i know i have to talk to him, but how?

[Jessica45]

There is this guy, let's call him J, Okay, so J is a generally quiet person and he makes the effort to come and talk to me, though. He's just trying to get to know me, but i just kind of brushed him off. I listened and responded sometimes, but then a lot of the time, my mind isn't really focused on him. Now, he doesn't really talk to me anymore. He still smiles at me and he's being really respectable of my space, but I know i have to talk to him, or just at least let him know that i actually really like him as a person. I'm really shy myself and not known to be very open, but i feel like i have talk to him. I know i should talk to him, but i just can;t bring myself to do it. It's just too awkward for me. ANy tips on how to get myself out there and just talk to him. I know i'm making this so much more complicated than it needs to be, but i feel really bad about how ignorant i was to this guy.

[DN]

What do you want from him?

[Beec]

Just say "Hi" and he'll know you want to talk.

[Jessica45]

I want to make it up to him. I just feel bad about how i treated him. i wasn't open to him, and i just want to say sorry. Everybody says he likes me, so i probably made him feel really sad. I feel terrible!

[arwen]

Do you want anything more than a friendship with J? If not, I think you should be careful with the message you send out. If you do want to date him, I'd just ask him out or cook him a nice dinner to make up for it.

 

Ilse

[DN]

I agree with Ilse - if you don't want a relationship with him be very careful that you don't give him the impression that you do.

[ShySoul]

Just work up there nerve to talk to him. If you do then he probably won't care about how you were before, he'll just be glad to be talking to you.