easyguy Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 Do others feel this way sometimes? Some days you want to start a relationship with someone, and then like a week later you would prefer to be single and by yourself? Or is that just a common thing among anti-social (I'm not really, but I'm not outgoing) people? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostlove Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 i feel like that all of the time...for me it's partially because i have extreme mood swings, but i guess it could be for different reasons in different people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MetallicAguy Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 Well I think you feel like that due to the pressure of a relationship, like your over-stressing it. Relax. I've never felt like that though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
easyguy Posted August 23, 2005 Author Share Posted August 23, 2005 It's not that. I am relaxed, it's just some days I would rather be by myself. Maybe it's laziness, and/or disinterest in trying to start a relationship with someone. I have no problem asking girls out. I've rarely asked girls out, but I'm not afraid to ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strictly4MyGrind Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 You aint right for a realtionship right now go out have fun get over whatever you need to do and then when your ready to settle down put work into a realtionship cause they take effort and time and commitment then go find a girl youd wanna be with forever. for now go have fun be free. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MetallicAguy Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 Yeah I guess your right. Ever get the feeling like when you post a new thread you know the answer to your own problem but you feel better if someone gives you advice? Lol, it sounds to me like this thread is like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saint_saul Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 I'm definitely like that. What's worse is I sometimes get that way when I'm in the middle of a relationship with someone, and then it's like "err.. yeah, I'd rather be alone right now" (not just for the moment, for a while). I'm not very out going either, definitely somewhat anti-social, so maybe it has something to do with the fear or lack of motivation. Personally, I really value my "alone time" and independence, so I think I know why I have problems with it. Sometimes it's disinterest, too. But, just wondering, are you somewhat egotistical/proud? That may be the reason why. Or perhaps you're protective of your independence. Just thinking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
easyguy Posted August 23, 2005 Author Share Posted August 23, 2005 I'm really into playing music. I do it all the time, and if I'm not playing, I'm listening to music, or doing something else laid back. Sometimes I get sidetracked and meet a girl, start liking her, and then I lose interest in her after about a week, not for the commitment factor, but because I'd just prefer not to start a relationship. That's part of the reason I guess why I dont take rejections so hard. I typically get over it in a couple days. I like being single, but then sometimes I don't. I'm quite humble, actually. I'm not outgoing, but I'm not super shy. I can talk to people if I want, but I like being in solitude (not in a dark kind of way). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saint_saul Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 But why would you "prefer" not to start a relationship? I mean, what exactly is stopping you? Maybe you just haven't found the right "one" yet. Usually the more interested in a person you are, the harder it is to go back to normacly, or pass up the opportunity to start a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
easyguy Posted August 23, 2005 Author Share Posted August 23, 2005 Maybe. Maybe "prefer" is the right word. It's more of a disinterest than anything. And it might be because she isn't the "one", but I haven't been on a date before/had a girlfriend, so how would I know what I want? I get almost a spiritual high from playing music, and a true love for it. I doubt that would have anything to do with it. I've only been interested in girls for about a year now, so maybe it's best to just wait and get my life in as best of shape as possible. I do have confidence around girls, and am not afraid to show it. I just sometimes feel that I'm happy enough withOUT a girlfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
highlighter Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 it's really strange but i have the same problem...like i really start to get to know someone, hang out a lot and become very close to relationship status and then i start to think a lot and i lose interest in the person and dont want a relationship..like this is a continuous pattern, its crazy i can't make up my own damn mind!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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