Work Christmas Party + Cute Girl = ???

[antigravity]

Hi, I've got my work christmas party on friday, and there is a girl I've been eyeing for a while who's going to be there.

 

We work on different floors, however we've caught each other's eyes a few times... But we've never spoken.

 

Whats the best way to start talking to her? Should I try and find out a little about her background (she looks very exotic... can't figure out where she's from)??

 

What should I say about myself?

 

Thanks in advance!

[emma34]

Yeah..I would ask someone else you know about her, maybe get some inside information. It could be especially easy to start conversation is shes from somewhere "exotic".

[registered]

It could be especially easy to start conversation is shes from somewhere "exotic".

Lol, there was an ad like that on tv years ago...that coffee ad... Oh well lol.

[Amano Ginji]

Y not ask her where shes from..??..A good way to start a conversation?..OR am i wrong?

[PocoDiablo]

I'd just walk up to her and start talking about ... whatever.

 

Hey, I was at a bar last night and some cute girl sat down next to me (to be with her friends) and I struck up a conversation by asking her if she could guess what appetizer I wanted and I handed her the menu. She actually got it right on the third guess (with a little hinting) and we ended up all talking for hours.

 

Assuming she is alone, walk up to her and say something like "Hey, I see you around but you never come over and say hi to me any more. What's up with that?" Be joking, smiling, of course, and see what happens.

 

Basically, ASSUME the connection and you'll make one.

[Broken_Doll_ParTs]

Assuming she is alone, walk up to her and say something like "Hey, I see you around but you never come over and say hi to me any more. What's up with that?" Be joking, smiling, of course, and see what happens.

hehe, I agree with Pocodiable...

 

Its a good way of striking up a converstation! or you can just start with asking what nationalilty she is because she looks exotic Just show her how charming you are and she wont be able to resist!!!!

 

Good luck!!!!

[antigravity]

I think I'll just ask her about her nationality... I'll be able to tell pretty much straight away if she's interested.

 

Hahaha.. I have to worry about not acting all awkward, let alone charming!

 

But i'll try.

[Dating Coach]

I always found that when you plan things out it makes it harder. It was always easier for me to just wing it.

[antigravity]

Yup.. I'm with you on that one diggity..

 

Cut a long story short.. I had a quick chat with that girl... Wasn't really any spark which was fine. I definitely didn't make a fool of myself. Chatted for a little while.

 

Ended up meeting a girl later on in the night who is really sweet (from work also)... We really hit it off. Stayed up all night cuddling and kissing. Great stuff.

 

Thanks for the advice everyone...

 

Oh and Diggity... your previous advice has definitely helped me. This girl seems pretty keen. Already sent me an sms saying how much she enjoyed the night.

[ShySoul]

Odd how the people who never plan things out are the ones with detailed plans that they are always talking about.

 

anti, I am going to give you a sure fire hit of a line. I'm probably going to be labeled a geek for saying this (of course, I am a geek so thats nothing new to me), but last summer there was a reality show called Beauty and the Geek featuring a group of extremely smart but not so smooth guys paired with "beautiful" but not the brightest of girls. One of the challenges was for the guy to approach random women at the mall and see who could get the most phone numbers. You know what worked the best?

 

"Hello, my name is _. Nice to meet you."

 

No funny line needed. No thought. Just a simple hello does wonders.

[Dating Coach]

Odd how the people who never plan things out are the ones with detailed plans that they are always talking about.

 

I know what you are doing here ShySoul, and to me, it further demonstrates what kind of person you really are. And FYI, you are completely wrong and off the point with that remark.

 

Antigravity, I am glad my advice has really helped you. That is why I post here because I wish someone would have helped me in the same way when I was in the midst of all of this as well.

[antigravity]

I know what you are doing here ShySoul, and to me, it further demonstrates what kind of person you really are. And FYI, you are completely wrong and off the point with that remark.

 

Antigravity, I am glad my advice has really helped you. That is why I post here because I wish someone would have helped me in the same way when I was in the midst of all of this as well.

 

Thanks Diggity, you've definitely helped me out.. So have you ShySoul.

 

HOWEVER! I don't have a set "plan", in my mind "plans" never work out because every situation is different, but you do need an idea on how to act... I'm still learning this. But I'm getting better, and feeling more comfortable around girls.

 

It's surprising how a bit of female attention can change your entire image of yourself.

 

I think more than anything, being confident, but not over confident, being modest, and being able to laugh at yourself and at other things is the key.

 

And girls ARE NOT attracted to the emotional guy.. Well not at the start anyway. I've learnt that you've got to play things cool, don't open yourself up at all, and keep things VERY casual at the start. It's this mystery of who you are that intrigues and attracts women.

 

I'm a very emotional person, but I'm learning that there is a time and a place for opening up. And it isn't the best time when your getting to know someone. Girls just don't like it for some reason.

[antigravity]

So cheers guys, I'm in a way better place than I was 3 months ago, and I owe a lot of it to the help i've gotten from the people here.

 

I'm more confident, and happier with my life. When I find a girl, I don't become attached to them, because I know there is more to life than that.

 

Everyone has friends, family and hobbies and interests.. These things will always be there whether you have a partner or not.

[ShySoul]

anti,

 

The girls I said on the other post, attracted partly because I wasn't afraid to show my emotions. Acted that way from the start. If anything, they wanted me to open up more right away. Found the shyness cute and appealing, and wanted me to open up to them. Girls themselves were shy, so we related well and once two shy people hit it off like that, not so shy with each other after. Food for thought.

 

Your right, things don't work out like you plan. Something tends to throw a wrench in it. That's why I follow a go with the flow method. When I tried to come up with things to say, I always got so worked up on what to say and how it was going to go, that when something didn't work out according to plan, was tripped up and didn't know what to say. Also don't want it to seem like I'm saying something rehearsed or generic that I say to anyone. I've learned to live in the moment and say what comes to me at the time, whats in my heart right there. Tends to come out sweeter, more meaningful, and touches the person more. As long as I stay calm, things tend to go well.

 

And good to hear you are doing better. Keep it up. Happy Holidays.

[antigravity]

Happy holidays too ShySoul..

 

I think my problem is, when I open up, I don't know when to shut the doors... Things all of a sudden get too serious for me!

 

I think I'm a pretty caring, honest guy, and I hope those qualities shine through when I meet someone, but I don't think being "Mr. Emotional" is the way to go.

 

But Shy, if you're finding success that way, then I'm definitely not going to stop you with that. I've just found things different where I am, and with the girls I meet.

 

Stay safe mate.

[ShySoul]

Don't be Mr. Emotional. Don't be Mr. Hold Back on Feelings. Just be Mr. Antigravity and do what you feel is right. Thinking is the enemy, just following our hearts is often best.