The "L" Word

[badmotorfinger]

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7 months. We went out in high school about 5 years ago, so we're pretty close considering we have a lot of history together. Everything is great with our relationship except for the fact that he hasn't said the "L" word yet. I feel like if he feels that way towards me, then he will say it. But, I'm kinda getting impatient. I've been so determined this whole time that I wouldn't say it first. I've always wanted him to say it first. But now, it's so hard just to hold it in. Every minute I am with him I get the urge to say it. I guess in a way I'm just really scared that he might not say it back or if he does say it he won't mean it. Any advice?

[asdf]

sorry, but i make it a rule never to say it first. ever, ever, ever. just because irefuse to feel that way about somebody who doesn't feel that way about me, and i wouldn't know unless she said so first.

 

i understand that this line of logic can also apply to girls, so how about both sexes agree that men have to do the initiating/asking out, and girls have to do the "i love you" thing first?

[MetallicAguy]

I believe that you should only tell your bf/gf "I love you" only when you mean it...that's probably how he looks at it too. If not, then he's more than likely increasing the tension by not saying it yet (eventually he's going to have too lol 7 months is a pretty long time to wait to say it) .

[sasha505]

I wouldn't focus on it so much personally.

 

Guys generally express the fact that they love you in other ways that aren't as blunt as saying "I love you".

Men tend to like to just do things and experience them rather than sitting around thinking and talking about them. I.e: he'd rather just love you without even realising he does and by showing it in little everyday things.

[darkblue]

sorry, but i make it a rule never to say it first. ever, ever, ever. just because irefuse to feel that way about somebody who doesn't feel that way about me, and i wouldn't know unless she said so first.

 

i understand that this line of logic can also apply to girls, so how about both sexes agree that men have to do the initiating/asking out, and girls have to do the "i love you" thing first?

 

I make sure I'm 'in Love' when I say it; thereforeeee, If she says she isn't - then I know my feelings are on a different level and can question the relationship. But most of the time - when you are in love - your partner is.

 

asdf - If we did this, we'd have 100 boys a day on this forum asking how to ask out girls and 1000 girls a day asking when it's right to say 'I Love You'.

[RayKay]

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7 months. We went out in high school about 5 years ago, so we're pretty close considering we have a lot of history together. Everything is great with our relationship except for the fact that he hasn't said the "L" word yet. I feel like if he feels that way towards me, then he will say it. But, I'm kinda getting impatient. I've been so determined this whole time that I wouldn't say it first. I've always wanted him to say it first. But now, it's so hard just to hold it in. Every minute I am with him I get the urge to say it. I guess in a way I'm just really scared that he might not say it back or if he does say it he won't mean it. Any advice?

 

Have you thought that maybe he feels the same way YOU do? So neither of you are saying it hoping the other will...

 

Why don't you just say it....?

 

There are times I have said it first, other times they have said it first....but by the time either has said it the other person felt it too. You have "felt things out" to know if you are on the same page. Look at his actions and other things he does, do you feel he loves you?