tease her yo please her

[pete89]

ok so i like this girl ive been talking to her alot on aim and i am going to hang out with her and to get her everyone told me tease her to please her, how exactly can i tease her im trying to figure this out a really need good advise on this one and i think ill have it all

[easyguy]

You can't plan on teasing her. It's like planing a joke -- it doesn't work, unless it's a stand up comedian. It's in the moment.

 

All teasing is is turning something unimportant about her or something she is doing or wearing, and making it funny. Like if she is wearing some toy looking earings or a watch, say like "Nice earings -- Toys r Us?"

 

I just teased this girl in a recent thread here, by taking something that some people wouldn't catch and making it a bigger deal. link removed

 

I'm making fun of her mistake, but in a funny way.

 

Keep in mind that teasing doesn't ALWAYS work online because she may misinterept how you say it. In person, you don't want to say it with a serious tone of voice.

[JRM]

I'm not really sure how easyguy teased RainDance in an effective way, but he's right about taking something insignificant and making it into something funny.

 

Make fun of her little insecurities, like height, bad habits, stupid ideas, ect. Get into little fun arguments about each other. Don't go overboard, though, as you could hit a bad nerve, or just seem to be too much of a joker to be taken seriously.

 

Also, don't tease her in such a way that would insult her as a person. Don't poke at things like her hair, skin, teeth, family, things like that. Your goal is to make her feel happy, light, and comfortable with you.

[pete89]

thanks a lot that helps

[ShySoul]

Don't tease, aim to please.

 

You catch more flies with honey....

[skyteph]

As long as it's playful, and obvious, teasing, I don't see a problem

[MetallicAguy]

Ok Shysoul proof right there girls don't have problems with teasing.

 

Don't tease, aim to please.

 

You catch more flies with honey....

This is total ****. I think you truly don't understand teasing, neither have you done it, which is why you don't understand it.

[ShySoul]

Well, it comes from the one girl whose always been against what I say. But plenty of others have got what I'm saying.

 

And if you had the weekend I just had, you'd all be changing your tunes. Being nice gets you places, and if it works, why bother with teasing?

 

And I get teasing. I also get how sensitive people may not like it. Try accidently hurting someones feelings because of a stupid bit of teasing that never needed to be said. I can make a girl laugh, smile, and feel good and I never have to remotely say anything in the way of teasing. Really, you can be funny without teasing. And a kind word goes a long way.

[MetallicAguy]

All girls are sensitive I believe. Deep down they are.

 

 

I also get how sensitive people may not like it. Try accidently hurting someones feelings because of a stupid bit of teasing that never needed to be said. I can make a girl laugh, smile, and feel good and I never have to remotely say anything in the way of teasing. Really, you can be funny without teasing. And a kind word goes a long way.

 

I'm a sensitive guy, girls have teased me, am I offended? Hell no. Actually I think it's attractive.

 

laugh, smile, and feel good

Teasing does all of this in one conversation, it usually happens several times. It brings out a "unique" emotion in girls, I don't know how to explain it.

 

 

I think you think it's teasing like mean teasing. Playfully teasing is a whole different story, and girls identify it as flirting and not speaking for women but I think they like it. I don't think I've ever had any negative effects from teasing.

[ShySoul]

I'm a sensitive guy, girls have teased me, am I offended? Hell no. Actually I think it's attractive.

 

It isn't about what you think is attractive, its about what they think is attractive. And if they aren't going to like it, don't try it.

 

 

Teasing does all of this in one conversation, it usually happens several times. It brings out a "unique" emotion in girls, I don't know how to explain it.

 

I get the same thing several times in a conversation, and I get it from making them feel special, wanted, and cared for. Brings out unique emotions in girls too. All the benefits, none of the drawbacks. Can't beat it.

 

I think you think it's teasing like mean teasing. Playfully teasing is a whole different story, and girls identify it as flirting and not speaking for women but I think they like it. I don't think I've ever had any negative effects from teasing.

 

Playful teasing can easily cross the line and you aren't even aware. Your young, you'll cross that line eventually. I say, if you don't need to go there to get the same results, even just playfully, why do it?

[MetallicAguy]

Oh yeah, and its not like teasing doesn't work ask people on here that have used teasing like I'm pretty sure easyguy has used it he knows his stuff. Plus you can look up David DeAngelo articles with questions...they admit his stuff DOES work, if I can remember I think a woman commented on one stating that his stuff really DOES work.

 

Here's an article if your confused with it.

 

 

 

If you still don't understand it, whatever.

[easyguy]

Guys, just use whatever works for you.

 

Sheesh

[Hephaestus]

Ok, just to throw my 2 cents in... both works, depending on the situation.

 

If you know the girl well enough, you can tease her where appropriate.

If you cross a line accidentally (you'll know when you do), you can always call her up tell her that you were just teasing and didn't really mean it, you're sorry... etc. Don't suck up, just sound genuinely concerned.

 

Even if she says it didn't bother her, she will remember that you cared enough to call her and make sure she was ok.

 

It's a balance. There are times to tease and there are times to just be sweet and caring. Those times depend on the girl and the situation.

[asdf]

Everybody has their own style, and women look for different things. Honestly, I can't tease girls, even playfully, because I'm good looking and it makes me look unapproachable or too mean, even when they get it's a joke. When I "uglify" myself, I can do the teasing thing and it works, but I'm usually not in the mood to do that.

 

Everybody has their own way, and if they've gotten a lot of women (or men) from it, then more power to them, and maybe you can learn something interesting from them.

[skyteph]

Nice to know I'm the girl who always disagrees with you, Shysoul. I'm glad to have made a name for myself

 

Teasing playfully, in the flirty way we are talking about is totally different to normal teasing. This teasing is flirting, and even the most sensitive girls (for example my friend...god knows how she became /my/ friend lol) aren't offended if the flirting is done correctly.

 

If it crosses "the line" then it's no longer playful, flirty teasing, it's something else, and that something else isn't what we're talking about.

 

And Shysoul, seeing as your not a girl, but my friends and I are, shouldn't my word that at very least some (if not a majority) of girls don't mind as long as the flirting is done tactfully, be taken into account? I cannot of course speak for every woman, but you seem to have dismissed it.

 

And yes, Shysoul, you can get places by not playfully teasing (as you of course, pointed out), but that doesn't mean that playfully teasing can't get you just as far, if not further.

 

Really, if someone is offending girls by flirtily teasing, then maybe they're doing it wrong.

[Markers]

I haven't read all of this, but the point is teasing is not to hurt a girl! It's important to notice what difference there is between teasing and teasing that will make the girl feel bad.

[ShySoul]

skyteph,

 

Hun, you know you have a special place in my heart. You remind me of my cousin and all the youngsters still trying to figure things out. Seven years ago most people I know thought the same way, now opinions are changing. So really, as much as we disagree, I do like you. You challenge my opinions, and do a better job then the guys if you asked me.

 

Oops, that was complimenting you. Would you have preffered I tease you instead? 8)

 

Guys,

 

I'm just going to say a few of things here. I'm thinking of a conversation I just had with my girl. We're talking about going to spend the weekend together to see my favorite singer. I said that it would be spending the weekend with the two most beautiful girls in the world and asked her which is #1. The teasing answer that those sites and you guys have recommended would be to say the singer. Sorry, thats the wrong answer. She said the singer, even mentioned another singer I like after that. My response, told her its her cause she is the most beautiful girl in the world. Still get some humor, fun, and makes her feel great about herself.

 

Or if you want to tease, tease yourself. It works wonders. Shows you don't take yourself seriously.

 

metalicaguy, don't believe a word of that site. The guy is a con artist if ever there was one. Just read the disclaimer at the bottom of his page saying his advice should not be taken seriously. Or see if he ever once mentions being in a serious committed relationship himself. Or ask yourself how easy it is to make up testimonals and stick a couple initals to them. Or why he would feel the need to kick me off his list for writing a polite letter to him mentioning my success by following the opposite of his advice. If he really wanted to help people, he'd be presented all viewpoints, not just ones that help sell his products. You want to be a playboy, go ahead and listen to him. You want something real, you know in your heart what's right.

 

Now, I have to wonder if teasing really does get you further. I mean, being nice, no teasing, and complimenting got me pretty far. Holding a girl, cuddling with her most of the day, and... ready for this.... kissing her. I've got the success to back it up. So maybe ya'll should listen.

[ShySoul]

Just took a look at that article metalicaguy, are you kidding me?

 

In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman feeling a strong attraction to leave.

 

My girl was attracted to a jerk, and you know what helped her finally see he wasn't worth 2 cents? A combo of his arrogant, jerkish, behavior (teasing included) and my being super nice and supportive. He's long gone from the picture, I'm still in.

 

If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her *beep*."

 

Yes, girls really want to hear that the fashion police are after them. And come on, what do guys know about fashion anyways? Better responses: "You look great, but of course you look great in anything. It's not the dress that makes you look good, its your beauty that makes the dress look good." Or if you want some more humor in there, "You look great. Of course, my fashion sense leaves much to be desired/is stuck somewhere in the 80's/can't be trusted/etc." You compliment her, avoid ever remotely saying something negative about her, and even get in some humor. And trust me, if you like her you will find her beautiful no matter what, so why not just be honest?

 

Women are attracted to "alpha male" types. We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.

 

Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room.

 

Got the humor, just showed that. Saying something like that in no way is giving away power, smothering or acting like a puppy (though what if she likes puppies and finds them cute? I mean, puppy dog eyes are pretty effective for getting what you want ). What you are doing is making her feel special, wanted, and loved. What girl doesn't want that? And you aren't giving away in "alpha maleness," your actually proving yourself to be the best kind of man... a gentleman.

 

You are interesting enough to talk to, but you're going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make me nervous in the slightest, I'm perfectly calm, and in fact, I'm so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I'm going to make fun of..."

 

Ahem, saying something like that doesn't mean her beauty makes you nervous. If you were nervous you wouldn't be able to say such sweet and touching things to her. If anything I find that people who have to resort to teasing or "playfully" making fun are really more nervous and are using it to cover up their insecurities. And also, I'm just using complimenting her beauty as the first example I thought of. It's always better to compliment something else, like her heart.

 

This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a woman if she's rich or famous, then when she says that she's not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you're not interested anymore.

 

If your resorting to hitting on cashers at a grocery store, you've got more important problems to worry about. And you do realize that telling a girl that them not being rich ruins their chances with you just makes you come off as an arrogant snob, who no one likes.

 

Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just kidding."... "Nice isn't good enough, I need RICH AND nice

 

Nope, what you do is come up with some crazy, insane, off the wall response. Like "oye with the poodles." That will get a laugh for sure. Your not being "wussy" or "mean" you are being unique. But it takes skill to do this stuff, most people aren't ready for such advance techniques.

 

Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting C0cky & Funny that it ignites the magical challenge/ attraction mechanism.

 

Yes, you get under her skin. But not in a good way. What I say is the stuff girls will think of before going to bed, putting them in a happy mood as they drift off to sleep. It creates good sensations inside them that is associated with you. What you say is the stuff that makes people say "the nerve of that guy, I hope someone slaps him hard for his attitude."

[jordan_2]

guys I'm gonna go half and half hear between ShySoul and MetallicaGuy...

 

I think that if you know your girl enoughl, or the girl that you like, you should be able to judge their character and see whether or not they even like being teased...

try it once, if tehy don't reposnd, then stop doing it,

but if they play along and laugh n such, then don't escelate the teases, because they become hutrful...

just make sure that you both knwo that its a joke....

this also means that u have to be a good judge of character as well...

[skyteph]

skyteph,

 

Hun, you know you have a special place in my heart. You remind me of my cousin and all the youngsters still trying to figure things out. Seven years ago most people I know thought the same way, now opinions are changing. So really, as much as we disagree, I do like you. You challenge my opinions, and do a better job then the guys if you asked me.

 

If I didn't know you better I'd think you were trying to pick me up...but thats not your style

[MetallicAguy]

Yes, girls really want to hear that the fashion police are after them. And come on, what do guys know about fashion anyways? Better responses: "You look great, but of course you look great in anything. It's not the dress that makes you look good, its your beauty that makes the dress look good." Or if you want some more humor in there, "You look great. Of course, my fashion sense leaves much to be desired/is stuck somewhere in the 80's/can't be trusted/etc." You compliment her, avoid ever remotely saying something negative about her, and even get in some humor. And trust me, if you like her you will find her beautiful no matter what, so why not just be honest

Sounds like your kissing her *** to me. How many times a day do you do this?

 

If your resorting to hitting on cashers at a grocery store, you've got more important problems to worry about

It's an example .

 

And you do realize that telling a girl that them not being rich ruins their chances with you just makes you come off as an arrogant snob, who no one likes.

I don't think you get it at all.

 

"the nerve of that guy, I hope someone slaps him hard for his attitude."

Attitude? .

[ShySoul]

If I didn't know you better I'd think you were trying to pick me up...but thats not your style

 

Well, I can't. One, your underage and I don't want to be arrested. Two, I'm already taken and she wouldn't like me picking up another girl.

 

See, I'm flirting, putting smiles on girls faces... and I never have to tease. And don't say that it won't get be anywhere, in this case its all in the name of fun.

 

Sounds like your kissing her *** to me. How many times a day do you do this?

 

Well, I can carry on hour long conversations that leaves us smiling and laughing, having a blast, but not resorting to teasing. And when shes returning lines like that, you've got something special going on. I'm just being honest, I don't know anything about fashion and she does look great in anything.

 

I don't think you get it at all

 

So you would like it if a female you don't know came up to you and insinuated that she wouldn't go out with you cause your not rich enough? Some people have strange turn ons.

 

And Metallicguy, may I assume that you use these methods? If so, did you have any success recently? I sure have.

[MetallicAguy]

That's the guy version of teasing...lol, girls have a different way of teasing, same core concept. I haven't had success RECENTLY but that's because I'm not interested in a lot of the girls..it takes me a while to decide if I like a certain girl or not. Before summer when I was in school it worked yes and haven't had any times where it was mistaken for seriousness or... attitude .

[MetallicAguy]

You know if you claim to have this success recently, what actually happened?

[JRM]

ShySoul, from what I've read, you attract girls with your niceness as friends rather than something more. Of course, all people are different, and you probably attract some girls with your method of flirting, but I've tried c0cky and funny myself, and have seen other guys of many different ages do it, and it does work.

 

Also, the point isn't to be a jerk. It's to help girls/women have a little fun talking to you and getting comfortable. Bombarding her with compliments and charming stories tend to get boring.

 

Playfull teasing isn't just blatant insults. You just poke fun at her in a friendly way. David DeAngelou even made a reference to the school yard when you were a kid. Remember how you and one girl would tease and fight and say you hate each other? You would pull her pigtails and she would kick you in the nads, but what was really going on? You liked each other, and couldn't resist each other, no matter how much you told yourself otherwise. The same principle applies later in life. The point of playfull teasing isn't to insult or degrade anyone, it's to create sexual tension.