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Okay, this has come up a few times but when I've asked about, I've never gotten any answers...

 

  • How are gorgeous girls/women different and/or what is it that makes them different?
  • What do you think gorgeous girls/women think, feel, want, that's different from the non-gorgeous girls?
  • Do you ever go after the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?
  • Do you ever bypass the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?
  • What kind of guys do you think gorgeous girls/women want?
  • What kind of treatment do you think the gorgeous girls/women want/like?

 

I'm really interested in answers from all ages.

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How is a gorgeous girl different? She's hotter than the other girls.

Do I go after gorgeous girls just cuz they are gorgeous? I don't chase after anybody but yeah I will take interest purely on looks.

Will I take interest in a girl who isn't as good looking over the gorgeous girl. I don't find conventional looks that attractive a lot of times. And yeah, personality is a major factor in sex appeal and even physical attraction.

Gorgeous girls expect men to fall all over em. And they usually do.

They are more impressed when a man is unimpressed with them but (not neccesarily) obnoxious about it. Of course I don't mind being obnoxious. If their personality is a toliet bowl they aren't good for much more than sex anyway.

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How are gorgeous girls/women different and/or what is it that makes them different?

Truthfully I would have to say I don't think there is a thing a generic beauty. I think every guy will have a different opinion. Many times those opinions will be similar but little things that guys would notice to get to that stage would most likely be different. Personally if a girl who I believe to be good looking, acts normal and not like a spoilt brat who deep down believes that you will be instantly attracted to her and starts playing games to test your level of interest even though you may not be interested in her at all. I don't want to sound too cliche, but beauty and attractive qualities are not necessarily skin deep.

What do you think gorgeous girls/women think, feel, want, that's different from the non-gorgeous girls?

I think that if a gorgeous girl thinks any different to a normal girl then she knows she's hot, and this is not good. She should just be comfortable with herself and stop trying so hard to be beautiful in everyone's eyes. The best looking women I know (apart from my girlfriend) are very VERY ugly inside. They for some reason feel that they are higher than most and that they have the right to be rude to those that they deem less attractive than themselves. This is laughable behavior if you ask me. All of this could have come from the amount of attention they received, but I think she boosted her ego too quickly on perhaps the wrong sort of attention.

 

Do you ever go after the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?

A good looking girl will attract my attention, but 80 - 90% of good looking women (whom I would deem good looking) tend to know it and instantly it makes them very difficult people to get on with. I also find that girls in their teens that focus way too much on their looks and getting the guys, learn much harder lessons later on in life as a result of this, and the kind of mind they've developed by doing this also turns out to be very destructive.

Do you ever bypass the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?

Well I'm in a relationship so I don't have a problem passing by someone on the street whom I deem good looking.

What kind of guys do you think gorgeous girls/women want?

Women who know they are gorgeous go for men who also think they're hot. They pair up, they cheat and I think think just like everything else in their life the "love" is just skin deep.

What kind of treatment do you think the gorgeous girls/women want/like?

They just want to be told that they are good looking all the time. They hate, absolutely HATE to be in the company of other women they deem more attractive than them. They get very defensive, and it upsets them. You have to feel sorry for them, and I would feel like helping them get it sorted, but they're so confused that they would bite the hand of anyone less attractive than them that tried to help.

 

Example, take any stereotypical teen high school or college movie. You have usually have a group of good looking girls who team up and are extremely vain. They wouldn't be caught dead hanging out with anyone less attractive than themselves, and hate those who are more attractive than they. They are only friends because they don't see eachother as a threat on a skin level.

 

So in conclusion, I'm a guy, in his mid 20s, have had many years to analyse the behaviour of my peers and on this topic this is the conclusion I've reached.

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You can't categorize all gorgeous girls in the same boat. Some are obnoxious snobs, while others are just normal women, looking for the same thing as anyone else.

 

My friend is from latter category and it is something we've talked about in the past, so I can tell you what she says about it.

 

Most 'regular' guys don't approch her, because they are intimitated by her. How awful to be rejected by a gorgeous woman??? Easier to get a rejection from a non-gorgeous girl, right??? The guys that DO approach her are obnoxious guys who are in 'love' with themselves. They don't fear a NO, because they think they are better looking than her.

 

Thus, she has trouble meeting men and the ones she does meet, are not her type. Sad.....

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That is very sad, and all I can say is that it's a pity there are so many other girls (and guys too) out there making her life difficult. It is because of so much of the former you described that people have lost hope in the latter even existing. Normal guys are intimidated. They will watch how your friend behaves. Actually now even I sound like I'm generalising and to be honest this is something that I don't think we can generalise on, and that's the problem to begin with. People do generalise and it's not fair.

 

For example the qualities in me that I like, don't have much to do with my appearance. I don't think I'm ugly but I wouldn't enter any beauty contest, not because I don't think I'd win or anything, but because I don't need to know if I'm better or less good looking than anyone else. It's not that important. I met a girl who fell in love with me for things that I deem important, where many others didn't even give me a chance. She saw them straight away and for that I think she's brilliant.

 

When anyone (this is not just related to looks), feels that they have the right to put themselves above anyone else, then they have a complex that is only going to be mostly descructive to themselves in the long run.

 

wynterose, I say with your friend give it time. Normal, decent guys are bound to notice sooner or later for her personality as well as her looks. Perhaps she needs to change where she's socialising to put her in a position where she is more likely to meet normal guys.

 

Being good looking and knowing you are good looking are two very different beasts.

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anotherperson... thanks for your post. Would you believe, that she has turned to online dating, because she wants men to get to know her 'personality' first. I told her to be very careful because there are alot of 'normal' guys online who become 'players'. It's all so easy for both sides to be decieving, isn't it???

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Yes it is, yet I completely see her reasoning for doing so. Personally I don't think I would online date, because often I think a lot of what you read online is more idealistic than real. People find it easier to lie about themselves when hiding behind a screen. Just tell your friend to be careful, I'm sure she will be.

 

How about instead of waiting to be chatted up by vain guys, she makes the move in the real world to chat up someone that she would like to be with. In this day and age it doesn't always have to be the guy doing the chatting up. I've had girls chat me up in the past, and if I have no interest I will be as careful as possible letting them down. By the time I was finished with them I would have them feeling like a million bucks and probably on the track to meet someone else.

 

Does your friend have any male friends, who are single, and have qualities that she would be interested. I don't mean for her to just go think of someone who she's been friends with for years and all of a sudden switch her view of them for the sake of starting a relationship, but perhaps the person she's after the most is right in front of her and she hasn't realised it.

 

Personally I woudn't be as quick to turn to the net to find love. The net has it's advantages, but often unapparent disadvantages. Can you trust the person you're talking to. You have to decide I suppose. I mean in everything I've said I've told and gave my 100% honest opinion. However considering you don't know me, you have no idea what kind of person I am, you could never know if I'm am actually being honest. Its easier to know if you're face to face with someone to judge their character. In the past I remember talking to someone online and they created an absolutely fantastic picture in my head of their personality, etc. They sounded too good to be true, but when I thought about how "too easy" it was, and the fact that out of all the people I met in real life up to that were unable to create such an impact I decided that I was being fooled. I cut my losses and stopped talking to people like that online.

 

Now we're kinda hijacking this thread, so I appologise for that. But I hope that I've been of some help.

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People find it easier to lie about themselves when hiding behind a screen.

 

100% agree

How about instead of waiting to be chatted up by vain guys, she makes the move in the real world to chat up someone that she would like to be with.

I asked her about that , but she's too shy and she said that when she got up the nerve to do it, she ended up saying stupid things and looked like a fool. You know, jokes that are not funny and such...lol

 

I've had girls chat me up in the past, and if I have no interest I will be as careful as possible letting them down. By the time I was finished with them I would have them feeling like a million bucks and probably on the track to meet someone else.

Believe me... your one of the rare ones. She went up to a guy once and he looked at her, put his hand up to her face and said... DONT THINK SO! and left her standing there looking the fool

 

 

Now we're kinda hijacking this thread, so I appologise for that. But I hope that I've been of some help.

 

I'll show her your posts, maybe it will encourage her Thanks

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I dont think they are different, it seems that women want the same thing. It seems that they are treated differently by other people just because of their looks. This can effect their attitudes and they way the end up treating people. The trick is to not treat them different and then you will be surprised how they respond.

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Now we're kinda hijacking this thread, so I appologise for that. But I hope that I've been of some help.

Actually I found ALL of your comments relevant and helpful, including the dating advice. So it still seems on topic to me. Thanks.

 

So... are there any others? I'd like to here from as many as possible. When I ask people this question face to face, it seems the question makes them uncomfortable and the answers they give seem less honest or forthcoming. This seems like a good place to get some honest answers from several perspectives. If there are any more comments I'd appreciate them as well.

 

And if it matters, I'm 49, but like I said, I'm interested in answers from all ages.

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Gorgeous women are no different then any other women. They all want the same things... to feel special, loved, cared for, understood.

 

I've always gone after gorgeous girls, because when I start to like someone I will naturally find them gorgeous. If you are talking about the stereotype of what a gorgeous person looks like, then I don't go for it. But I think everyone is gorgeous, in their own way. And what makes someone really gorgeous isn't whats on the outside, its on the inside.

 

Everyone is gorgeous to someone. It's silly to think about it or set yourself about on some artifical basis.

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How are gorgeous girls/women different and/or what is it that makes them different?

I'm not gorgeous, but I grew up with a few highly attractive friends and what makes them different isn't their physical beauty, but how they feel about it. Some rely on it as source of self-esteem. Others see it as mere packaging. While others wield it as a means to an end. In other words, generalizations can't be made. It depends on the woman.

 

What do you think gorgeous girls/women think, feel, want, that's different from the non-gorgeous girls?

I think they want the same things as other women, but all things being equal they have a slightly easier time of attaining those goals, because others are naturally drawn to their beauty and seem to be at their complete disposal upon first contact.

 

On the other hand gorgeous women have to deal with issues that other women may not: for instance they may have to weed through more suitors to find someone who genuinely likes them for them vs. their looks. Conversely if they're "too gorgeous" they might not be asked out as much by men who are intimidated and may have more problems making friends with other women because of a jealousy factor.

 

Do you ever go after the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why? Do you ever bypass the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?

No and no. I'm an equal opportunity friend maker.

 

What kind of guys do you think gorgeous girls/women want?

The same kind all women want: someone who touches our hearts like no one else can and who loves and understands us, quirks and all.

 

What kind of treatment do you think the gorgeous girls/women want/like?

I think every woman wants to be treated with kindness and respect, but I have noticed that if you're really pretty and are used to guys fawning on you, then yes, it is intriguing when a guy doesn't. But whatever intrigue exists is fleeting, compared to the intrigue of being engaged on a higher level. Most guys don't know how to engage a woman's mind and spirit, so when it happens, it's highly impressive regardless of whether you're a gorgeous woman or not.

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Thanks to all of you... really.

I also have lots of opinions on this, but I was really interested in the thoughts of others this time, so for me this is really about listening. And I really do appreciate all the input.

 

Do you ever go after the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why? Do you ever bypass the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?

No and no. I'm an equal opportunity friend maker.

Thanks smallworld... made me laugh.

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I have a couple of girlfriends who are considered "gorgeous", and they are fantastic. In fact, when the three of us go out, I find that it's the less attractive women who give us a hard time. This is not to say that I think that I'm 'special' or gorgeous in any way either, but I find that we get a lot of dirty looks and snarky comments from other female onlookers. I don't particularly care about that, but I sometimes wonder if these women understand that we're all the same when stripped to the bone.

 

I've known a couple girls who are up their own butts, but most are fairly cool when you get to know them.

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Girls I know that you would calssify as really good looking often tell me they have a hard time meeting guys they want to meet because guys are intimidated by them. The only guys they get trying to "chat them up" are the players.

 

I am not surprised by the online dating story earlier in the thread.

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  • How are gorgeous girls/women different and/or what is it that makes them different?
By definition, they're gorgeous. Physically more attractive. More sexually desirable.
 
  • What do you think gorgeous girls/women think, feel, want, that's different from the non-gorgeous girls?
  • I think most of them prefer a challenge. They usually get a lot of guys hitting on them, which means they get to be very selective. It also means that they are used to it, and are likely to be bored with an ordinary guy making an approach. They've also developed methods to quickly filter out guys who are undesirable, because they don't have the time to get to know every guy who approaches them.
     
  • Do you ever go after the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?
  • I have. Cause she's hot. I was amazed at how interesting and smart the most beautiful woman I ever knew was, when I had just assumed she was just a girl with good looks, but without any other redeeming features.
     
  • Do you ever bypass the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?
  • No. I'd bypass if she had a boyfriend or if she wasn't my type.
     
  • What kind of guys do you think gorgeous girls/women want?
  • Usually, I think most of them are attracted to guys who are different in some way. Who are confident and comfortable around them (a lot of guys get nervous or fake around them). What they want may be quite a bit different. There are exceptions.
     
  • What kind of treatment do you think the gorgeous girls/women want/like?
  • It would differ, depending on a woman. Some are more romantic than others. Some are more insecure than others. It varies.

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    Why are people so concerned with how "gorgeous" people are? You can't generalize about such a large and vague topic as that. Some may be stuck up, some may be incredible down to earth. Some may get hit on alot, some may never get approached. It really all comes down to the individual and his or her personality. And until someone can come up with an example of a person everyone considers gorgeous, I have to wonder what the question is even asking? What really makes someone gorgeous? How can you honestly distinguish someone as gorgeous and someone else as not?

     

    The important thing is to not think about others, compare yourself to them, separate people into attractive/average/unattractive. Instead, focus on yourself and what makes you a gorgeous person. Because when it all comes down to it, we are all gorgeous.

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    [*]How are gorgeous girls/women different and/or what is it that makes them different?

    The primary thing tha makes them different for the most part is their looks.

     

    [*]What do you think gorgeous girls/women think, feel, want, that's different from the non-gorgeous girls?

    It really depends on the girl. Some may use their looks for attention while others try to hide it. But I think for the most part the more popular the girl the more tenacy she would have to use her looks for her own greed.

     

    [*]Do you ever go after the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?

    I only go after a gorgeous girl if she is not saying "look at me guy I am h0t and every guy wants me". I am not a flashy guy nor do I use my height nor do I show off to get girls. Yes I know guys have to impress a girl some, but I am not going to go bonkers doing it.

     

    [*]Do you ever bypass the gorgeous girl specifically because she's gorgeous, and if so, why?

    If she is being flashy with it and thinks that every guy wants her becuase of her looks I go more than just bypass her, I don't even give the light of day. I know it may sound mean, but girls have been mean to me and I have learned that I need to put up walls and even have some offenisve "weaponary" when dealing with girls, espeically the gorgeous ones.

     

    [*]What kind of guys do you think gorgeous girls/women want?

    I know this may sound sterotypical, but I see it pratically every day and it does piss me off somewhat. I would say that gorgeous girls either go with the "hunk" or the hot guy or the guy not so good looking but has money. Very rarely do I see a hot girl with an average guy that does not have money. I know there are hot girls that are out there that do date the average guy, but they seem to be hard to find.

     

    [*]What kind of treatment do you think the gorgeous girls/women want/like?

    Depends on the girl and the suitation. If the girl is at a club she wants as much attention as possible. But if she is with her parents she may not any attention at all. I think some gorgeous girls want to be treated as daddy's little girl at get everything they ask for. While others think that they should be treated like god or like a princes due to their looks, and others want to be treated like normal.

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    Well, this is still very interesting/educating.... and appreciated.

     

    And the pics are especially interesting. ... funny.

    Thanks asdf. That adds another dimension to this.

     

    And ShySoul, do you assume the questioner considers herself gorgeous? You seem to be the only one using the "you" pronoun in your responses. I have various reasons for asking the questions, and I'm guessing that my reasons are probably not the ones you might think?

     

    And here's another question/consideration...

    Is everybody here caucasian?

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    Hey Miss M, Glad I could make you laugh!

     

    I've noticed this post is like a Rorschach ink blot test that reveals a lot about ourselves, our motivations, what we value in others, and how we define a woman's worth, etc. when we think we're merely expressing our opinions about "gorgeous" women. I'm interested in hearing your answers to the same questions, because I'm extremely curious as to the intent behind this questionnaire.

     

    As for asdf's photos, the girl has an ideal hip-waist ratio which is attractive because it indicates fertility, but I'd like to know why guys find this 'deer caught in headlights' look so alluring? I honestly don't get it. The guy is Richard Simmons, exercise guru who once battled his own weight loss problems and has turned it into his mission to help others with the same problem. Yes he's in it to make a buck too and yes at times he can be a little too "peppy", but his heart seems to be in the right place, so what's not to like?

     

    If I had to define "gorgeous" visually, it'd be Faith Hill. Btw, I'm asian.

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    Miss M, when I say "you" I'm directing my comments to whoever is reading it. It's not specifically at any one person. I just find the whole notion of labeling certain people "gorgeous" and others as not to be silly and artifical. We'll all have different tastes. Asdf thinks that girl is gorgeous, I don't. Pretty maybe, but there are pretty girls all over the place and thats still subjective.The girl I love wouldn't meet the stereotype of what a gorgeous gal looks like, but to me she is the most gorgeous person there is. It's all so subjective, so there's really no point in worrying or thinking about it.

     

    If pressed to to go for someone more in touch with the standard images of beauty, I'd have to go with one Jessica Andrews. But even then I didn't think she was "gorgeous" based on looks, her looks were simple cute. I found the voice (shes a singer) and personality gorgeous, then the looks.

     

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    And I'm caucasian, african american, some french and even some indian.

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    Miss M, when I say "you" I'm directing my comments to whoever is reading it. It's not specifically at any one person. I just find the whole notion of labeling certain people "gorgeous" and others as not to be silly and artifical.

    Okay ShySoul, my apologies for misunderstanding you. But the reason I started this thread is because people do seem to categorize gorgeous girls differently, and I genuinely wanted to explore that, to ask why, and maybe even to inspire someone to contemplate it for themselves in a way they usually don't. I don't agree with all the labeling either, and there are a lot of posts here that I disagree with, but I wanted everyone's input, even those with whom I disagree. And I thought it was very important to bring it up, to discuss it. That seemed more useful than just dismissing it as silly.

     

    I'm interested in hearing your answers to the same questions, because I'm extremely curious as to the intent behind this questionnaire.

    Hey smallworld, I feel like you, that this is like the Rorschach ink blot test. Absolutely. And also all the rest you said about what it indicates about the one making the comments.

     

    The questionnaire... it was inspired by 2-3 posters who specifically mentioned "gorgeous girls" as if they categorized and treated them differently. And it seemed to have been an off-handed comment, as if it was the norm for them to put gorgeous girls in a different category without a thought as to why they did that.

     

    It was also inspired because there have been times in my life when I was told I was a gorgeous girl. And I say, "I was told" because I just couldn't see it, and would come back home to check the mirror time and again, still not seeing it. Either I had a distorted view of myself, (as I was also told), or else everybody was lying. Now that I'm older, and fatter, with swollen ankles and cellulite, it's even more difficult to for me to see. I've also been told I was all of the negative assessments that appear in this thread. And I've been told I was also the positive comments that appear here as well, all based simply on how I look. I don't know if I'll ever stop being amazed when people draw quick conclusions about me based on outward appearances.

     

    The race question is interesting to me because I'm African-American, black. When I think of gorgeous girls, I typically don't think of white women. I think of women like Vanessa Williams, Chaka Khan, Tina Turner, Halle Berry, all gorgeous, but in very different ways. And I also think of my mother, still very gorgeous and turning the guys heads at 72. The pics asdf put up reminded me that we all have an image in our heads, and we don't realize that our images don't match the images of the others, but that probably seldom occurs to us when we discuss this.

     

    I think gorgeous girls can't be easily categorized under one umbrella because they're all different. It's true they do get more attention, and that attention tends to affect how they regard themselves. A huge amount of that attention is negative, so it's just as likely that a gorgeous girl feels bad about herself for being gorgeous as it is likely that she feels good about herself for being gorgeous. It just depends on which side of the assessment her self-awareness falls. And there are even a lot of guys who specifically find delight in abusing gorgeous girls just because of how they look. I just haven't known any gorgeous girls who regard how they look as an advantage, a way to get more guys, or a reason to look down on other women, but that might be a racial thing. Gorgeous black women in my crowd just don't typically mistreat their sisters that way. But there are a few black women who feel inferior to gorgeous girls and will reject them or mistreat them for being gorgeous. And I don't know about all black women, or in different parts of the country. There tends to be a diverse reaction in the black community as well.

     

    And I also agree that gorgeous girls have to weed through a whole lot of extra bad guys to find a good one. And there are a whole lot of guys who do bypass her just because of how she looks, which is another irony. I said often in other posts that those guys who bypass her just make more room for the types of guys who have no qualms about mistreating her.

     

    And whenever I do observe a gorgeous girl who thinks her looks are valuable, using that to get attention, I usually feel sorry for her because she seems to be someone who is crying out for love in a way that will give her just the opposite.

     

    Thanks again all. This has been very interesting for me.

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