talking again (well online at least). then a few days before halloween i went to a party and his room mate just so happen to be there as well (i still get along with his room mate). so he day after the party he msged me and we talked for like 4 hours online, then he called me on the phone and we talked for another 3 hours or so, needless to say we got back together. now we have once again broken up and it has been the longest two weeks of my life. the reason for the break up was simple, he told me that he was finding himself thinking about someone else. thats simple enough he's thinking of someone that isn't me, simple right? but why did he have to say that he never lost any of the feelings that he felt for me? why did he tell me that he still really cared about me and liked me? thats what makes it a little less simple.

 

he msged me recently and it sounded like he cared, but i find that hard to believe. i don't know why but i find it hard to believe that he still cares or he even worries about me. although he says he still does. i find it hard to believe anything that come out of his mouth. all i know is i still really care for him and i really am worried about him all the time, i mean he was my first boyfriend ever, as well as my first kiss, and my first for other things as well. i know that i shouldn't care about him, cause apparently i should just simply move on, but i can't. i know i should be getting over him but i don't know where to begin. so if you have any advice please i would love to hear it. where do i begin to move on? how do i get over him?

[registered]

It is quite likely that he does care for you still... he told you that he had feelings for another girl and doinf this probably saved you hurt in the long run - what else could he have done?

 

thats simple enough he's thinking of someone that isn't me, simple right? but why did he have to say that he never lost any of the feelings that he felt for me? why did he tell me that he still really cared about me and liked me? thats what makes it a little less simple.

That is probably true. If it isn't true then maybe he was just letting you go as gently as possible?

I think he still cares though.

 

You should try and move on... I'd accept that it is over - if the situation changes then worry about that then (if you want to).

You will have to forget all about him and distract yourself. Keep yourself busy and don't think about him. Maybe someone else can add something better.

[snoopy826]

i know that what he did was the right thing to do...and some where inside i know he still cares, it's just i wonder if it would be easier if he didn't care. but i don't want him to not care, cause at least now i know that i still have some part of him. but thank you for advice i have been keeping myself busy...friends are my best comfort at the moment. thank you

[Danny H]

Good luck, first love is really hard to deal with as you have no reference points to go on ( on 2nd thoughts it don't get a great deal easier later on!-lol)

 

I have got to say that he seems to be a little confused himself, so best to get on with your life, he knows you care for him, if he sorts out what he really wants, who knows maybe you'll be a part of it.