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[1love2k5]

i heard that if you do a lot of sleeping around or if you were to sleep with your family member, or someone else's family member that you're labeled as a s***. is this true? i've slept with 2 of my ex's family members, (brother and cousin) but it didn't really mean anything. (he wanted me to have a threesome with his brother) does this make me/someone else a bad person?

[justpaisley]

Sl***y is in the eye of the beholder. Some people might think you're sl***y, some won't.

 

As long as you're comfortable with who you are AND you aren't hurting anyone, don't worry about what other people say about you.

[BellaDonna]

Views about morals and right and wrong will vary from person to person. When you throw sexuality into the mix it usually becomes even more complicated.

 

Although I would not personally do what you mentioned- I still don't think it makes you a "bad person". I guess you should ask yourself (not others)if you hurt anyone in the process, how YOU feel about it, etc.

 

I would agree that women are often labeled with the "s" word- but my question is what about the men who are equal, agreeing counterparts....? So I guess that would make the ex, the brother, and the cousin an "s" too....?

 

It's all about how this makes you feel, not anyone else's opinion. At the end of the day- it's how you feel inside. If you feel "bad" then keep that in mind for future behavior, for your own self. If you are fine with it- then don't let others bring you down,

 

BellaDonna

[Day_Walker]

What you are asking is a completely subjective question, some may say yes others may say no. Another subjective question is what makes a person bad? As far as your behavior is concerned it seems questionable to sleep with family members of an ex but that doesnt mean I would call you the "s" word for such activities.

[TheSmilingTurnip]

i heard that if you do a lot of sleeping around or if you were to sleep with your family member, or someone else's family member that you're labeled as a s***. is this true? i've slept with 2 of my ex's family members, (brother and cousin) but it didn't really mean anything. (he wanted me to have a threesome with his brother) does this make me/someone else a bad person?

 

You are not a bad person. Nothing really makes anyone a 'bad person' short of killing other people/acting without regard for anyone else's feelings, etc. The thing is, humans aren't like swiffer cloths, know what I mean? "If you have made mistakes...there is always another chance for you...you may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down." Mary Pickford said that, and she was right.

 

After all was said and done with these two guys, how did YOU feel about it? How did they treat you? Did they still respect you? Would you be ashamed if they told anyone about your participation? That's what makes the grade as to whether it was right or wrong. And, finally, did you hurt anyone, including yourself, in the process? When you answer those questions honestly, then you will know.